Recovery with Clove

21yo pagan doing my best to have a life that's not filled with misery, helped along by my beautiful, gorgeous, wonderful cat Clove

[saintshigaraki]

im so enamored with stories that portray love as something soft and kind because i do think that love at its core is an act of kindness. its part of the reason i prefer the idea of growing into love instead of falling in love because when i think of growing into love i think of a garden, like love is something to cultivate, to tend to daily, a steady progression of growth with some setbacks, a few dying leaves here and there, having to move to a bigger pot and a spot with more sunshine, but it’s still something that at the end of the month, or a year, or a decade, or a lifetime you can look at and see the product of your dedication, see exactly what it means to pour your heart into something. i just! love reading about kind love!

[morganharpernichols]

[sioltach]

Katie Kacvinsky, “First Comes Love”

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

[safe-haven-safe-place]

[markanthonypoet]

[zippyzstuff]

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

[llleighsmith]

want your own life dude! don’t long for anyone else’s life. even with the hardest most painful parts don’t pretend they’re not there, just fill your life up with as much of what you love what moves you what fulfills you what makes you happy and the hard shit becomes easier to deal with because you know there are all these things that keep you going. want your own life! it’s yours, only yours, no one else could have possibly been you isn’t that cool?

[heavyweightheart]

one reason why learning body respect is so powerful–and so discouraged by the mechanism of social control that is diet culture–is that when we learn to honor our bodies’ rights, needs, and wisdom, we become much more aware and less tolerant of violations in other areas of life. 

when we are attuned to our body’s need for rest, we are much more aware of the violence of even the 40 hour work week (ofc work is far more violent than that)

when we carve out our own permission to accept our body’s natural weight set point, demands that we shrink our personality, our voice, or our emotions in order not to cause social offense feel like much less acceptable constrictions

when we learn to value our natural hair and skin, and give up harmful rituals like chemical straightening or lightening (or the beliefs that underlie them), other ways in which we are required to harm ourselves–from a coerced gender presentation to living with the consequences of environmental racism–come into clearer focus as specifically targeted violence 

when we have compassion for our bodies and their vulnerability, we are more sensitive to mistreatment in personal relationships

the systems that make us sick and self-hating are political projects, enacted in ways that can be analyzed, understood, and changed. this movement is inward and outward, with the former supporting the latter (and vice versa). when our healing is rooted in wisdom and compassion and self respect, we inevitably turn those values outward, take them up against the structures which would strip them from us.

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

[self-healing]

i think the funniest and realist thing i’ve realized lately is how troubling idealization can be. every person is just… a person. the very people you want to impress or be apart of are just people. even if they seem wildly intimidating because of the way they look or because of their reputation, every one is just a person. human. as embarrassing, as remorseful and they are going through stages of growth just like you are. we only see what we want to see and then drown ourselves further in our own depression and we don’t have to.

[oaluz]

truly and i am learning the less i idealise others, the more willing i am to meet people where they are warts n all. and the more willing i am to show myself too and bring my whole self into things. my own embarrassment becomes a new normal and fine thing. stumbling becomes more endearing.

[welter-of-thoughts]

had a teacher once who told us “idealizing people is just as dehumanizing as demonizing them” and that stuck with me so much

[recoversuggestions]

growth isn’t always constant. relapses happen. it doesn’t erase all your success.

[thoughtkick]

“Everything’s a risk. Not doing anything is a risk. It’s up to you.”

— Nicola Yoon, Everything, Everything

[howelljenkins]

having to come to terms with the fact that love is not an everlasting performance in which you attempt to retain the attention of your significant other but rather a release of control and putting faith into them and trusting them to choose to stay with you no matter what you have to offer

[howelljenkins]

to love and be loved is to rest

[ninfu]

representation of a cat's diary

[dialupdad]

I’m learning how to ride the waves of my energy in order to conserve