Detransitioning?

I don’t know what the fuck I’m doing, but I love girls

[transgender-official]

Stop making people feel bad for detransitioning. It shouldn’t become a common thing, but sometimes people make mistakes. A lot of people who detransition genuinely thought what they are experiencing was dysphoria. And to find out it was actually trauma, or dysmorphia, or whatever else can be very damaging to ones mental health.

Imagine believing for years you are trans. You take hormones, go through surgeries, come out to your loved ones, and possibly lose some. And then you begin to feel worse? Get actual dysphoria? Awful. Having to listen to family members talk about how they KNEW it was just a phase? Awful.

Being mad at detransitioners isn’t going to help them. But giving them support just might.

[reformedlesbian]

I still wish all of this wasn’t a big deal. Just call me a different name and pronouns and move along.

[reformedlesbian]

I absolutely need to tell my parents I’m detransitioning. It has been 6 months and I’m tired of hiding it and hearing them say the wrong name every 2 seconds. (honestly never realized how fucking much they say my name when I’m the only one around? Like you were speaking to me 30 seconds ago...if you talk again i will assume that is also directed towards me)

[reformedlesbian]

I don’t know how to come out to literally anyone that I’m actually not trans (: Everyone is going to make a huge deal out of it and I just want to live my life. No time seems like it’s gonna be ideal so I don’t know when the fuck I’d say something.

[jee-q]

just wanna succ on a tiddy for breakfast

[reformedlesbian]

How does one come out that they’re detransitioning and that they realized they’re actually just a dyke ?

[reformedlesbian]

My titties have been hurting (not excruciating just a dull ache) for like a month straight now, and I think they’re growing. Interesting.

[hyetalsummer]

Everything is gay culture, thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.

[justlezbothings]

love is the most beautiful thing ever.

[farfromreality1]

[butchfeminist]

you said you used to be trans? when did you realize you weren’t/what made you realize you weren’t? no hate, just curious ❤️

hi dear! yes, I use to identify as a straight transman. I realized I wasn’t trans in October of 2017. What made me detransition were a number of things. I think the biggest one was: a reality check. I thought about my future; who I’d be, what I’d look like, etc. I realized that, the image that I wanted to be was not something I could obtain. I knew I couldn’t magically turn cis with some hormones and surgery, it’s impossible. I remember thinking to myself, “None of this is working to make me happier, so what are my other options?”

I wouldn’t say I “gave up” on transitioning, but rather sought other ways to help cope with my dysphoria. I think a lot of individuals struggling with dysphoria feel that medical transition is the only thing that’ll help. That’s not true. Therapy and making good habits worked way better for alleviating dysphoria far more than binding my chest in hopes I’ll get called sir by a stranger. Because on one hand, I’m dealing with the issue upfront. Me binding my chest was me feeding into my delusion and keeping myself in a hole.

It was really hard to reconnect with my womanhood, but I knew it was the logical step if I was going to be a happier person, both now and in the future. I didn’t want to live a life where I was so fragile, constantly relying on the validation of others. And obviously I still struggle with my dysphoria, it didn’t magically go away. But I can say that it’s way better.

Sorry for the long reply, but I hope it answers your question. And if anyone ever wants to chat about this, feel free to! My messages are always open.

[crossexaminationallegro]

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[antiplondon]

[crashchaoscats-deactivated20200]

Transitioning from female to male can be a kind of consciousness raising experience because it often changes how others see and treat you. Shifts in social status, such as moving from being seen as a woman to being seen as a man, from being seen a genderfreak to blending in as just another guy, can lead to insights on how society treats people according to what sex they’re seen as.

After a few months of taking t, I started passing as male almost exclusively and people started treating me differently than they had when they saw me as a butch woman or couldn’t tell what sex I was. I call this experience “joining the human race” because of how much better I got treated. I didn’t know how poorly I’d been treated before until I had something different to compare it to. That shift in treatment, that realization of what a difference it made to be seen as male or female, that experience is the root of my present radical feminism.

I would suspect that other detransitioned radical feminists would trace their radicalization back to experiences they had when they transitioned. Maybe it was passing as male and suddenly being taken more seriously and respected, getting a taste of male privilege. Maybe it was hearing what men say when they think no women are around, all the crude misogynistic bullshit so many men sprout. Maybe it was realizing that one’s transition was a response to living in a hostile woman-hating society or getting assaulted for being female. Figuring out that you changed your body in response to society tends to shift your world-view.

Joining a community of women who were so traumatized as a result of being female that we changed or considered changing our bodies in order to escape from harm brings home how violent this society is towards women. As a community, we know a whole lot about how people in this society attack the female body. We know they attack it whether it’s seen as feminine or masculine, whether it’s “clearly female” or “sexually ambiguous”, whether it’s fat or thin, judged attractive or ugly. Our bodies are often attacked in specific ways due to our race, ethnicity, class and perceived sexuality. We know how our own bodies were attacked for being female and we listen to other women describe how their bodies were attacked too. We hear each other describe how differently we were treated depending on what we called ourselves, how we dressed, how we changed our bodies or didn’t, whether we passed for male or didn’t. We come to see how our past alienation from being female actually had everything to do with living as a female under patriarchy. We come to see how much being female has shaped the course of our lives.

Taking t or getting surgery can radicalize you. Transitioning, socially or medically, can lead to experiences that change your perspective. Changing your body and how people react to it can end up changing your mind and how you see the world in unexpected ways. Transitioning and living as a man taught me what it means to be a woman, to be female in this society. It transformed me in ways I never imagined, from a genderqueer trans man to a radical feminist dyke.

I consider that transformation one of the only positive long term effects of my transition. Transitioning cost me a lot and caused a lot of problems but I’m glad it broadened my perspective, woke me up to just how fucked up our society is and eventually lead me to radical feminist culture and community. I know so many bad ass women now who I wouldn’t have met otherwise. It was a blessing to witness and take part in the creation of the detransitioned and dysphoric women’s community. So I do think transitioning can be beneficial at times, just not in the ways most people think.

[whereistanis]

solidarity

[discourseful]

[alyciajasmins1]

i’m the commander. no one fights for me.