I’m Just Here

Recovery blog

[reptilesunshjn]

In advance, Im telling you now that there may be spelling errors or weird added words in text, I have trouble typing on mobile apparently.

Fun fact, that’s why my username is like that!

I may go back and edit post when I feel like it or I may leave it, we’ll see. If I do I’ll add a tag.

So I guess this is gonna be. A blog about mental illness recovery? Like depression mostly but maybe anxiety if it comes up again. Or anything else I find in my brain, like intrusive thoughts (they’re like throwing rocks at glass and the glass is my brain).

Idk It’s kinda just a blog where I place good and happy things that I want to remember! Or things that I want to use to remind myself to get better!

I’ll add tags that I mainly use here.

Uh, reptile reveals, mouse speaks and wolf barks are all just me talking but I want to vibe to be right w/ whatever main animal I feel itm.

Also low key probs therian/otherkin/alterhuman, whatever the term is.

✨ tag is for important stuff, whatever that turns out to be. Mostly reminders to myself.

On that note, reminders tag is for obvi reminders to myself for miscellaneous things I think I’ll want to remember.

hehe and this is funny tag is for obvi things that make me smile.

Me and who? tag is about relationships. Even tho I’m ace. A man can dream tho.

This is a side blog btw if it matters.

[akindplace]

at the end of the day you need to believe that you are more than the things you’ve suffered through because if you don’t you’ll start seeing yourself as someone fundamentally broken whose life is hopeless. you need to claw your way out of a rut by believing there is hope for you and that life is worth living, even when its hard to make sense of all the suffocating chaos around us. don’t let yourself forget there is still beauty out there and joy to be felt, even when you are in pain, even when you wish life could be fairer and gentler. because that’s when you realize that the little things you do to make yourself and others feel a bit better can make quite a difference after all

[worm--king]

meet flim and flam, the swindle brothers

[charseraph]

Say I love you to your friend who walks slow. Who pauses long and often to gather their thoughts. Who forgets what they were trying to say. Who can’t focus on you because of pain. Who can’t give complex responses even though they wish they could. Who struggles to ask for anything because the answer could be no. Say I love you to your friend who feels safe enough to be slow around you.

[the-kirbe-anon-archive-deactiva]

I love dandelions!

*puts a dandelion in your hair*

Reblog to put a dandelion in prev's hair

[notyourjaan]

If you experienced trauma in childhood or had a rough childhood, dude listen to me. Offer yourself play. You were deprived of it.

Keep bubbles in the house, blow bubbles in the yard, blow them in your room, get a coloring book that doesn’t have to be an adult one with mandalas, watch cartoons, laugh at stupid things, dress up as a superhero for Halloween, wear a Santa hat on Christmas and big light up snowflake earrings, lay down on the floor, lay down in the grass, eat eggos for dinner sometimes. It’s not stupid. You’re not childish. You’re giving your inner child what they had taken from them. They deserve it.

[personal-scientist]

I don't want to derail this post because it's an important message, and OP has addressed it to the people who most need to hear it. But... can i just add, for people who don't feel like they can give themselves permission to do this, that you can give yourself these things even if you didn't overtly experience trauma in childhood?

Even if you never thought of your upbringing as painful or malicious, you can and should still give yourself things you missed out on. Take that class! Learn that skill! Eat the foods you like, or branch out into new ones! Jump in piles of leaves and decorate your walls the way you want them.

Give yourself the things you couldnt have as a kid, especially if you didn't really get to have a childhood, but even if you didn't have the childhood you wanted. Go for a bike ride with friends. Go stargazing. Whatever it was that you feel like you missed, it's important to seek those things and remember that play and joy aren't exclusive to childhood.

[notyourjaan]

I don’t think you derailed this at all and think this was a really thoughtful addition. So thank you!

[monatoxin]

strange happenings -

[i-am-a-fish]

if you're worried that it might be too late to try doing something, it is not

there are so many things you can do, try, and pursue while you're here. life is long, you've got plany of time, you can and should take things at your favorite pace.

also, thinking you've seen all the world has to see by the time you're twenty is a very bummer way to spend your twenties, and it's needlessly self-destructive

[the-big-mood]

[khaire-traveler]

It's so wonderful to me that, as worshippers of the gods, we often express traits of their domains.

Apollo worshippers being a light in the lives of others...

Artemis worshippers valuing life in all forms...

Aphrodite worshippers engaging in random acts of kindness...

Hermes worshippers guiding others who are lost...

Athena worshippers having wisdom beyond their years...

Ares worshippers standing up for what they believe in...

Hephaestus worshippers inventing untrodden paths...

Dionysus worshippers persevering through the madness...

Persephone worshippers being as vibrant as flowers...

Demeter worshippers nourishing others' souls...

Poseidon worshippers riding the waves of life...

Hera worshippers faithfully supporting those they love...

Zeus worshippers assuming the roles of a natural leader...

Haides worshippers holding space for others in their lives...

Hestia worshippers being beacons of warmth and comfort...

.

It's beautiful that we, as worshippers express the domains of our deities, even in ways that we aren't fully aware of.

[roughentumble]

[lemontongues]

shoutout to slow growers, late bloomers, people whose plans got derailed by circumstances beyond their control or their own choices, people who never had a plan to begin with, people who have had to start over when theyre too old to feel like theyre supposed to be where they are, people who cant pretend theyre built for the environment theyre in, and everyone who's not living the life they thought they would. im proud of you for making it this far and i hope you keep going until youre happy ♡

[grimstone5252]

Keep living ❤️ it will be worth it one day

[chrome-barkz-aac]

idk who needs to hear this but you can use your AAC full time without being nonverbal. its allowed. its literally allowed and you can do it if you want!

(there are very many people who do this, actually. they can speak but it comes out in a way that changes the meaning of what they want to say, or speaking causes them too much pain even though they can do it, or just to save energy in between speech loss episodes.)

you don't need the stamp of nonverbal or mute to use your AAC all the time. it's literally allowed and you can do it.

[footnote: your experiences will differ from someone who has no other choice but to use AAC full time but it is a disability aid and it is there to help you!]

[lelif]

on survival

-// @aridante // @orivu // @buzzkillgirls // ? // ? // richard siken// @cemeterything // moomin, tove jansson// @disenchanted-killjoy // isn't that enough, shawn mendes// @ prettytheyswag on twitter// @ coletyumuch on twitter// ? // ? // bird by bird, anne lamott// undertale// @strawberrycircuits

[fandom-trash-goblin]

we've got a life to love living.

[sandersstudies]

I think a great way to improve communication with kids (and adults) is to make every yes or no question a this or that question.

I started doing it when after brain surgery my husband had trouble forming responses to questions for a while, and realized that the habit was helping my students engage more truthfully with me.

Some examples:

Yes/No: “Did you clean up your room like I told you?”

This/That: “Did you clean up already, or do you still need to do that?”

Yes/No: “Are you going to sit quietly?”

This/That: “Are you ready to sit and do our quiet activity, or do you need some time by yourself first?”

Yes/No: “Are you doing anything fun for your birthday?”

This/That: “Are you having a party on your birthday, or are you going to relax?”

I think many children (and adults!) are averse to telling adults “No,” especially when a command is implied. (“Did you clean your room?” “Are you going to sit quietly?” Hmmm if I say ‘no’ I will be in trouble with the adult.) So they are actually pretty likely to just lie and say what they think you want to hear.

Presenting a this or that question provides an alternative to lying, a ‘no, but’ scenario where they are presented with the reasonable consequences of a No (“if you’re not ready to sit quietly, you cannot do our quiet activity with us yet.”)

[unfavorableinstigation]

I find it useful professionally with adults too - "Did you have a chance to finish that project, or is it more of a next-week item?" When done sincerely (rather than passive-aggressively), it gets over rough ground lightly: it gives the other person a solution you clearly already find acceptable, so they don't have to flail around trying to defend/excuse themselves, they can just take the solution and everyone can move on.

[jkl-fff]

In a sociolinguistic sense, there are two reasons this works so well:

It allows the person to save face. Basically, everyone wants to feel that they're both liked and respected. By phrasing questions this way, it also communicates that the person will still be liked and respected even if the answer is no. (The asker isn't mad, the answerer isn't in trouble.)

It reduces the cognitive stress for the person, because they don't have to instantly calculate an answer that'll best maintain social harmony. Basically, everyone wants to avoid being put on the spot with a hard question, and everyone wants to avoid causing trouble (which is why a lot of people will sorta panic and just tell the asker what they want to hear—they feel they don't have time to think of a better answer, especially without risking causing a scene). By supplying an alternative this way, you reduce what the person has to think and worry about in a moment of making a decision.

[lilaclupin]

In today's linguistics class we talked about metaphors, and we really want two of the ones we talked about to become conventionalised.

So first of all this one girl told us about a newer metaphor in Russian, "I have paws", which is something you say when you don't really want to do something, so you say you're incapable of doing it since you have paws instead of hands. Like, "hey, finish that report" "aw but I have paws :(" and I think that's adorable. It's like "I'm just a girl" but for animals.

We also had the task to invent a novel metaphor and have the others guess what it means, and the teacher really liked my "she's such a capybara" = "everyone loves her". Capybara energy is like golden retriever energy except you're chill about it. You're just vibing and everyone digs that.

Anyway I think these deserve to become more common in English

[lilaclupin]

VERY important addition oh my gosh,,,