as a mogai help blog, i obviously get heaps of asks saying “my gender is related to x, what am i?” and “do you know of any y-themed pronouns?”. and that’s fine, of course, it’s why i made this blog! but a lot of the time, the askers could find the answers to their questions without using me as the middleman. (middleperson? middle enby?)
so! a tutorial on how to find genders, orientations and pronouns!
here are some blogs/sites that have heaps of pronouns:
@pronouns-archive (tw that they’re anti-emojiself pronouns)
the tumblr blogs have a great tagging system, and although pronouns-archive and pronoun-provider are inactive, the resources are still there. you might find searching on the blogs difficult on mobile though.
so. say you wanted some fire-themed pronouns. what you’d do is go to the blog/site of your choice and search for fire-related keywords, like ‘fire’ ‘flame’ ‘hot’ ‘warm’ etc., and if that doesn’t turn up enough results you might want to expand your search to words like ‘element’.
let’s add some screenshots! this is pronoun-provider’s pronoun page:
as you can see there are a lot there, and that’s just a small part!
so, if i wanted to search for fire-themed pronouns on desktop, there are a couple of ways i could do that:
1. search using the url (as their theme doesn’t have a search bar) by editing the url from this:
to this, by deleting ‘pronouns’ and adding ‘search/fire’.
2. using ctrl+f / cmd+f, which opens up a search bar, and typing ‘fire’
3. scrolling through the page until i find a whole section on fire-themed pronouns! there are also other sections that might have what we’re looking for, like ‘traditional elements’
4. if i was on mobile, i’d go to the search button on pronoun-provider’s blog and type ‘fire’.
5. even good old google could give us what we’re looking for, by searching ‘fire neopronouns’ and similar searches.
after that, if you still haven’t found what you’re looking for, then you can ask me for help!
here are some blogs/sites that i use when searching for terms:
@transgenderteensurvivalguide (see their ‘what am i’ page)
@pride-color-schemes & the sister blog @ask-pride-color-schemes
so lets say you wanted to find a gender that was related to flowers. open up your blog of choice - let’s go with my blog first.
you follow the same process as searching for pronouns: type in keywords into the search bar (my blog has a search bar, but you can use the url method too)
and there’s a list right there!
you can also use tags to find what you want, though this would take longer. on my blog, you could either search ‘gender’ or scroll through until you found a post tagged ‘gender’, click on the tag, and look through the results.
but maybe the first blog you chose isn’t giving you any results. so go to the next one, and repeat the process. then, of course, you can still ask me and i’ll try and find some!
searching for orientations
this is a little more tricky since usually orientations aren’t based off things like flowers or fire.
let’s say you were looking for an orientation based on attraction to men. again, you’d repeat the keyword process - in this case, using words like ‘men’, ‘masc’/’masculine’, ‘male’, ‘min’ [masculine-in-nature].
you might be looking for a term that tells people what your gender is and who you’re attracted to (i.e., the gender-loving-gender / juvelic system). then, your keywords would be [x]lm, replacing [x] with the first letter of your gender - w for woman, m for man, nb for nonbinary, a for agender (though it can sometimes be used as ‘all’), x for xenogender. don’t try and search for something like ‘slm’ for ‘stargender-loving-men’, as that would fall under xenogender or nonbinary. stick to umbrella terms for this part. keep in mind that the acronyms are set out as your gender-loving-who you’re attracted to (e.g., nblw = nonbinary person-loving-women, a nonbinary person attracted to women).
other times, you might be looking for what some people call amative orientations, or methods of attraction. this is when a term describes not who you’re attracted to, but how you’re attracted.
for example, you might be neurodivergent and feel like that influences how you experience attraction. you might start by searching for ‘neurodivergent’ or ‘neurodivergency’, and then start searching for your specific neurodivergency, like ‘adhd’ or ‘schizophrenia’. on my blog, these are tagged ‘neuro orientations’ so you might find a term that works for you there.
again, if you’re still not happy, look on other blogs or ask me for help. you might even realise that there’s no term that is exactly what you’re looking for and coin your own!
i’d like to reiterate that it’s ok to ask me for help at any time, just maybe try this first?
good luck, and happy mogai month 2019!
