Daddy of a Redfoot

My name is De. I am 30 years old, Canadian, and genderqueer. I prefer they/them pronouns. I write about a variety of topics, including but not limited to depression, mood disorders, anxiety, knitting, cross-stitch, crochet, folklore, paganism, writing, reconstructionism, history, and occasionally a few fandom things.

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TheEnbyPlanner: 2021 Bullet Journal Flipthrough

TheEnbyPlanner: 2021 Bullet Journal Flipthrough

I suggest we form a calming circle. It’s that time of year, when everyone is setting up their new planners and showing off their planner stacks and generally just falling in love with productivity and planning again. This is going to be the year when we all stick with it, right? Okay, so I have been really into setting up my bujo for the new year and have been watching bullet journaling and…

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TheEnbyCrafter: Needles

So, I went through my needle stash yesterday. I’ve been knitting for about fourteen years so I’ve been gathering needles for a long time, but to be really honest – I barely use them.

There are three types of needles – straight needles, circular needles, and double-pointed needles. Straights are what most people think of as knitting needles. Circs have rigid needles on either end of a long…

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Samhain with the Ancestors

Samhain with the Ancestors

I didn’t do a “5 things to do for Samhain” post this year – still taking a bit of a break from posting. But I did want to write a quite little something on this special day. Hallowe’en, Samhain, is a day for celebration, resolutions, candy, and spending time with your ancestors.

We don’t all have good history with our blood families. Sometimes our ancestors are chosen instead, spiritual…

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ThEnbyCrafter: Pattern: Hearts on Her Sleeves

ThEnbyCrafter: Pattern: Hearts on Her Sleeves

This pattern has been through many revisions in its nearly 11-year history. I originally wrote it for my wife, and I’ve incorporated this motif into many knitting items for her over the years. I’m happy to share it with you now. You can find a PDF version, optimised for printing, for sale on Ravelry – if you enjoyed the pattern, please consider buying the paid version!

Materials

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TheEnby: Taking a Break

TheEnby: Taking a Break

So I shared with y’all my comprehensive blog post schedule through the end of the year, all topics I’m really interested in writing about. But I need to be real honest with myself and realise it’s not at all feasible to keep up with that.

I’m in school now, to be a personal support worker – which I absolutely love. I work part time. And I’m Rita’s caregiver, which is probably my favourite…

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TheEnbyPagan: Five Things to Do for Mabon

TheEnbyPagan: Five Things to Do for Mabon

Autumn is here, and so is my second-favourite time of year: pumpkin spice latte season. This weekend we celebrate the autumnal equinox, the balancing point between light and dark, and we begin the descent into the dark cold of winter. We have so much to celebrate at this time of year.

Okay, I know, this year has been . . . a year. But that’s why we need celebrations like Mabon that help us focus…

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TheEnby: Joy

So I was catching up on my YouTube subscriptions, and Oh Hello posted a cute little video of ten (possibly eleven) things that bring her joy, no matter how small. That seemed like a good idea. I will do the same.

That’s Oh Hello, not Hello There.

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TheEnbyGamer: My Top 5 Games

TheEnbyGamer: My Top 5 Games

This post was actually pretty hard to start writing. I sat down to bust it out and realised that I actually had to figure out what my top five were. Should I only include games I’ve beaten? Stick to Switch games? What are my criteria? Easy? Hard? Good story? What if I missed a good one? What if I was inaccurate? 

It’s a very fraught topic, alright?

So these are five games which I…

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TheEnbyPagan: What is 'Celtic'?

TheEnbyPagan: What is ‘Celtic’?

So I want to write a book. This book will be a Celt 101 for Pagans book. A jumping-off point for personal growth, research, and faith, grounded in a factual and accurate bedrock of what Celtic means, the role of language, the history of the Celtic people, and the state of the current Celtic cultures. But specifically directed at new pagans who want to explore a Celtic path or take on a Celtic…

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TheEnby: Hwæt!

So you might have a noticed a slight tone shift over my last few posts, or maybe just a tone standardization. I’m exploring the idea of monetizing this blog without sacrificing my general vibe or the freedom to write about literally anything. 

But that might not have been clear.  What you might have noticed is that every one of them has begun with the word “so”. This is not a new verbal quirk of…

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TheEnbyCrafter: Stashbusters

Another of my very early patterns (cringe) that I have rewritten and updated. This is no longer my favourite thumb construction, but this little pattern is highly adaptable and perfect to use up scraps and odd balls of sock yarn that we all end up accumulating. While I knit the original in Noro Kureyon (in the days before long colour gradients were readily available), it would work in any…

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TheEnbyAddict: I Didn't Sign the Permission Slip for this Feels Trip

TheEnbyAddict: I Didn’t Sign the Permission Slip for this Feels Trip

I have a blog schedule.  I’ve worked it out so that I don’t post on the same subject twice in a row. I have topics planned through the end of December and scheduled.

But then something like this happens, and I have to respond to it. One of the top headlines in Canada this morning is that new guidelines for doctors have been published about how to treat obesity. You can read about it in the…

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TheEnbyAddict: Fear and the Dark Side

TheEnbyAddict: Fear and the Dark Side

So at a meeting of Overeaters Anonymous, the standard format has us reading from OA or AA literature together and then going around the room and sharing on what we had read. Or not sharing, if you aren’t up to it. There is usually a common theme to the shares, and usually nods of understanding and agreement as you speak, baring your soul and your guilty secrets to a room full of strangers. 

And…

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TheEnbyPagan: Five Things To Do For Lughnasadh

TheEnbyPagan: Five Things To Do For Lughnasadh

The Wheel of the Year keeps on turning, can you believe we’re almost into autumn already? Once again the holiday snuck up on me but I managed to wiggle in just before the deadline. So if you, like me, are terrible at celebrating the major holidays, try these five ideas for celebrating Lughnasadh (or Lammas if that is your thing).

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TheEnbyBorderline: The Demon BPD

TheEnbyBorderline: The Demon BPD

So I was hanging out in a Discord server the other day, I brought up my blog, someone asked what it was about, I replied mostly crafting and paganism with a bit of writing, addiction, and borderline. To which someone else felt the need to pop up and say, “I probably have that too but my doctor didn’t want to put something like that on my chart.”

Well fuck you too, I guess.

No, but really,…

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TheEnbyCrafter: Pattern - Octopussy Cat Toy

TheEnbyCrafter: Pattern – Octopussy Cat Toy

This was one of the very first patterns I ever wrote and shared on Ravelry. You’ll be seeing more of my patterns appearing here as I work on cleaning up my pattern store. You can find the pattern listing here. If you do end up making a couple of them, please create a project on Rav and share with us! 

This little cat toy is a super quick knit that works up well with any yarn and needles,…

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TheEnbyCaregiver: A Different Perspective on Spoons

TheEnbyCaregiver: A Different Perspective on Spoons

Today I want to talk about Spoon Theory a bit. You can read all about the origin of the Spoon Theoryhere, but basically it posits that chronically ill people, like Rita with her fibromyalgia, use and store energy differently than able-bodied people. It’s a great analogy, and one that many disabled people have made part of their identities, taking on the name spoonies and using spoons as a short…

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