- DNI if youâre: homophobe, racist, misogynistic, TERF/radfem, lesbophobe, transphobe, biphobe, aphobe, or if youâre (or support) someone who is a âbi lesbianâ, âbi gayâ or someone who is a man and identifies as lesbian.
- IF YOUâRE A MINOR PLEASE BLOCK THE TAG #lgbt nsfw (I accept receiving nsfw asks as long as itâs not about men)
- Hereâs the link of my sapphic server on discord (lesbians and other sapphics, and also minors can join)
- Hereâs the link that explain very well why the âbi lesbianâ label is problematic.
- I talk about my own experiences, LGBTQ+ related issues, and my asks are always open to anyone who wants to talk/vent whatever.
- If you want to discuss anything that you donât really agree with me then itâs okay, as long as youâre not being rude and prejudiced like people who usually want to argue with me are.
- Most posts are more focused on lesbianism, but thereâs a few about the queer community and other identities. So even if you want to talk about other identities my blog is also a safe space for that.
- My dms are always available
- Thereâs some people who use specific emojis whenever they send anon asks, so if you want to do that so I can know which anon Iâm talking to feel free to choose an emoji and do that! Emojis that were used already: âď¸đ§¸đđŤđđ˝đđĽŠđŚđŚđ¸đťđđśđŞťđąđşđĽđ¸đĽđđđ¸âď¸đŚ¤đď¸đ§ŹđŚđ
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- #stephanie talks : basically all my posts I vent about stuff are tagged with this.
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- #comphet : experiences/issues related to comphet and understanding more fake attraction vs real attraction.
- #cultural shock : just me talking about differences of my cultures with others.
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- #ask game tag : reblogs of ask games in case anyone wants to do it.
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- #pride flags : posts showing pride flags and their meanings.
- #tik toks : videos usually lgbtq+ related.
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- #queer tropes
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- #american moment
- #my headcanons : characters I headcanon as lesbians (some of them are headcanons sent by other people)
- #male crushes : this will be tagged whenever I receive asks that involve male crushes like celebrities or fictional characters
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- #tw corrective rape
- #free blocklist : exposing blogs that go against my dni list for anyone interested.
- #famous tropes : this will be a series of popular movie/book/show tropes that are prejudiced/problematic.
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- #my crushes: fictional characters and celebrities I had/have a crush on.
- #my favs : my favorite canon lesbian characters
-#brazilian rep: famous brazilians
-#favorite male characters
-#stephanie listens to : songs I recommend (usually latin american songs)
I just watched an incredible video of a woman talking about the prejudice from Portuguese people against Brazil and Brazilians. Sheâs lived both in Brazil and Portugal.
She says a lot of this prejudice comes from Brazilâs culture being more popular than Portugal.
But she also points out that the logical thing to think about if youâre Portuguese and you have nothing against Brazilians/Brazil is to be happy and impressed that despite EVERYTHING Portugal did (the violence, the genocide, the colonial control) to avoid this progress Brazil still has been able to accomplish so much.
It doesnât make sense to feel this hatred unless you believe Brazil is inferior to Portugal.
She also points out how this attitude comes from a lot of Portuguese people genuinely thinking us Brazilians should be grateful for what their country did.
Weâre obviously mad with this mindset. It erases all the horrible things Portugal did, not to mention colonialism in Portugal (and other countries in Europe) is seen as something positive as if it doesnât treat other races and ethnic groups as inferior.
People talk so much about advices to what to do or not do in different situations when it comes to relationships, but we donât talk much about what to do after breakups, right? So this is just me rambling about what Iâve done and what I would do/wouldnât do after a breakup.
Regardless of who is the one to break up: let your ex partner andâespeciallyâyourself, have some time to process things. Itâs not healthy to keep talking with your ex right after a breakup. You two need to learn how to do things without each other.
I have yet to see a healthy breakup where both stayed in touch right after breaking up. Either they ended up getting back together (and got into an unhealthy relationship) or they took longer to move on. Iâm not saying I advise you to never talk with your ex again, Iâm only saying itâs probably good to do that only if youâre sure you have moved on.
Donât go looking for another relationship. For a future healthy relationship, itâs probably for the best if you learn how to be single first.
Men will be men (so they will be misogynistic) regardless of ideology, regardless if theyâre conservative or progressive, left wing or right wing.
A lesbian was frustrated simply sharing her experiences with sexual harassment coming from men and a man who self identified as progressive and âagainst right wingâ commented âso itâs OUR fault you fit our type?â like her being a manâs type justifies being sexually harassedâŚ
People really should learn whenâs the right time to talk about their own experiences because a lot of the time it feels like they just want attention and/or invalidate the person speaking.
This girl made a video on Tiktok almost crying because men were basically harassing her on a livestream and she kept saying she was a lesbian and they didnât believe her because she was feminine. She was clearly talking about issues and experiences about feminine lesbians.
Another lesbian thought it was the right time to say âIâm masc and most of the time the prejudice we get comes from feminine lesbiansâ. Okay?? Then go make a video yourself babe. Whatâs the point of commenting this?
I feel like people often underestimate how hard it can be to be someone with ADHD, especially in comparison to other disorders.
At least based on what I often see here, a lot of people are taking more and more seriously mental health, so itâs more common for people to take seriously when you mention you deal with depression, anxiety, etc. When it comes to other disorders people take so seriously that they think anyone who has [insert disorder] is necessarily incapable of a lot of things when in reality thatâs not true. I see this a lot with diagnosis like autism, certain personality disorders, schizophrenia, etc.
But when it comes to ADHD so many act like this is just a quirky personality trait. Like this doesnât actually make life way harder.
I partially blame this on how popular it has become to self diagnose online.
I understand itâs often very expensive to get a diagnosis from a professional, truly I do because I am a psychologist and I actually have worked with low cost neuropsychological evaluation.
Still, I think we have to be careful with self diagnosing. Just because you relate with a symptom someone with ADHD (or any other disorder) has, it doesnât mean you have ADHD (or another disorder). Itâs not that simple. The way so many treat self diagnosing is very irresponsible.
I could absolutely make more posts about this kind of subject if anyoneâs interested, based on someone whoâs actually diagnosed with ADHD and has also a degree on psychology â not to mention some experience in diagnosing (especially ADHD and Autism).
A lot of self called leftists in the US, people who say they despise Trump and the way he talks about and treats immigrants, people who support BLM, the second they get mad at people from the global south (for random reasons) they offend us like weâre animals, generalize us, are xenophobic or even racist, and end up doing almost the exact same thing they criticize about conservatives and TrumpâŚ
And if we one of us dare point this out and call you out, you get SO defensive (because deep down you know itâs true) that you end up coming up with different excuses and ways to silence us, almost always using another prejudice as a weapon to not own how fucking xenophobic you are.
One of the most upsetting things I have seen recently is radfems accusing lesbians of LARPing as radfems for talking about lespohobia and misogyny.
The projection is actually insane. As if radfems have a monopoly on discussing those topics.
Genuinely infuriating!
I wish I could say I donât believe this but honestly coming from them I believe in anything lol
They really act like theyâre the only ones who hold the truth about misogyny and lesbophobia as if theyâre the only ones who face those prejudices LMFAO
And honestly it should be the opposite⌠Theyâre usually the ones who contribute to lesbophobia and misogyny.
I love how the concept of girlmom/girldad and boymom are considered very different.
Boymom usually means something negative. Itâs not simply any mother of a boy, itâs toxic and misogynistic mothers who see in their sons almost like a replacement of a partner, to the point of having almost incestuous feelings for their sons. Or mothers who think so highly of their sons, who treat them as if they can do no wrong, as if theyâre special and everyone else is ordinary, making them think they can do anything and have absolutely no consequences, ending up raising the most toxic and misogynistic men.
Girlmom is not just a mother of a girl. Itâs supposed to carry a positive connotation of mothers who raise daughters to respect themselves first, to not believe boys are the center of the world. Women who raise their girls to feel special in a world where weâre never seen that way.
Obviously thereâs mothers of girls whoâre completely toxic with their daughters, but I love how Iâve seen people call them stuff like âboymoms who ended up having a daughterâ. I couldnât have worded it better lol
âHeterosexuals never make their sexuality their entire personalityâ
Yes they do. Just because they donât add the word hetero in it doesnât mean they donât make their sexuality their entire personality.
They do every time they discuss if the man should pay for dates or not.
They do every time we hear yet another case of femicide of a boyfriend/fiancĂŠ/husband (or an ex) killing his female partner (or ex).
Thatâs why itâs so popular shows focused entirely on peopleâs sexualities like Ex On The Beach, Love Island, Too Hot Too Handle, etc.
Itâs why those shitty âtradwifeâ contents are so popular.
Heterosexual men do every single day because everything they do or avoid doing is based on this need to ânot look gayâ.
They do everytime they use us as the butts of their jokes because their need to prove theyâre better than us and to reinforce their sexuality seems obligatory.
Everytime they try to shove heterosexuality down kids throats and act like thatâs the most normal thing to do and when one of us dares to simply let kids express themselves without judgement they think weâre the ones sexualizing kids.
The difference is that we more commonly have the need to use labels because heterosexuals have forbidden us to just be ourselves, not to mention how weâre tired of being invalidated so as long as homophobia exists, yes weâre gonna be annoying as hell.
You absolutely have the right to not agree with someone elseâs opinion and not ship the same thing as other people.
But when it comes to mlm/wlw, specifically the ones where CLEARLY thereâs queerbaiting involved, itâs kinda shitty to act all like âthis ship is absurd, it doesnât make any sense, yâall are crazyâ.
This seems so much like a heterosexual behavior and as someone who clearly havenât got a clue about whatâs queerbaiting and queer coding.
Iâm talking about ships like swanqueen, supercorp, wolfstar, etc.
People are not shoving a ship down your throat, people are simply trying to make you understand the implications of queerbaiting and you want to act all childish and not want to listen because you only see that as someone else trying to force you to ship the characters.
I swear heterosexuals are always the annoying ones in fandomsâŚ
A lot of people from different minorities sometimes forget (or purposely ignore) that women (regardless if theyâre white, cis, heterosexual, etc) are still women. Itâs like if a woman is also part of an oppressor group they instantly ignore the fact that sheâs a woman.
Apparently telling people to stop calling us monosexuals is biphobia. And "not all lesbians and gays are monosexual so its a specific type of gay!" even though everyone, including straight people, can be attracted to enbies.
Everything seems biphobic because a lot of people are not ready to face their own prejudices so theyâre more comfortable using the biphobia card to feel better with themselves.
