My journey thru recovery.....Addiction & MM

[dharmasimulation-deactivated201]

Most of the pain you’re dealing with are really just thoughts… ever think of that?

(via aazizam)

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if you miss someone who does not miss you, or who is no good for you, or is unattainable, take all the love you once felt for them and spread it around other places. put your love in worthwhile people and things, turn the romance in to passions for hobbies or admiration for others- enrich your own life. focus on yourself and those who actively make you happy.

[bratsquad]

You’re not a bad person for the ways you tried to kill your sadness.

I really needed to hear that right now. (via ladyduffney)

[it-was-not-the-cat]

The hardest part about recovery is that you have to keep choosing it, even on the bad days.

(via satans-ghost)

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[kushandwisdom]

ONLY LOVE

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Tips for Coping with Emotional Pain

Accept that pain is a normal part of life …

A relationship break up, the death of your pet, failing an exam, being hurt by a friend. It means that you are human and not a machine – but how do you cope with the hurt and the pain?

1. Endure it. There are some things in life which you can’t just wish away. You have to be patient and allow yourself to heal. For example, if you break your arm you have to wear it in a cast; and if your heart is broken, you have to let it heal. You have to ride the roller coaster till your feelings stabilise.

2. Talk to someone. It’s natural to conclude that no-one understands and to want to repress, or to try and hide, the pain. But you need the compassion of those who truly care. Take the offer of help and get support from your friends.

3. Don’t allow other people to trivialise your feelings. Your feelings are real and should be treated with respect. And accepting how you feel will enable you to grieve, and to start to recover and to be yourself again.

4. Don’t allow yourself to fixate on your negative emotions. It is healthy to acknowledge how terrible you feel. But don’t allow the pity party to drag on for too long. Force yourself to go out, and to spend time with your friends. Get involved in other things, and maybe try out something new.

5. Don’t allow your pain define you. It may have been a trauma, and a terrible thing – but don’t let what happened determine what you’ll do, or who you will become, or how good your life will be. You win in life by choosing your own destiny.

6. Don’t play the blame game. Regardless of what happened, don’t indulge in blaming others – for that’s not going to help you to move on with your life. See it as a chance to learn, and gain some life experience. You have grown as a person and have better coping skills. Thus, it can serve to make you stronger, and wiser, in the end.

7. Put together a ‘Thankfulness List’. Make a list of all the things that you are thankful for today. It will speed up your recovery and change the way you feel.

[nastygall]

[creamputa-deactivated20160125]

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[highmami]

highmami

[scadestin]

Happy Birthday Mark!

[scadestin]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MARK !!!!

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[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go.

Mooji (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

I wish

[hipster-and-thoughts]

[scadestin]

[scadestin]

This is so hard . I miss him so much.i have so many regrets. I just want to be numb but I can't.

[celloface]

If you were raised in a family where closeness was not a reality, you are much more prone to form an addictive relationship for two reasons: first, you were taught to distance yourself from people, not connect with them; second, growing up in this type of family left you with a deep, lonely emptiness that you’ve wanted to have filled. Addiction offers the illusion of such fulfillment.

Craig Nakken, The Addictive Personality (via celloface)

[marwanmarwan]

He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” – Bob Marley

(via marwanmarwan)

I think the good far outweighs the bad in our relationship. We laughed way to much to say we were unhappy very often. I may have many things to work on but realize I am never going to be perfect and neither are you. You have no idea how much you have taught me and brought me back life. I've never taken you granted. I noticed the small things but I didn't thank you enough....but I Always have counted my blessings knowing you were the best blessing of all. You are always on my mind, and I think of things to say to you about how you mean to me. I have a hard time getting the words out. This note probably sounds very stupid. I trust you. I love our chemistry and never imagined I could be so attracted to someone. The way you touched me blew mind everytime!!!! The thought of it never happening again is tearin g me up . I was going g to tell you everything , I really was.