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The money we’ve gotten so far has been a huge help, and i’m really grateful, but we’re still less than halfway towards our goal, and costs aren’t getting any lower, as well as the cost of living here getting worse, anything else you can spare helps, and all boosts are welcome, we need the help to try and stabilize our lives and be happy https://gofund.me/580dbcb4

cannibalchicken

mothric

thinking about the time a former housemate said to me "hey I put these box fans in the living room because it's hot" while gesturing to the fans that I was actively sitting in front of because it was hot. and I said "okay thanks." and she kept standing there like she was waiting for something else so I said "am I blocking the airflow? do you need me to move?" and she said no I'm just letting you know they're here, in the living room, for circulation. and I said well yes, I did put that together. I am enjoying them. thank you. and she looked confused. so I asked "am I meant to do something with this information or are you just informing me?" and she said no I'm letting you know they're here because It's Hot In Here. she seemed a bit aggravated, and her emphasis seemed deliberate.

it took me asking three more times before she finally told me she wanted me to leave the fans where they are instead of moving them to my room or something. and I said oh! I had no intention of doing so but thank you for letting me know what the expectation is.

about a month later she brought up that conversation as the moment it actually clicked for her that I Am Autistic And Will Not Magically Intuit The Unspoken Request You Didn't Ask Me.

mothric

I have observed enough allistic communication to know that generally, if somebody points something out to you that you can already see or are already clearly interacting with, they are making an indirect request. but as I don't know what the request is, the only way forward is for me to guess (and likely get it wrong), or prompt the allistic to tell me clearly what they need.

however, allistics don't realize they do this, so asking them to say the unspoken surprises and confuses them. this is not their fault. allistics can be quite emotionally fragile and perceive directness as confrontation, so they habitually rely on indirect speech and coded language to preserve others' feelings. this is why they may find it difficult to be direct, even when asked. I have found that with enough gentle encouragement and reassurance that they are actually helping you, you too can achieve successful communication with your allistic friend or loved one. :)

foxes-in-love

vixvigil

it’s never a normal temperature anymore it’s always some fucking bullshit

butchtoks

speggehtix3

one of the "these can and should coexist" things to me is "there are numerous fat people who eat healthy and exercise and could beat the average skinny person in a hike" and "fat people who are fat and arent athletic and dont eat super healthy and do get winded walking up hills also are apart of fat liberation and deserve love too"

both of these are true and both deserve love and to be able to be accepted and get proper healthcare

edgarallennope

lotstradamus

#in four days we could be seeing a prime minister every eight hours‚ until theyre coming every four minutes

thatlittleegyptologist

If you wanted to know what Larry was up to, I can tell you: sleeping.

wyntonyang

Thinking 2 Much feat Gumi. Full color animations by x.com/tksubby, (I did the scribbly ones). Made for the pilot episode of 3D Mainichi Modern.

Full song with download:

wyntonyang

I want you to know I started pitching your show to friends by going "It's 3D Mainichi Modern it literally has Thompson in it." and it totally works.

Before they watch it they're like "What do you mean who the fuck is Thompson why do i care?" After they watch it they're like "Oh so literally it has Thompson in it I understand now" Thompson is becoming a household name amongst my friends.

incredible marketing strategy..

fairycosmos

a small thing i learned from my sister dying is that i really would rather the people i love be a burden than be whatever the hell else they'd be if they weren't. yes even if it's messy and not always fair and hard and completely inconvenient for everyone involved. even if it's weird. even if i'm rolling my eyes a bit inside sometimes. i just want you to bother me. please always bother me

fairycosmos

why is it so hard for people to grasp that disabilities disable and chronic illnesses are chronic. yes even when it inconveniences you. yes even when your patience runs out

#every able bodied person #no matter how loving #patient or understanding #has a limit at which point they lose patience with your disability