Doctrine of Beliefs and the Lies of 'Love'
I don't believe in soul mates or love at first sight or meant to be. I don't believe that everything happens for a reason and I don't believe that there is one person out there who I am destined to fall in love with. I don't believe in destiny or destined-to-be anything or any which way. I don't believe that it is absolutely necessary to be with one person your entire life, but I also don't believe that life can be truly fulfilling without giving a special kind of love to one chosen person. I don't believe in fate or any other fairy tales that may devalue life--but wait a minute before you write me off and run away and forget me forever.
I believe in hurt and heart break and pain in general--and that hurting is an elemental part of living life and growing your heart. I believe that life is a random series of events both bad and good and I believe that it is important to realize howsignificant that makes every single moment. I believe that when bad things happen to anyone, it is important to feel that misery, to invest time in hurting, to learn from it, and then to grow with it. I believe that when good things happen, it is both a result from a series of personal and external decisions and the luck of timing--and that luck is what makes it special; that luck is what makes it worth celebrating; that luck is what makes it an experience.
I believe in the utmost importance of experiencing life as it happens, and refraining from the temptation of just simply reacting to life with too many uncontrolled thoughts. I believe that is what it takes to truly live, and live well.
I believe that with anyone and everyone you come in contact with, it is possible to fall in love with them and create the shared experience of soul mating--and I encourage that completely; to fall in love with everyone. And I believe it is important to realize that. I believe that when you finally decide who it is you want to invest an extraordinary and unique kind of love in, out of the trillions of other people out there who you may have otherwise fallen in love with, that that distinct choice is what makes it a higher understanding of love in every physical and emotional sense--then and only then will we understand a higher meaning of love and the importance that choice has in that experience.
I believe that emotions are an experience and not a state of being. I believe that religion (in any form, label, or practice) is an experience both personal and shared, and not a membership. I believe that people are an experience and not a relationship. I believe that love is a state of being and not simply an experience.
I believe in confusion and conflict and contradictions just as much as I believe in feeling good when you wake up in the morning and already feel the sun on your skin--or when you reach for your phone and see the name of that one person you've been thinking about all day--or the exact moment when you decided to stop being sad, and started feeling sad and allowed yourself to let that feeling fumble through your nerves and tumble down your spine so it would encompass you, embody you, and then grow through you and become that quiet light of happy that burns at the tip of your chest and pulls on the sides of your lips into an inevitable, surprising, unexplainable smile.
I believe that love and life are interchangeable words. And that all of these beliefs and disbeliefs could change at any single moment and recreate my perspective. And more importantly, I believe that belief, in every sense of the word, is what shapes existence and defines what is real.
