This might be a little silly question but how exactly do we start seeing someone and tell them were poly?
I myself am not in any relationship atm never were, but I feel like If I were to get into one I should tell my s/o, how do you exactly do that?
(Of course there is a chance I'll be the one joining a polycule but still i would like to know how to tell someone intrested in me that)
So general advice is, "the sooner the better" and I tend to agree. Having to break up a relationship of months or years over a fundamental incompatibility here hurts and might even make the other person feel lied to 😬
How depends on what this relationship looks like prior. I just put it in my dating profile with I'm using an app 🔥 to find people. Saves the drama of having to say it myself, because people that aren't interested just swipe away.
If you're friends first, I would handle it as telling a friend. I've always had the types of friendships where I can text "yo I know i haven't dated anyone but I think I'm poly??" to them at a quarter till midnight and have them respond "1 how could you possibly know (genuine question) but 2 heyyy congrats that's sick". If that's not your situation, your mileage may vary, but I still think that's the better way to go than asking them out first and then opening yourself up to a second possible point of rejection by only telling them you're poly after.
If its someone you met IRL and you're flirting a bit but you're not really dating and you're not really friends so you're not sure what you're doing❓That to me is the hardest place to tread. I have traditionally gotten to a "so what are we" point and then if we agree we're something romantic, I respond that I'm stoked but I do wanna be clear ahead of time that I'm poly. Otherwise, end of the first date (if you want a second) is a safe bet. Just a "this went really well, but I do want to make sure we're on the same page📑 about what we want" and make it part of that discussion along with anything else that falls into that category.
I hope that helps!! Happy dating! 💌
Happy dating! 👩🏻🦰♥️🤴♥️👸
