Can we stop acting like Kit is a saint for falling for someone whoâs autistic?
No one ever SAYS that, but the undercurrent is disturbingly present in the fandom. No one would SAY âWow Kit is really great for dealing with Tyâ but that shit oozes from some posts.
All the people who imply Kit has âcopedâ with so much with Ty, all the people who totally invalidate Tyâs displays of love as less important than Kitâs (âohhh Kit was REJECTED or FRIENDZONED (which isnât a thing and also isnât a BAd thing), Kit has his heart BROKENâ), this one is for you:
Yes. Yes he did. And is that kind of lack of understanding part and parcel of being in love with someone whoâs autistic? Yeah, sometimes.
Kit is not a martyr for loving someone with autism, just like my friends arenât saints for loving me, just like the girl Iâm dating isnât angelic for dating me.
Autistic people - disabled people in general - arenât charity cases. We arenât loved âin spiteâ of our disability - or we shouldnât be. We should be loved by people who donât love us âin spiteâ but âwithâ our disability or (even better) because of it!
The girl Iâm seeing said she likes me because she likes that I will say things to her that no one else would ever say and that makes her feel special. I say that she makes me feel like when i laugh moths in my stomach see the light from my mouth and start dancing in my stomach. She likes that she can tell Iâve had a good date because I skip. She likes seeing me stim when Iâm happy or when she compliments me. I am not a charity case.
Ty is not âinterestingâ or âuniqueâ or âquirkyâ or all those things. Heâs not a science project. He isnât âhard workâ to love. He isnât a story of love against all odds.
He isnât someone to love against all odds.
Heâs someone Kit loves. End of.
And the people who seem to think Ty will be someone totally different after the Scholomance, all the TWP!era headcanons that make him more neurotypical, like heâll just âgrow outâ of being autistic is equally aggravating. Truthfully, autism does change a bit over time in the ways it manifests, but between like 15 and 19, through puberty, itâs pretty consistent. Puberty can even cause regression, meaning autism seems more âintenseâ. Your Scholomance!Ty shouldnât be neurotypically-coded. Your Scholomance!Ty shouldnât suddenly magically adjust to a âmainstreamâ schooling environment.
No one - not Julian, not Livvy, not Kit, NO ONE - is a good person for loving Ty. No one deserves praise for loving him. The perpetuation of this shit is what continues the myth that autistic people canât or donât date, canât be loved or be in relationships with neurotypical people.
So often I hear âwhy would you date a neurotypical person?â from an NT. I know exactly what they mean. I know they mean âwhy would a normal person date someone with autism? Why would they pick you over someone whoâs less work?â
And to that I say: youâve clearly never met an autistic person. Weâre a goddamn privilege to love. We are not high maintenance or hard work, weâre not charity cases or science experiments. Weâre just people craving the same stupid thing as everyone else: someone to care about us.
Ty isnât about to grow out of being autistic so note that down TWP!era fic writers
No one deserves praise for loving Ty
Kit doesnât deserve a medal for loving someone with autism
Like Jesus Christ oh my god really??? Like REALLY???
Please stop glorifying loving someone??? Who happens to have a neurological condition??? Jesus????
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