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If you meet somebody and your heart pounds, your hands shake, your knees go weak, that’s not the one. When you meet your ‘soul mate’ you’ll feel calm. No anxiety, no agitation.

Monica Drake, Clown Girl (via thelovejournals)

Yup. I always say that you know it (the guy, the gal, the relaysh, whatever) is good because of what is absent.

Meaning: no anxiety around your own thoughts, no fear in how they are feeling, no wondering if you can or can’t text, no shame in sleeping with him too soon/ too late, no worries about your body being too thick/ thin, no suspicions about their honesty, no unresolved emotional baggage they are hurling at you, no doubt in your belief that you are worthy of them… of their love.

I used to think all that FUCKING NOISE listed above was what you had to deal with in the beginning to GET to the good stuff. But I was wrong; the good stuff can be there from the start.

thymoss

my therapist says make friends with your monsters, josé olivarez

redcatinsanfrancisco

I love this so much it made me hit the reblog button. First time in months and months and months. Also, hey guys 😊

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onlinecounsellingcollege

Two things to remember in life: Take care of your thoughts when you are alone, and take care of your words when you are with people.

Zig Ziglar (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

Erik and I went to Palm Springs for our second anniversary and it was wonderful. Pina coladas and swimming and walks and sleeping in. Too much wine and way too much room service. You know, all the good things. But what struck me most was the ride home. It's 8 hours from Palm Springs to SF. And it goes without saying that I can be completely myself around him. A side not most people see. It's actually something he and I talk about and something I have been exploring extensively in therapy for, um, ever?The way I present in the world and come across versus what is actually going on inside. This isn't uncommon or unique to me, but it's the level of the incongruence that we talk about a lot. Anyway, so we had about an hour left of the ride and I was making up songs and singing to Erik and yelling out all of his 87 nicknames and grabbing various body parts of his and rolling up and down the windows like a maniac because my temperatures range dramatically. Also I had a peach Snapple so I was burping a lot during all these shenanigans because beverages do that to me, and I kept bumping my elbow on the water bottle and dropping snacks in between the seat. And I had a glimmer of- I don't know- self consciousness? And I said something to the effect of "you've handled this for two years! Aren't you happy you signed up for this?" Literally without skipping a beat he laughed and said yes, and mentioned how I was quiet for a lot of the trip so this recent energy was no thing and that he loves me and we are almost home. I wish I could tell every person out there to wait for someone who will listen and love them when they feel cautious of being themselves. Please wait, they do exist. Someone who holds your hand and can simultaneously handle the road and your neuroses; someone who will smile and say "we are almost home."

#love #anniversary

pr1nceshawn

askebos

I’m very interested in emotions like sweetness, which have no place in the pantheon of educated concerns, and yet are very important to me. Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere — and I really don’t get on with machismo. I’m interested in sensitivity, and weakness, and fear, and anxiety, because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that’s what we are.

Alain de Botton (via h-o-r-n-g-r-y)

wilwheaton

From my friend, a woman, who lives in a red state.

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dailykos

House Republicans have now passed their abomination of a bill that strips health coverage from millions of Americans, with 217 of them voting in favor of it. Here’s how we can punish them.

hirakumblr

#votethemout

white-throated-packrat

Contributing to oppositional nominee funds for 24 vulnerable Republican representatives is a way to get them good and scared now, so they won’t try any more shenangians.

wilwheaton

Signal boost:

Contributing to oppositional nominee funds for 24 vulnerable Republican representatives is a way to get them good and scared now, so they won’t try any more shenangians.

This is so incredibly important, because they’ll be looking at fundraising, and so will the Senate.

These 217 House Republicans didn’t just tie themselves to a cruel and vindictive bill. They did it to prop up the most widely-despised president in the history of the country. They deserve to be destroyed, and they must be an example to anyone else who would take the same cruel and harmful actions in the future.

redcatinsanfrancisco

I just donated because this sends a message loud and clear. Every little bit helps.