saltofspencer

pissed off genderfluid lesbian

[saltofspencer]

some reminders:

bisexuality =/= attraction to men

nonbinary =/= no gender

bi lesbians have existed for longer that me and my parents have been alive

straight people can be queer

being queer does not negate your whiteness

lesbian is and always has been an umbrella term

flag discourse is a waste of time

lesbiphobia is the intersection of misogyny and homophobia, not whatever upsets a lesbian

lesbians existing cannot cause lesbiphobia

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this post is for all men. cis men, trans men, ppl who are sometimes men, who are also men, all men.

You’re so handsome. I don’t know if anyone had told you that before but they should have because god. You are beautiful.

You are so smart, so fucking funny and a joy to be around. You’re presence lights up the room and people are delighted to see you.

You are such a big part of this world, you are so loved and even though I don’t know you personally, I KNOW that you will make an impact.

You deserve to be cared for, to be held, to be loved. You deserve to cry, to talk about how YOU feel, to be yourself. You deserve the world.

Read that again. Listen to those words and let them resonate with you because they are true.

You are a bright light in the darkness and I am so so glad you are here.

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acting like lesbians CANNOT have any relationship with men at all is anti-sex work btw! <3

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please reblog this post if your blog is mspec lesbian and mspec gay friendly!

[saltofspencer]

nice

[genderkoolaid]

the thing is you will probably never know the small nuances of people's identities, online or offline. you don't know their history or their emotions that leads them to use certain labels. and they don't have to explain it to you, either. you literally cannot understand why people will ID the ways they do, and if there is no tangible harm, why get so upset over it? who was this community made for, if not the undefinable freaks of gender and sexuality?

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I want queer people on the internet particularly young queer people to know that most topics of queer “discourse” are absolutely fine in irl queer spaces. I’ve got a friend who’s bisexual and a lesbian. The response when they said that was basically “huh. neat.” Another friend is a trans guy who doesn’t bind and wears dresses. We only comment on him wearing a dress to tell him he looks great. I’m semi-out with using he/him pronouns and my right to be a lesbian has never been questioned. The others don’t fully understand neos but respect them anyway. We’re all just trying to survive cisheteronormativity none of us give a shit about attacking each other. I promise queer spaces are not as hostile as they seem online.

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why are so many gen z folk exclusionists?

Its got something to do with the times we have grown up in. Being queer in this day and age is arguably better than any other time (if you’ve only known this time that is), and it has lulled this generation into a false sense of security. making us believe that we’ll be accepted into cishet society as long as we are the “good queers”. this generation lacks the life experience to understand that queerness in of itself is a threat to cisheteronormativity, no matter how much you tell other queer to kill themselves you won’t be accepted.

there is also a dangerous puritan streak emerging, people who believe that consuming any content (regardless of theme) with people under the age of 18 involved is pedophilia. this streak has allowed the 4chan creation, kink at pride discourse, to sail smoothly in every pride month and wreck havock. this generation will not save anyone, we are not activists, we are not “woke”, we treat activism and allyship like a medal we can wear to make ourselves look better, not as a full time commitment.

if you are an exclusionist of any kind, i need you to think very hard about your reasons for it. is it for cishet validation? is it because you’ve taken a label so personally that you’ve convinced yourself it actually can hurt you? or is it because of those puritanical ideas you’ve absorbed through your time on tik tok? talk to some people who are not your age. 22 is not old. 32 is not old. talk to someone with more life experience than you because you might not like it but you actually know very fucking little.

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🏳️‍⚧️ reminders for pride month 🏳️‍⚧️

- straight =/= not queer

- stonewall was a riot

- the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for agender, asexual and aromantic, not ally

- be wary of any discourse started this month, it is almost always started by right wing groups intending to sow chaos during pride (their go-to is kink at pride, perfect for pearl clutching)

- “i’m illegal in 70+ countries 🫠” jokes are privileged and tone-deaf, stop fucking making them

- pronouns =/= gender

- people can identify however they want, the world is literally going backwards rn care about something more important than a random mspec lesbian on twitter

- whilst pride events may seem fun, there is still a global pandemic so BE SAFE

and finally

- lift up your queer friends, donate to mutual aid funds and be unapologetically queer ❤️

[angrysnakes]

Mspec lesbian discourse is fucking stupid because it's so exclusionary towards multigender folks and everyone trying to gatekeep lesbian by making it a strictly defined box just forgets that people who are both men and women (or nonbinary) people exist. And they get upset when you point that out. A lot of them pretend to support nonbinary people but then are hostile towards enbies that have weird or confusing or controversial identities. Just say y'all hate or don't believe in multigender people and go

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exclus are really out here like "all of you need to stay out of lesbian business" and then turn around and demand other communities stop using certain flags

like there's literally no self awareness…💀

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some reminders for exclusionists

1. mspec lesbians do not inherently like men.

2. all mspec means is attraction to more than one gender

3. nonbinary =/= no gender

4. telling someone they can’t identify a certain way means nothing to them, i promise you

5. read “Stone Butch Blues” by Leslie Feinberg

6. by using terf rhetoric (lesbians can’t like/be men) you allow terfs a resistance-free way into the community and put trans people in danger

7. gender and sexuality are so incredibly personal and individual that no one has any right to tell another person how they can/cannot identify. it is not up to you.

8. focus your energy on real issues. your “mspec lesbians are harmful” posts are extremely performative and a waste of everyones energy and time

final note: if you’re an exclusionist and have a genuine question for me about any identity you don’t understand, feel free to ask and i’ll try to answer as best as i can /gen

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there is something so vile about white queers who sit on this app (and on twitter) and cry about how mspec lesbians oppress them, whilst at the same time violently upholding white supremacist structures of gender and sexuality in their active use of radfem and terf rhetoric.

and it is always these same people who consistently push the hating men bs whilst holding massive amounts of privilege over lots of men.

this is why i can never get behind any form of exclusion. it ONLY focuses on the white-centred view of privilege (cis people oppress trans people, straight people oppress gay people, etc etc) and its creates situations where you actually have people agreeing that transmasc people hold privilege over transfems????? as if its that fucking easy!

so before you go type that angry paragraph about how the mean scary bi lesbians make you all sad and insecure, go do some self reflection. go look outside and realise there are bigger issues, and RECOGNISE YOUR FUCKING PRIVILEGE.

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