I wonder if I wasnât so pressured into piv sex starting at 16, would I ever have had it at all? Honestly I donât think so, it hurt quite a lot the first few times. If I wasnât so pushed towards men romantically / sexually and away from women, would I even like men?
Teenage boys routinely coerce their girlfriends into unwanted sexual intercourse. No matter how much pain we suffer during this experience, girls are told this is ânormalâ and we are expected to pretend we enjoy it. Part of the virginity myth is about teaching girls to romanticize âthe first timeâ so we accept coercion, pain, humiliation and emotional trauma as a ânaturalâ aspect of sexuality.
My 24 year old coworker, very old fashioned, told me about how she had piv sex for the first time recently. It sounds so clinical the way she talks about it, I doubt sheâs EVER masturbated, I doubt if the guy had the decency to do any foreplay it lasted more than two minutes. She canât even say the words âhaving sexâ she just says âwhen we were togetherâ and says she cried the whole time. Also she said he hates using condoms so pretty sure he didnât use one then either. They broke up about a month afterwards, good for her. She says sheâs glad she at least didnât fall in love with him, but she still âgot fuckedâ. It makes me so sad, this is how most people see het sex. Man fucks, woman gets fucked. Man gets pleasure, woman endures pain. No questioning. Woman can say no at first, âfor nowâ, but eventually she has to give in to his demands or sheâs selfish.
How would men react if we told them they had to let us hurt their genitalia, that itâs normal if we make them bleed, and they have to accept this because itâs just the way things are?
I dont think het sex is inherently bad but I agree! Its unbelievable how many women think that sex is supposed to hurt and âthats just how it isâ or are constantly pressured into sexual situations they do not want or enjoy! Especially teenage girls who are basically childrenâŠ
I donât think itâs inherently bad either but thereâs more to sex than penis in vagina and a lot of people still donât get that
Im so glad that there are posts like this floating around because when I was a teenager I didnât know any of this and my first real boyfriend would routinely make me bleed and it never felt good and it even went as far as forcing me to do anal in which he heald a pillow Over my head so he didnât have to hear me crying and I didnât Know it was considered rape until YEARS later. I fucking hate teenage boy entitlement to sex. I hate how Society both shames women for not having sex but also Shames them for having sex. I hate how itâs considered Normal to have painful and or unwanted sex and I hate that Iâm not the only one who went thru it. I hate that I have a daughter who may face this One day. Sheâs only 1. I was only 16 when it happened to me.
