I know this is going to fall on deaf ears; and I want to preface this with the fact I do not support callouts on principle and I do not agree with the people who have made them nor routinely make them. I believe the people conflating consensual sexual interactions between adults with child sexual abuse are objectively in the wrong and I fully support youth liberation.
However, I definitely do think that kentlerite views have been spreading to a degree and this is genuinely beginning to scare me. You are not being progressive or supporting any actual liberationary politics. This is rhetoric which has been exclusively used to justify abuse and excuse abusers.
Like, I'm not going to point out the flaws in this because frankly I do not think this is something innate nor incurable. I think the majority of the framework these people point to are frameworks coined by people such as Ray Blanchard and John Money which are specifically used to paint sexual minorities as perverts; and I think telling people that abuse is primarily caused by intrusive thoughts that just happen to also be incurable and equal to genuine sexual attraction is in effect a way to excuse abusers.
I think that the drive to make this a part of one's identity equal to being queer (while, again, not being externalized as much as the results of a long-running throughline) is not just stupid but actively harmful. It is an inherantly isolating premise.
And I think this rhetoric - the insistence on not being able to criticize it, the fact that it seems nobody can criticize it without lumping in consensual kink - is just. It's immaterial and minimizes abuse and hurts TMA victims most of all and it's just incredibly demoralizing as a TMA victim to watch this continue unchallenged and in fact endorsed by a bunch of people I used to respect.
I don't know what the solution is. Maybe I'll get off the sinking ship for real this time. I don't know.
TMEs do not interact with this post. I do not want your stink on it.
And I don't think this ends up being like a sinister plot, I just think it's a perfect storm of a bunch of dogwhistles and the continued anti-kink attitudes on here and the TME panopticon but it sucks to see other transfems being drawn into it and I really don't know what to say because these people have fucking thousands of followers and I have nothing and nobody and nobody listens anymore












