like neely o'hara

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[chunkyheels]

https://www.instagram.com/p/BiA1leHADRd/

[trulyvincent]

Max Loeffler 

[notinlove]

[for-the-western-record-deactiva]

The Knight of the Flowers details | George Rochegrosse | 1894

[jamesleech]

crazy, happy, foolish, fleeting

Oil, pencil crayon, graphite on panel, 18" x 24", 2019

[phoebe-does]

i realised recently that mindlessly scrolling through instagram to avoid awkward situations where I have nothing to do and don’t want to talk to anyone is feeding my anxiety. Doing this when I’m waiting for my coffee to take away in the morning leaves me less present and less grounded. It stops me from noticing more about my surroundings and stops me from sitting with my own thoughts. Stop mindlessly scrolling, just sit and do nothing. It’s okay to be bored, you don’t have to always be doing something. Look up.

[oligopsalter-deactivated2020060]

[rascova]

[reallyreallyreallytrying]

ever since i downloaded my first word document i have been obsessed with files

[beingofpuredata]

Me writing my resume

[bettedavisgf]

booty shorts with “i love you most ardently” on the ass

[sunbathe]

https://www.instagram.com/p/BPn6Nkbjsgg/

[jaw8jaw]

Salvador Dali silver-gilt cutlery, 1957

[brokenlockets]

what i use to eat my microwaved tv dinner at 2 am

[1010ll]

https://www.instagram.com/p/BpxcjZFAmH0/

[hunterbadbatch]

[andreauxminyard]

looking for a group of 5 to 7 women who will sit on the floor and wail with me in grief

[furiousgoldfish]

symptoms of trauma are proof of abuse. if you’re struggling with anxiety, self doubt, self hate, low confidence, trauma symptoms, flashbacks, nightmares, paranoia, panic and severe emotional injuries, those are proof enough that you’ve been subjected to torture. your feelings aren’t fooling you, they’re consequences of abuse.

[kushandwizdom]

If someone isn't available during your most crucial time, then their presence any other time is useless.

[mymindsecho]

This isn’t realistic for adults. I’m sorry it’s just not.

Don’t fall into believing that, “if they’re a true friend they’ll drop everything and run to be by your side!” crap.

As a responsible adult there will be times that your friends are hurting and you won’t be able to go to them.

There are times that you will have to go to work, or take your sick kid to the doctor, or do many other things that will prevent you from being there for your friend.

When your friend calls you and they’re falling apart and it’s ten minutes until you have to leave for work, you’re not a bad friend for saying, “Look, I love you. I’m sorry this is happening, but I have to go. I’ll call you back tonight when the kids are asleep.” Or “I’m so sorry this is happening. I love you and I want to be here for you but I’ve got to get to work. I’ll call and check on you during my lunch.”

Adult life is hectic and busy with important things all the time and unfortunately it’s also full of shitty things happening to people we love.

Do your best to be there for the people you love and ask for support when you need it but be understanding when being a responsible adult comes before helping you.

[neurotoxinsonline]

The idea that people need to be there any time you need them is really damaging and unhealthy, too. You can’t place value on a person or a relationship based solely on whether or not they’re available, no questions asked, whenever you need them.

In addition to the above: sometimes, someone simply does not have the energy to help. Maybe they’re coming out of a rough patch themself, maybe they have been busy all day,maybe a chronic illness is flaring up. There are a myriad of reasons someone may not be able to be there.

Obviously, if someone is taking you for granted, and never seems to care how you’re doing, that’s an issue. But to write someone off because their life and your life didn’t line up quite right at a given point in time, or maybe even on more than one occasion, is not a healthy way to handle things.