A pinned post, by me, Beryl 🥳
Males are unwelcome in this space
First and foremost, I am a radical feminist. A part of this feminism is gender abolitionism. Before you can truly grasp gender abolitionism, you must understand that gender is not something about you specifically, but about society and how you interact with it.
Gender: a set of roles, behaviors, and expectations associated with sex and enforced through patriarchy to the benefit of men and the subjugation of women. Feminine things are associated with women and masculine associated with men. This is oppressive.
Sex: Biological categorization based on reproductive organs. Human sex is bimodal, and most people are clearly female or male, although some people do have combinations of primary and secondary sex traits that differ from what is considered typical.
Gender expression: how your personal behaviors and self-expression through things like your name and pronouns, fashion, and body modifications interact with gender, the social construct of roles and expectations associated with your sex. Your gender expression may align with your sex, which is gender conformity, or it might not, which is gender nonconformity. Many people are somewhere in the middle, and lots of people find nonconforming gender expression freeing and enjoyable. People should feel free to comfortably stray from gender norms.
Misogyny: the mistreatment of and hatred toward women.
Sexism: sex-based oppression and violence toward women on the grounds of their sex.
What is a woman?
A woman is an adult human female. I don't mean to be dismissive of anyone's feelings, but feeling that you're a cat doesn't make you a cat. You in fact cannot know what it feels like to be a cat because you have never been a cat. You can idealize a cat's lived experience based on your observations from the outside, but that's not the same as knowing what a cat's reality is like. The same is true of sex. At no point can a man know what it is like to be a woman, because womanhood is not a feeling, but a physical reality.
Brain sex is not real. Trans people do not have a "brain closer to that of cis people of the gender they identify as."
I don't believe in personal gender identity or a gendered soul, and nobody can change that.
"Anyone who feels like a woman" doesn't mean anything and is a useless definition, especially when we need to be worried about things like legislation regarding sex-based violence. How can we protect women from violence committed against them by men if we can't name the targets as women, the perpetrators as men, and the violence as sex-based? Insisting that trans-identified men are women makes the work of protecting women more difficult, removing meaningful sex-based protections that were hard-won.
I talk a lot about really awful things. I lived through a lot of really awful things. If I'd had a cock, most of those things would not have happened. That's the reality of being a woman.
I am not here for your entertainment. I am here because I want to talk to other women about real problems. I want community with women who understand me, and, most importantly, are not men.
I don't think anyone deserves to be the victim of a hate crime, and crime based on Gender-nonconfornmity should be prosecuted as a hate crime. Trans people do deserve to be protected in their self-expression. There is no wrong way to be a man, including if that involves a dress and she/her pronouns. You deserve safety, too. Centering men, even gender-nonconforming men, in discussions about feminism, women's liberation, and sex-based violence, however, is the opposite of the point.
If you want to be respected by women, stop talking about raping us. Terfbreaking/dykebreaking is gross and you should seek therapy if you're having thoughts about raping people. Also, this is further reason why trans-identified men cannot be allowed in women's spaces. So many of you openly fantasize about raping us, how can we possibly trust you?
If you have a penis, don't talk to me. That should be a simple enough boundary. We'll see how many of you fail to follow instructions.
