Hereās the thing they donāt tell you about growing up.
As you get older, and move away from things like school, and the clubs and organizations and teams that tend to go along with that period in our lives, it can become harder and harder to meet people and have a social life. Itās natural, I think, that we drift away from some relationships as time goes on, but what Iāve found snuck up on me in the last five years or so especially is that the rate I was losing relationships was overtaking the rate that I was forming new ones. Iām not married. I donāt work in an office with hundreds of other people. I donāt have kids. My neighbours are primarily all in a different generation than I am.Ā
I grew up in the church, which was a major source of my social life when I was younger, but even before I came out and got out of that lifestyle I found myself feeling more and more the outsider because of the aforementioned lack of kids and spouse. I subscribe to the theory that online fandom is very similar to a church community, but at the end of the day as great as online friendships are, itās hard to go check out that new restaurant down the street with your friend who lives on the other side of the country.
Iāve always been someone who throws myself into things, and allows my passions to become obsessions. I mean, Iāve spent over fifteen years in fandom, what more do I need to say? In my day to day life, however, this has sometimes given me workaholic tendencies. Now I wish I could say it made me a hyper disciplined workaholic who became wildly successful, but that is really, really not the case. At 32 years old I still feel like Iām figuring out what I want to do with my life - and in the back of my mind Iām more and more aware that my life is really almost half over already, and what do I have to show for myself.
With that said, I also know that if Iām depending on my job to find fulfillment in life, Iāll never be happy, not even if I stumble onto theĀ āperfectā job.
So Iāve decided itās time to go on a quest.Ā
So far on this quest, Iāve committed to six sessions with a personal trainer (not to get thinner but to find more energy), found a Fandomish meet up in my city where I can meet face to face with fellow geeks, and found a choir to join to bring some musical expression back into my life. Now, youāll notice that all these things are things Iāve signed up for, but have yet to actually do.Ā
Iāll report back in once Iāve unlocked these adventures on my Quest.
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