The dangers of the lifestyle
Many ask how to begin living this lifestyle; often, how to convince the wife. My answer is always the same: don’t.
I want to use the perfect words I found online time ago (here http://bit.ly/2wRyUEv , all credits due to the original poster):
When me & my long term girlfriend were thinking about this, both of us were incredibly turned on physically about it, but she just would not take the final step because of the emotional dangers. She said because we men can easily separate the physical & emotional we don’t understand that very few women can, and the same thing that makes them lust for a man in bed (which is what guys in this situation want) is the same thing that makes her become emotionally attached to him.
My partner’s last words on the subject were ‘if we go through with this, you will lose me emotionally, and once you’ve lost me emotionally, the physical won’t be far behind, and then it will be the beginning of the end.’
Over the years, I witnessed so many times the same pattern. Of all the other couples we met living the lifestyle, from cuckolds to hotwives, every possible variation on the theme, I can say ALL split. All but one: the one where both partners were already living the style before meeting.
All the couples that began experimenting together, eventually broke up. The change in the bond between them, which silently grows over time, in the end destroyed them as a couple.
The woman feels less and less ‘bound’ to her man, and she usually starts feeling emotions for someone else. It’s almost like breaking the physical limitation opens a breach in her emotions.
The man is pulled towards a spiral of personal fantasies, growing detached not only from his woman, but from her desires and wishes. In divergent directions, he usually loses the capacity to listen to her, and he doesn’t ultimately notice that she’s slowly slipping away.
So, here’s my advice. If it’s a shared fantasy, something both partners were willing to try for a long time, you’ll find the way to try. Internet offers plenty of options. In all other cases, don’t ever try to convince her or him; in the end it will destroy her or him, and you as a couple.
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