Arting, Writing, and Nerding

Professional artist, writer hobbyist. Here is art, nerd stuff, animals, and goofs.

[rynnay]

Nick is doing a good job and getting an A in adventuring in dragons n' dungeons

[sivsii]

I’ve faced a lot of nasty art blocks over my years as an artist but none so detrimental as Going To Work

[oakssincave]

thank you for putting in words what i have been unable to articulate for the last years haha

[sivsii]

and the PROBLEM IS. the PROBLEM is that with other art blocks I can tell myself. oh it’s hard now but time will pass and I will heal from whatever mental or emotional block that’s causing this eventually. but WORK? A Forever Problem. There is no waiting-out Job. Having Job is eternal. Time does not heal Being At Work. Sand is always in our eyes forever

[sivsii]

and in a CRUEL twist of fate.. Art Being Job is not the solution you’d think it would be

[rynnay]

And don't even get me started on Job Is Doing Art But Not Really

[rynnay]

My brain activating at 4:50a.m. on a Tuesday: "what if the One Piece just turns out to be an elaborate D's nuts joke"

[cleolinda]

I am not the first person to attempt explaining this, but let me tell you about some of the nuances of Bless Your Heart™. It does not solely or even usually translate to “you are a dumbass.” It is more subtle than that:

It is primarily a thing you say to clarify (or falsify) the tone of what you DID say

OR

it is secondarily a thing you say instead of something ELSE to maintain 1) plausible deniability 2) a moral high ground.

“Bless your heart”: You genuinely deserve blessings because you are going through it right now and you need them. Gratitude, sympathy. “I’m going to have surgery next week.” “Bless your heart! Is there anything I can do for you?” (“Oh, bless your heart for asking.”) Original face-value meaning.

“Bless your heart”: You need a blessing because God knows you’re lacking (manners, intelligence, common sense) right now. Synonyms could include “Well, isn’t that precious” or “Well, that’s different.” It often comes in clutch when you don’t want to tell someone to their face that they fucked up. Your nephew has mowed the front yard for you. He has also mowed over all your flower beds. “Well… bless your heart.” If you were going to use it as a stealth insult to someone’s face for a more egregious occasion, it would be this category. It can be a mean girl move (the classic “It’s so brave that you dress like that” vibe), but it’s also a way of saying, “I want you to know that I see what you’re doing and I don’t approve of it, and you fully understand I’m expressing that, but I’m not going to give you the justification to clap back at me because I didn’t SAY that.” Someone wears a fancy white bridal-looking gown to your cousin’s wedding: “Well, bless your heart, that sure is a dress!” (If they understand you: “What’s THAT supposed to mean?” Because they know, but they want to make you SAY it. Combat engaged.)

“Bless their heart”: I am sharing news (gossiping) about someone but I like them and I want you to understand that I do, truly, bless their heart. “It’s been so hard for her after her father passed. Bless her heart, I’m gonna make her that red velvet cake she likes.”

“Bless their heart”: I am shit talking someone and I want to cover my ass, of COURSE I am just concerned for them. “She wore white to her sister’s wedding last week! WHITE! Bless her heart, I guess some people’s children just don’t know better.” (“Well you know they say she was always after the groom—“ “NO! Bless her heart.”)

That last one is the BYH they would need to deploy (but didn’t) in the Make Some Noise clip, but I feel like it honestly wasn’t necessary because the “prayer request” already served as a cover for talking shit. It probably would have come out if they’d been allowed to keep the skit going and they needed plausible deniability for spilling juicier details that maybe Jesus didn’t actually need to hear about. Thank you for coming to my Performing Southernness While Being Neurodivergent talk.

[please-dont-pet-the-okapi]

Would like to throw in one additional usage that falls somewhere between the last two: "I am genuinely sorry for this person, but at the same time I acknowledge that they did indeed bring this problem upon themselves."

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[rynnay]

here's a silly little guy i drew for a dnd one-shot

[rynnay]

Were you aware that a Temeraire: The Roleplaying Game is coming to Kickstarter?

Not until I read this message :0

[omnidudess-deactivated20240501]

Oh yeah, she deserved that Oscar bad

[dancinbutterfly]

He wants to fuck her so bad it makes him look stupid

[xadnem]

That's his fiancee.

[westofwonders]

[itssjanedoe]

[s-h-a-s-e]

[goodfriendo]

i wonder what they're gossiping about

[jmawork]

had to draw them

[pagerunner-j]

Somebody please give the WSDOT social media folks a raise.

[rynnay]

Sorry I've been quiet, life has been happening (good, bad, neutral, the whole gamut) and I somehow keep forgetting tumblr exists. But rest assured I persist and despite everything I'm still me👍I hope y'all be doin the same.

[feelmyroarrrr]

Link

What a thirst trap!!!

[the-real-seebs]

... gotta say i am genuinely impressed by this man's ability to fold a fitted sheet and have it come out well.

[unashamedly-enthusiastic]

[teaboot]

HELLO?

[rynnay]

nobody told me how much of getting older is just constantly reminding yourself to sit Correctly, Or Else

[spicymochi]

your month, your mini creature!

[homoquartz]

i’ve warmed up significantly towards the concept of small talk ever since i learned that its sole purpose is to make friendly noises.

as long as you smile and nod, people are satisfied. it’s just to show that you are nice and there with good intentions. we’re small in a big world and have to rely on other people to be decent to us. so we do our little human dance to each other to say, “i’m not here to hurt you. here’s something we have in common, like the weather or sports or itchy sweaters, so we both know we’re on the same team. we both agree on a basic fact, like that it is rainy or that being itchy is uncomfortable, and this proves we can get along. i’m being light-hearted and non-threatening right now.”

small talk isn’t to get to know a person. it’s just a greeting to affirm you’re buddies in the universe.

i am motivated by wanting the other person to know i am friendly, so i have gotten pretty decent at small talk when i used to hate it.

[borderlinereminders]

Let’s talk about emotional testing.

The kind of testing that can damage your relationships. The “pull away just to see if they’ll follow” kind. The “I’m going to say I’m fine and hope you prove I’m not too much” kind.

The “If I disappear, will you notice?” kind.

If you have BPD or struggle with abandonment trauma, this pattern might be painfully familiar.

And look, you’re not a bad person for doing it. You’re someone who was hurt. Someone who learned, probably very young, that directness wasn’t safe. That being honest about your needs got you punished, ignored, or abandoned.

So instead of asking, you test.

You might pick a fight to see if they’ll leave.

You might go quiet and hope they’ll chase you.

You might drop hints instead of clearly communicating your needs.

But here’s the truth:

Testing creates fear where you actually crave closeness. It pushes people away when you’re begging them (silently) to come closer. And it feeds the very thing you’re trying to avoid: rejection. It can also become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You’re scared people will leave and this ends up driving them to leave.

So what can you do instead?

Start small. Practice asking out loud:

“I’m scared you’ll leave. I could use some reassurance.”

“Can you check in with me later today? I get anxious when things go quiet.”

“I don’t want to test you, but I notice I do. I want to work on that.”

That’s trust. That’s vulnerability. That’s what real connection is built on.

It’s terrifying, yes.

But it’s also the first step toward a relationship that doesn’t run on fear but instead it runs on honesty.

You deserve that kind of love.

(And you’re capable of giving it, too.)

[lun4cat]

please, please help, they're going everywhere

[strike-another-match]

heartbreaking: well intentioned person who needs detailed instructions to function is giving extremely detailed instructions to person who gets overwhelmed with large volumes of information