Where Are The Trad Husbands?
The internet is full of trad wives. You have seen them!!! women in linen aprons making sourdough, talking about the joy of submission and the importance of finding a good man. Their content ranges from harmless (a nice recipe, a home tour) to genuinely alarming (consent does not exist in marriage). They are everywhere. They are a whole movement.
So here is a simple question: where are the trad husbands?
The Men Are Talking. Just Not About Themselves.
There is no shortage of men loudly championing traditional values. Podcasts, comment sections, YouTube channels, they are everywhere, they have lots of opinions but listen closely and something becomes obvious. When these men talk about tradition, they are talking about women. When they give advice, it is about what women should do. If there is ever anything directed at men, it is still about women how to find a nice virgin one, how to keep one…etc
Nobody is examining what the trad-husband owes. Nobody is holding men to the same standard they apply to women so enthusiastically. It is almost as if the tradition only runs in one direction.
The stay at home wife, the sole breadwinner husband, the household where everyone knew their role and was happy about it was largely a wealthy class arrangement. And the women were never really happy and fulfilled. But for the arguments sake, let’s just assume everything was perfect for those families, how did those families run? It required real money. Lots of money! Working class women have always worked. The dream being sold was always a minority experience even back then.
And today the economics are even less forgiving. Most families need two incomes to survive. The trad life, as advertised, is not available to the average person including most of the men preaching about it. But that detail never really comes up. Because they are not planning to live it. They are planning for women to live it.
This is bigger than just the trad wife conversation. When they talk about women in the sex trade, they talk about the women, the shame, the moral failing. The men consuming those services? Barely mentioned. When they say modern women are ruining society, nobody stops to look at modern men. When marriage rates fall, the problem is always women's choices, women's standards, women's ambition.
Men are never examined, never asked to change, never held accountable. Why? Because they are perfect the way they are! We can’t ask men to change, even a little righttt? The trad wife conversation is just more of the same women scrutinised endlessly, men comfortably off the radar.
If this were genuinely about tradition and values and family, men would be held to the same standard. There would be real conversation about what a trad husband owes, whether these men could even provide what the lifestyle demands, and why so many of them preach something they have no intention of living.
But there is not. Because the point was never tradition.
The point was always just controlling women.
