[tiktoks-for-dead-pope]

[jangofeet-deactivated20210112]

I’m so sick of y’all’s shit stop

[owlmylove]

not 2 be controversial on main but i think it’s pretty sad the first major generation to grow up online is projecting their adolescent self-hatred onto the “cringe” generation of tiktokkers

[owlmylove]

did zillennials seriously spend their youth making OC fanart on devart and livejournal and being told “oh look, they finally emerge” by their parents whenever they risked leaving their room only to turn around 10 years later and say “ewwwh you spent hours cosplaying an OC & learning a viral dance in your bedroom? fuckin cringe”

[owlmylove]

like….. did we truly lose sight so quickly of how it was to feel young and disconnected and desperate for someone, anyone, to really listen to you? to feel close to you? how quickly have we become jaded to the joys of carefully, earnestly crafting something alone in a dark bedroom and sharing it with the world, hoping for just one other person to say “that’s how i feel, too”? how much must we hate our younger selves in order to blame the teenagers of the world for creating costumes and dances and dreams for themselves???

[mens-rights-activia]

Tumblr in a nutshell

[abd-illustrates]

a thread about a thing that keeps happening for some reason that I am still wildly unqualified for

[abd-illustrates]

I posted this less than two weeks ago and it is already relevant again ✌️

[fetus-cakes]

not that it’s an excuse, but people are lonely and lack role models they can trust. I can see why a queer teen might be asking online strangers if it’s safe to come out to their parents if there’s no trustworthy adults in their life

[abd-illustrates]

oh for sure dude, the why was never in question here and I can absolutely understand the reasons that people do this, especially young folks! But as you said, it’s no excuse for putting that kind of unwarranted pressure onto a total stranger. They don’t know anything about the factors in the asker’s life which could be affected by any response they might give, and the asker doesn’t know what mental weight the person might be carrying in their own life already that their question may only end up adding to.

What’s important here is making the where clear. (or at least, the where else) - If people need advice then there are plenty of places online that are actually dedicated to giving it that are going to have way better & more genuinely helpful answers than the inboxes of random people will be able to provide; and it’s vital for said random people to stress that fact rather than be expected or feel obliged to give advice they are not qualified to give.

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

people make a lot of touch-starved gay jokes about Lush but the truth is it’s not a gay experience, it’s a human experience. no one is safe, no one is immune.

you walk in there for the first time thinkin’ I’m gonna buy some hand soap today and then some dude who smells like something impossible, like he’s being described by a YA author, he smells like lavender, leather, and the steam coming from hot pavement after a short summer rain,

That guy. He comes up to you and he asks if he can help you sample something. He leads you to a small, metal basin of water. It’s so pastoral, it’s so quaint. You can imagine it sitting beside your bed with a porcelain pitcher in your farm cottage for you to use to wash your face in the morning.

He rolls up your sleeve a bit, and you awkwardly apologize for not doing it yourself, and he says it’s fine.

Sir LeatherRain gently rinses your hand in the warm water, and then he dries it off attentively. Then he massages some of the product into your palm. It’s the cinnamon bean massage bar. He says “don’t you love how it feels warm as you rub it in?”

He’s making more direct eye contact with you than you’ve ever made in your entire life.

As he finishes, a woman who smells like coffee beans and pink-skied winter sunrises approaches and says “oh I LOVE that product.”

You know it’s about the sell. It’s transactional, but you’re in love. You can’t help it.

You’re also More uncomfortable than you’ve ever been in your entire life.

As you walk away to the register, you clench your hand and unclench it like Mr. Darcy when he touches Elizabeth Bennet’s hand to help her out of a coach.

[tackywizard]

As someone who’s worked at Lush I assure you it’s just as weirdly intimate to be the one rubbing lotions into other people’s skin

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

oh thank god

[-fs-]

Where's the way to your heart?

[arcopluris]

Mrs (mistress) - feminine / female

Mr (master/mister) - masculine / male

Ms (mss/miss) - feminine / neutral

Mx (mix) - neutral / otherly

Me (mistree) - neutral

Mn (misen/missen/mixen) - neoneutral 

Ml (misla) - neutral / otherly 

Mb (misby/misbie) - neutral / enbinine

De/Dᵉ (done) - neutral / otherly

Mt (mixt/mistix) - demineutral / young mix

Mrx (mirx) - neutral / xenine / otherly

Mz/mzz (miz/mizz) - unknown / undefined

Mt from srt. (señorito/senhorito (young sir), srte. for señorite/senhorite (young mix), hence señorita/senhorita means single/young lady/mistress or specifically mademoiselle/madam). Senhoria is often translated as feud / manor / lordship / seigniory / madamhood / ladyship / landlady, not as in property or ownership, but as in mistery / mystery, “you all/mysteries” (vossas senhorias / vuestra merced) / mastery/masteries / folkness / personhood / peoplekind. -E suffix of done/dᵉ (neutral of donship) can be replaced with Y (dony/dʸ), I (doni/dⁱ) and X (donx/dˣ).

[bisexualle]

i think some people connect pronoun non conformity with feminine men and masculine women but that’s not always the case. she/her men can be feminine sure, but they can also be masc, neutral, androgynous, or something else. he/him women can be masculine, but they can also be feminine, neutral, androgynous, or something else.

[bamsara]

same shit, different fandom

[maggins]

[craftgender]

What happened?

what do you think happened.

people got pissy over someone not being mentally ill in the “right way” and having interests outside of what is deemed “acceptable”

[transplutonium]

This deserves an Oscar

[grimthetransman]

Is this the sibling dance person?

[craftgender]

Why is it okay when other people have weird hyperinterests but when we have a hyperinterest in gore and death and car crashes and shit like that, we’re awful people who deserve death threats and harassment

[kibumkim]

Ever wonder if youre the reason a homophobe exists? Im pretty sure ive made like at least 5 people homophobic

[kibumkim]

Like yall ever think a straight person interacted with u and went

Like as soon as u left

[guiltyidealist]

How do those boots taste?

[guiltyidealist]

@vinegaregrette

You know what a nonbinary person is, right? That's a person who is neither a man nor a woman. Because most people are handed one of those genders when they are born, and nonbinary people don't identify with that gender given to them, nonbinary people are transgender.

"Enbyphobia" is one of a few terms that refers to bigotry against nonbinary people on the basis of their nonbinary identity. It's transphobia specific to nonbinary people. Alternative terms include "nonbinaryphobia," "exorsexism," and "ceterophobia".

Unfortunately, there are binary trans people (that is, trans men and women) who are enbyphobic. Famous alt-right trans woman Blaire White is my favorite example of this. She staunchly believes, in spite of every field of science, that there are only two genders and has referred to nonbinary people as "trans-r_tarded" cis invaders of the trans community.

The meme is saying that enbyphobic rhetoric (such as claims that there are only two genders or that nonbinary people aren't "trans enough") is oppressive against nonbinary people even when fellow trans people exert it.

The opinion offends some binary trans people because they believe they, as a trans person, cannot be transphobic in any way. This is false.

In the case of enbyphobic trans women, who are known to be more oppressed in society than TME people (people who don't experience transmisogyny), this oppression is considered to be lateral oppression-- trans women are nowhere near the main cause of the problem, but ones who spout enbyphobia contribute to the main problem, which is enbyphobia from cis (not trans) people.

I hope this helps!

[nolongersilkbox]

In order to stop the culture of faking orgasms, we need to stop the culture of shaming others for their sexual experiences.

Can’t get your partner off on the first try? Cool. You can still be thoughtful and make them feel good.

Can get your partner off within 30 seconds? Awesome, good for you both, don’t let it get to your head.

Can make someone cum in less than 5, but for others, it’s a process that takes an hour? That’s alright, everyone’s different. 

Does it take you 30 minutes to cum? That’s okay, you’re not broken, you’re not a failure.

Does it take you 10 seconds to cum? That’s great, you’re not a slut, you’re not overly sensitive or dirty. 

Can’t cum without toys/vibrators? That’s awesome, that’s a valid part of sexual play!

Can only cum with loving, vanilla sex? That’s perfectly normal, and you will find lots of great partners to experience that with!

Can’t orgasm at all? THAT’S ALSO COOL. It’s not a bad thing, you can still enjoy sex TONNES just like others.

Orgasms are NOT the defining characteristic of your sexual prowess. They are great, they’re lovely when they happen, but for the love of science, stop bringing them up higher than they need to be. 

[oldenoughtobeyourfather]

This one’s a pretty big deal.  “Did you come?”  

No, but it still felt great

Yes, and it felt really great

Yes, but coming isn’t that big a deal for me

No, can you keep going?

Yes, can you keep going?

No, do you want to watch me get myself off?

Yes, but don’t get a big head about it – I come so easily it doesn’t matter what you do.

No, but I bet I can get you up again

Yes, but I’d rather keep edging because I always get a huge drop after coming and it really puts me off sex for a while

No, thank you, orgasm denial leaves me deliciously horny for days

No, and I’m really frustrated, let’s brainstorm how to change that

All of these are fucking awesome answers.  Including the last one.  They’re also 100% legitimate answers.  Including the last one.

Only the last one is even a little bit “negative,” and, really, how bad, arrogant, or egocentric a lover do you have to be that you’d rather not know when your partner says “here are some great ways to help me come next time, lover?”

If on the other hand you’re going to panic or be unhappy about that last answer then you’re not a bad lover (no shame either way) but your sex life will be less workable.  With the result that you’ll continue having, well, the same result.

To be honest, whether you or your partner comes isn’t the most important thing about sex.  It’s whether you’re both satisfied afterwards.  The only trick being that 

You get to decide what “satisfied” means for you

You don’t get to decide what “satisfied” means for your partner(s.)  

Asking “did you come” isn’t really the right question.  “Does this work for you” is way healthier.  That’s the culture we want to look for and encourage.

—

P.S. Your partner isn’t a video game.  His or her orgasms aren’t a boss fight.  The question you want to ask isn’t “did I beat the previous high score” but “would you like to play again.”

[jennabunns]

Love this!!!

[mt-dreaming-deactivated20200421]

Heck yes!

[angelenentrenamiento]

also “coming together” is something that rarely happens… most ppl cant cum at the same time as the other person, it’s almost impossible

[arovaricious]

People who use it/its pronouns are braver than any cop will ever be