saw this on a different post (commented by @genderkoolaid) but let's actually talk about this
i'm alloaro, and while i do experience some romantic attraction (you could call me arospec i guess but i just prefer saying aro and calling it a day) i don't think a lot of people understand how alienating it is to be alloaro, and how that impacts so many alloaro people, especially men and masc aligned people, as well as people of color, or really any group that we already over/hyper sexualize.
you get called "heartless" by your own community simply because you experience sexual attraction more than romantic attraction or because you ONLY experience sexual attraction.
i've seen this take in aro and ace spaces that sex is dirty, allosexuals are dirty, all we want is to fuck people and use them for sex. and while there is a time and a place to talk about the danger of the social pressure to have sex and be sexually active........it should not EVER come at the expense of harming others in the queer community
straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, pan, queer, etc, all sexualities get thrown into this awful fucking place when we view alloaros as "only wanting to be players/have sex/emotionless fuck machines"
it's a disgusting mentality that really needs to be stopped because it ends up just repeating the same queerphobic narratives. and no, it doesn't matter if you say it to cishet aro men, because it's still harming aromantic people.
and trust me, it's an easy trap to fall into. you start trying to convince yourself that because they're still able to have sex that they aren't "really queer." but that's just not how queerness works.
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