Perpetually Sleepy

"Then I said goodnight and tucked you away inside a place called Nostalgia, where you'll always remain unspoiled, somewhere between my lungs that used to breathe ocean air, and my belly that fluttered with hope."

[lithiumfairie]

extremely depressed and burnt out but in a hot and myterious way

[bestyouuniveristy]

You glow differently when your confidence is fueled by belief in yourself instead of validation from others.

[theambitiouswoman]

[theambitiouswoman]

respond to inconsistency with your absence.

[1800kittylvr]

my life's purpose is to be the cutest girl alive

[theeternalwomb]

"Tips For Navigating Men That Aren't The One": Part 2

this is the second part of a blog post I made some time ago with the same title. If you haven't read that one please go read that here. The first post was both a satirical and basic set of rules that you can apply to help separate good men or potential partners from the rest. I fully intend to make this second one a more in-depth version of the first. Adding on to make a more complete and secure set of rules to follow.

Disclaimer: As stated in the first post, you don't have to follow these rules if you don't want to, these are what I believe helped/helps me. Thank you. <3

I hope that you're doing and feeling well and that all of your desires come to you effortlessly. 🤍

Rule #1: Please be aware that men will choose for their ideal life/ or dream.

As a woman, at least once in our lives, we may discover a man who cares for us or maybe even loves us but will choose someone over us who is completely different, looks different, behaves different, thinks different, or simply does not even fit into the same category we separate ourselves into. And this is okay, this is okay because we have to understand that men will always choose someone who fits better into the lifestyle they desire to live or the lifestyle they feel they want to live.

for example, a man who is wealthy and is looking for someone high maintenance or interested in the life that he is living is going to seek out someone who fits the criteria for what he feels is ideal. A man who is religious or has a pretty saturated cultural background and fully intends to remain that way may seek out someone of that same religious or cultural background.

Now, remember, stray away from subjecting yourself to a critical and harmful mindset that pushes you to believe that you are below someone or the issue. You are not. People will simply chase after what they think is ideal. But also, if you are a high-value woman yourself and believe that you are a prize, have a lot to offer, and anyone would be lucky to be with you in the first place, do not dwell on a man choosing someone who you may perceive to be not as well sorted out then you are or someone who lives a completely different lifestyle than you do. We often find that men will go to who they feel understands and reflects them. Whether he's a drug addict or a model for Ambicrombi and Fitch.

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Rule #2: Beware of men who do not truly respect you.

If a man can cuss you out, belittle you, refuse to validate your emotions, ignore your boundaries, apologize without change occurring afterward, lie to you, make fun of your appearance (physically or even your fashion), not prioritize your time together or communicating with you by choosing to put things above that, etc. He does not respect you. It is your responsibility as your own woman and your own person to immediately remove him from your space as soon as you notice that he doesn't respect you. Not only as a woman but as a person.

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Rule #3: If he can disappear or leave he doesn't deserve to be there.

A man who loves, respects, and honors his woman would never willingly disappear or leave his woman to be alone and all by herself or face the world alone. This could be as simple as him leaving you alone at a function or a party or in life by ghosting or disappearing.

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Rule #4: It's your responsibility to identify your triggers and your trauma.

The art of seeking out, attracting, and choosing a good and worthy partner if that's what you're looking for needs to start with healing and identifying patterns in your own life. You undermine the work of your spirit guides and ignore your own self-value by continuing to choose men or participate in bad habits because of your trauma. You have an unhealthy attachment style? Work on yourself and do what's necessary to change that so that you can securely be in a relationship. Have you forgotten to realize that your past relationships and partners may be a reflection of your parental relationship and parents? It's time to heal that trauma so that you can be attracted to better and choose better rather than being attracted to and loving a narcissist or someone who exudes narcissist behavior just like your mother or your father.

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Rule #5: See men for their actions and not for their words or their beauty.

Sometimes, and more often than not, we miss out on the crucial step of seeing people for who they truly are, the types of things that they do in comparison to what they say, and their behaviors. You have to do a better job at identifying red flags. Sometimes when we love people or are infatuated with people we become blind to the truth. Repeat after me, "It is my responsibility to identify red flags of people who come into my space." Remember this for later. We get caught up, confused, played, and mistreated when we don't do a good job at holding people to their actions and behavior and we just listen to the dream they're selling us instead. We must hold people accountable even if we love them or want to be with them. Because nobody else will do this for you.

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Rule #6: Remind yourself of the truth when recovering from breakups.

When you get out of a relationship with a narcissistic partner or someone who hurt you and didn't care, someone who didn't turn out to be the person you thought they were. Remember that it was your love that made them so special, so kind, so gentle. That they were none of those things at least not to you. Remember, "It was my love that made this person so special, not them." and "It is my responsibility to hold them accountable for them not being very kind or good to me." If that person loved you or cared for you the way you thought they had, they would not have done what they did to you.

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Rule #7: Activate your "dark-feminine" energy and preserve your "light-feminine" energy.

Your dark feminine energy is the part of you that protects you against anyone who tries to come in and do wrong to you, especially men. strengthen your intuition, be able to identify when someone has good intentions and when they don't, and do what's necessary to step into your dark feminine energy so that she can build boundaries that bad men and bad people cannot cross. Save your light feminine energy for those who truly deserve it, your compassion, your nurturing, and your soft interior for those who earn your love, and deserve your love. Repeat after me, "It is my responsibility to harness my power and look out for my heart and my peace."

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Rule #8: No more wasting your energy or your time on men who can't give you what you want, don't give you want, and don't offer anything for what you offer.

this one is quite self explanitory. Again, cannot. do not. and don't offer anything that you want. is a no go. Those types of people are a waste of time and space in your life. If you are manifesting marriage, a divine connection, true love, or a long-term partnership why are we sitting around wasting our time, energy, and love on someone non-committal and unhealed? Ladies, why? Do better.

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Rule #9: No more "but.. he changed." excuses or sympathizing.

I've just told you that it is your responsibility to identify red flags and bad behavior. Hold yourself to that, and hold the women in your life to that standard as well. "bUt He WaS dIfFereNt aNd hAd EveRyThINg BefORE I sAcRifICEd EvEryThInG aND nOW hES cRAzy, MeAN, aNd iNcApAbLE oF beHavInG LIkE aN adUlT!" Listen to how that sounds. We know that it is very difficult to unlearn bad and old behaviors so how do we come to the conclusion that after someone was "perfect" they suddenly began to behave differently or display outrageous expressions of behavior. It just doesn't make any sense.

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Rule #10: Be careful what you wish for.

This one can be kept short and sweet, don't manifest a partner, don't tell the universe you would like love...without being specific about what you're asking for. Set your intentions and desires straight.

"I'd like a partner." ✗ WRONG!

"I'd like a healed partner." "A balanced partner." "I'd like the right partner." ✓ WELL DONE.

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These are my ten rules, I hope these inspired you, or you found something useful here. Remember, what you put out into the world is what you get back, look out for yourself, and uphold accountability above all. I love you. <3!

[theeternalwomb]

Rules for Navigating Men That Aren't The One:

These are very simple. I have twelve of these rules, feel free to write them down or add to them when you repost or whenever you feel like it. Also, Disclaimer: you don't have to follow any of these rules, it's all up to you. I love you and I hope you're doing well. 🤍

Rule #1: "Do not give these men sh*t they don't deserve, did not earn, or cannot afford."

This goes for everything. Material things, your time, your body, your energy, special treatment. He must earn it. He must deserve it. No excuses.

Rule #2: "We do not argue with men nor do we agree with them in any circumstance."

This was obviously partially a joke. What I really meant here was don't give them the luxury of getting under your skin with ignorance or over something irrelevant. We don't gain anything from a heated interaction with a man that isn't offering anything and the only thing they win is the ability to make you sweat.

Rule #3: "Do not let them hit. Settle for a strap and a lesbian"

I'm ONLY kidding delete your paragraph. What I really meant for this was to be the woman who knows what she likes and can give herself pleasure without the need of a male companion. If you're sexually active and you want a partner for casual sex too that's always valid and always okay.

Rule #4: "Don't date men that you don't really like aren't worth it."

Originally, this said: "Stay single. You ain't never need a b*tch, you what a b*tch need." But I changed it to fit the tone of my post. This rule is important, not everyone you find attractive needs to be pursued and some men aren't cut out to be good boyfriends/partners. Don't bless people with your energy who never deserved it in the first place.

Rule #5: "Do not laugh at their jokes. Boys aren't funny. Tough crowd tonight."

Satire. This rule is about understanding it's okay to not entertain men or people even when you don't enjoy their sense of humor or something they've said didn't sound as good as it did in their head. Sometimes we hear people make jokes about things like S/A that really aren't funny. Be real.

Rule #6: "Men ain't sh*t, don't know sh*t, and will never be sh*t"

Alright, okay, I'll settle down.

Rule #7: "If you don't believe him that's okay"

Sometimes people lie, even for absolutely no reason it's completely alright to feel like maybe someone isn't being completely honest with you about something. Oftentimes, men lie in relationships even when it's not about anything important. Trust your gut and your intuition if you feel like something isn't right, speak up.

Rule #8: "If he wanted to, he would."

Simply put. Men are going to do what they want to do regardless of the situation. If he wanted to come to see you he would. If he wanted to speak to you or have something serious for you he would. If he wanted to do something nice for you and treat you to something special he would. Don't settle. Never take bullsh*t excuses.

Rule #9: "Never trust a boy/man who only texts you or calls you at night."

These types are no good. Red Flag! Avoid this at all costs. Some men are busy, okay he'll make time for you. But someone who only texts/calls you at night and makes excuses as to why he can't talk to you during the day or simply doesn't answer is someone who doesn't have the purest of intentions. You know exactly what he wants. Don't ignore this. Don't be naive.

Rule #10: "Stay away from boys/men with mommy issues."

They need therapy, meditation, and a journal not a super hot girlfriend who is a lovely person and would do anything for him. Granted, we all sympathize, growing up without a parent is never fun but you have to understand that growing up without a mommy takes a huge toll on most men and they tend to come with a lot of issues that cannot be fixed with just your presence alone. It's okay to love, respect, and sympathize with someone from a distance.

Rule #11: "Never let a boy/man tell you he doesn't need or want you more than once."

This one is important, it's disrespecting yourself to stick around when someone has already made it abundantly clear you are not what they truly want. Your love and respect for yourself has to be bigger than the love and respect you have for others. What's meant for you will be yours. Period.

Rule #12: "Men will put you through what you allow them to."

This is one of my favorite ones. Set your boundaries and do not break them down or move them for anybody. Especially not a man who will certainly continue to put you through unnecessary drama and pain just because he can.

Stay Pretty, -𝓑

[australiansanta]

i forgot my earphones more like throw me off a building

[gnetophyte]

that “oooo” when someone got In Trouble in elementary school… that was a greek chorus

[a-treatise-on-velociraptors]

your ship may be problematic but is it blocking the suez canal

[whitecop]

ur tellin me a strawberry pounded this cake

[insomniac-dot-ink]

I know we’ve already read a lot of “men writing women” crap, but I am absolutely losing my mind at this passage

me: *gets depressed*

my breasts:

EDIT: this passage is from “The Marriage Plot” by Jeffrey Eugenides

[magpie-to-the-morning]

“my child is completely fine” your child’s favorite fic genre is hurt/comfort

[seungchacco]

please show lino’s creachers love or he will hold you at gunpoint

[tiktoksthataregood-ish]

[semiotextiana]

im so sexy and fun and fucking doomed

[kissherbattery]

"are you okay" girl i am on ao3 looking for fanfiction from my comfort ship when i was 12 what do you think