The Reason Why Gray Decided to “Love” juvia
(I added this to my “Veritable Essay in Response to a Pro Gr///vian Argument” post [whose link is tagged here https://gralunaisland.tumblr.com/post/668668339690815488/a-veritable-essay-in-response-to-a-pro-gruvian ], but I’m posting it separately in case no one sees).
The apparent reason for Gray’s polarizing shift from being creeped out by juvia’s behavior to wanting to make her happy over anyone else is because juvia sacrificed her life for Gray.
But what’s the difference between her and any of his other friends who were prepared to die for him?
The answer to that question is that from the beginning, juvia has been declaring her absolute love for him.
That is the only difference. And it’s not even a good one.
He proclaims that he will take her affections seriously for once not because he suddenly likes her, but because he feels obligated, indebted, bound to return her affections; otherwise he feels like he’s disregarded her emotions unfairly somehow, like he owes her since he “hasn’t given her anything even though she’s signed her life away to him”; otherwise she threw her life away “for nothing in return”.
(Let me tell you this. That’s a big no-no. Just because your stalker and abuser throws their life away for you does NOT mean you have to suddenly return their feelings. They never cared about your feelings—otherwise they wouldn’t be stalking or emotionally and physically abusing you in the first place!—so why should you care about theirs??)
Think about it. Gray never said that to anyoneeee else who sacrificed or was about to sacrifice their lives for him. The only reason he told juvia that was because she basically bargained her life away for his devotion. She already had her cards on the table, she already let Gray know what she wanted, with her open declarations of love, and all she needed was for Gray to feel compelled to throw his hat in the ring.
You might say, “well it’s not like that was her reasoning for killing herself! She was just being selfless!” To that I say well obviously she was being selfless because she has no sense of self outside of Gray in the first place. Her life doesn’t matter to her at all, so it’s no big deal, all that matters is Gray. She doesn’t exist without Gray.
And secondly, that may have not been her goal, but if she really wanted Gray to fall in love with her organically, naturally, for her as a person and not the one thing she did for him, then she would A, not stalk and harass him and listen to him when he says NO (consent, people! It’s important!), and B, she wouldn’t feel good about Gray returning her love just because he feels indebted to her.
She’s just happy Gray-sama is finally not rejecting her disgusting advances.
In any event, that’s never a good start/factor of a relationship anyway, with one side madly and blindly obsessed with the other, and with the other side being in the relationship because of an overwhelming sense of guilt and debt and duty to the other.
I hope this post makes some sense. And as always, thank you for your time and have a wonderful day!
Edit: Thanks for reblogging and reading the comments, @crystallos-sol ! It means a lot that a well-known protector of Gray Fullbuster likes my post!
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