demi sexual with some questions

Just learning about what I've been my whole life! Just a blog to explore my demigoddess self.

[semi-demi-minigod]

Coming to a painful realization that the man I'm in love with, though he likes me, is simply not attracted to me. Im a big gal and im working on it, but sometimes I feel like he's grooming me to be attractive enough to actually date.

He's my best friend and while he is flirty when we talk long distance, and a lot when I come to visit, I can tell he simply isn't going to feel sexual attraction towards me.

He's asked me if I would like to try dating (again. I had asked him out long distance a long while ago but it didnt last) when i moved back to town and I was (am) estatic.

However, it was only after i told him I had secretly seeing someone that he asked. He had made some comments like he had never been able to keep a relationship for very long but that we had been friends for like 5 years.

So I feel like he wants me to be single for when he does decides I've lost enough weight to bw attractive and also like he feels stuck with me or something.

Dont get me wrong, he actively seeks my company and we have a great time together; we flirt a bit and make dirty jokes around each other. Maybe I'm being self conscious or whatever and maybe i just have high expectations of a whirlwind romance where i am the only object of his desire, like he is for me.

I dont blame him for his feelings, I mean its not like he can help it either; its nature! I'm trying to be a healthier, sexier me and god its hard not to use his affection as a motivator. It should be for me that I become active.

He does get rather jealous when i mention any other guys, even like fictional men, such as sebastion from Stardew Valley! Like he wants me for me, but just isnt attracted to me. I should talk to him about it instead of letting it fester in my head.

If we are going to be together, we simply must talk about these things. I love him so very much and ive only had eyes for him for years and I think my imaginings of what I want with him is getting in the way of the reality.

I juat needed to put the words out i guess.

[being-demisexual]

How I look at myself when I realize I need to make actual human connection in order for my demisexual ass to be attracted to someone

[demi-romantics]

Stop being so relatable how dare

[being-demisexual]

All of us messy demisexual losers have anxiety

[fuckyeahasexual]

As a demiromantic, I really don't understand the notion "the friendzone is a trap you can't escape from" because if you weren't already my friend, chances are I'd never be interested in you in the first place. I can't view romantically some rando coming up to me to flirt, I don't know you I don't trust you & I'm frankly not that interested. I've hardly had any crushes in my life. But when I did it it was on friends I knew and already loved. (friendzone notion is already gross in itself anyway)

this ask covers this feeling so well I have nothing to add

[semi-demi-minigod]

Bro

[ddrvbiblgigb]

[garfield-baybee]

Reblog to have something good happen at 1:42 tomorrow

[semi-demi-minigod]

I kinda want it even if I might be asleep...

[semi-demi-minigod]

My best friend

My best friend, also known as the man I daydream about every hour on the hour. I love that man dearly and have for about 5 years of the 6 I've known him for. He does not love me the same but I am his best friend too. He is an amazing person who is kind and sweet. The kind of man who at his young age, 24, is already set on his path to success.

And sadly, his mother just passed away. The same mother he read aloud to not only after she had surgery and was bedridden, but nearly every weekend as a sort of ritual.

It was sudden and heart wrenching. I dont live near him but god help me I almost drove 8 hours to just give him a hug. I wept for him. The thought of him crying and upset broke my heart. I thought of the impact this will have on him and how much he loved his mom. I could hardly breathe to think of the pain he was feeling. I want nothing more to take that pain for him, to spare him of it all.

He is just getting started in his life. My god I wept. My sweet love... I want to be with him just to comfort him. I want to hold him close but god help me it scares me to think he would cry in front of me. I would hope he would be comfortable enough around me to but it would break me. I can't stand the thought of my calm angel teary eyed and hurting.

I am nearly an atheist but i prayed for his mom and I prayed for him. I miss him and I wamt to be with him even if just for support. Im supposed to move back into the same town he is in mid september and I swear I will do everything I can to help him.

I love him. I love him much more than I ever thought I could love someone. I've never even met his parents but I wept for this woman who left her son and family much too soon. I cried for the man who became a boy again at the passing of his mother.

I just felt I wanted to get that off my chest. I love him and I cannot bear to see him in pain. My angel. The most womderful man in the universe.

[semi-demi-minigod]

Lady at my new job is a demigoddess too! Super cool man

And she had only found out like a week before! Man that's such a coincidence

I wonder if maybe we're getting more traction and word of mouth makes me happy （˶′◡‵˶）

[dateademisexualpersonwho]

Date a demisexual is is heccin DISTRESSED CAUSE IS THIS A CRUSH!??!?!?!

Oh this is a mood. -mod Jay

[redbeardace]

Demisexual Flag (100 px)

[dateademisexualpersonwho]

What an awesome little gif! -mod Jay

[toomucherin]

Little Demi Things

In honor of pride month, and because I feel like people rarely talk about demisexuality, but it’s literally the only thing that has ever made sense about my sexuality ever… I present my list of little Demi things. Obviously everyone’s experiences are difference, and the grey scale is a spectrum just like everything else, but these have all been very true for me.

Looking back at pictures of your exes, who you genuinely were attracted to when you were dating them, and finding them anywhere from “meh” to actually repulsive to look at.

Joking around about something a guy said or did, and having a friend or coworker ask “yeah, but was he cute?” and actually having to stop and think about it. Usually you don’t even remember what they actually looked like, or couldn’t begin to decide if they were cute or not.

You look to gauge other people’s reactions when trying to decide if someone is cute.

Being confused by one of the few people who actually makes you feel a little weak at the knees whenever you’re around them, and then remembering that it’s not just that you like touching their bicep, but also they are one of the most genuine, kind and caring people you’ve ever met, which is why that fleeting physical attraction has hung around.

Having a romantic interest say they want to kiss you and you’re like… “eh, I could take it or leave it.”

Later, after you’ve shared your heart to them or vice versa, you can’t stop thinking about kissing them.

Your sexual fantasies never involve knowing who or what the other person looked like. (The exception is when you’re in an emotionally intimate relationship).

When you feel emotionally distant or disconnected, you feel completely removed from and unaffected by physical intimacy.

Alternatively, sometimes when someone has moved you so deeply emotionally, the only way you know how to or want to respond is with physical intimacy.

When you develop a crush, it’s not about how they look, but about how they make you feel, and the quality of their character. It’s hard to let go of a crush when they continue to be such a good person.

Crushes are not about physical or sexual attraction and desire, but about wanting to know and be closer to a person emotionally and share life with them.

The moment you realize something that is unattractive to you in their character, any crush you had dissolves.

Being or thinking about being physically intimate with someone who you don’t have an emotional connection with ranges from feeling like nothing to being profoundly uncomfortable or repulsive.

Sometimes physical intimacy can leave you completely unaffected, perhaps wondering when it will be over. Other times, with the same person, your whole body can feel like you’re on fire during physically intimate moments. You may realize it ebbs and flows with your mood or how emotionally close you’ve been recently.

Feeling incredibly anxious when someone asks you if you thought someone you just went on a first date with was cute. (How am I supposed to know that yet???)

Most of your friends have a physical type, but you’ve never related to that.

Later realizing you do have an emotional type.

You usually don’t develop intense crushes or attractions to a specific character on a TV show or in a movie, but you realize you do develop intense investment in pairings that you see deep emotional bonds between.

If you do have a crush on a fictional character, it’s because of who they are, what they’ve been through, how they act.

You’ve asked multiple friends to explain what instant sexual attraction feels like. You still don’t understand it.

Looking at porn ranges from being completely unaffected, curious in a “how does this even work?” way, or feeling repulsed. It does not turn you on.

Reading smut based on characters you have deep feelings about, romance novels, etc. however, makes you feel a LOT of things.

Thinking about sex abstractly can feel confusing or repulsive, but when in an intimate relationship, you find yourself desiring physical intimacy.

[dateademisexualpersonwho]

Date a demisexual person who loves puns

[dateademisexualpersonwho]

Date a demisexual person who still loves kids cartoons

[semi-demi-minigod]

Meeeee

[thetrillproject]

Hey. Please take a moment to read, this is really important.

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If we don’t enough sign ups, then we won’t get the funding to keep our app safe for our users. The organization that wants to fund us needs validation that there are enough people in need of our app.

We need the funding to hire moderators that will go through reported posts and keep our content safe for the LGBT+ and mental health community.

We have just started collecting sign ups, but not nearly enough to make our app a reality.

Please, sign up for our app. No matter your sexuality, gender, preference, race, or anything of that matter.

We really need your help to make this possible. You can sign up here. It only takes an email, no name is necessary.

This app’s existence is dependent on your support. If we can’t get enough sign ups, then we will won’t be able to release our app and will have to abandon our hopes for this safe space online.

[semi-demi-minigod]

This right here is a chart I made that shows why I was so confused by the friendzone for a long time when I was younger. As a demi, someone has to go through the friendzone to ever get to being attractive to us. For others (some not all mind you), there is a fork and the 2 rarely meet. 

It’s like we have a bouncer at the door that makes sure you went through the DMV (Demi mode of verification) and have the proper ID before you can get to the attraction section. Also that area has a very small capacity for people. Don’t test the fire marshal.

I did not understand why people were upset by the friendzone for so long!!

[semi-demi-minigod]

The lyrics to the song "Sabra Girl" are exactly what feel when I finally start to like someone and they tell me we can only be friends. (Minus the short time period of course)

Sabra girl

Lonely, the life that once I led

Strange, the paths on which we tread

Led me to you, unlikely but true

Sabra girl, clouding my view

Rainy the day, the first time we met

Deep was the talk, forever my debt

It didn't seem wrong to sing a sad song

Sabra girl, soon you'd be gone

Early the morning, and sad the goodbye

With a wave of your hand and a smile of your eye

So lately did meet, no sooner to part

Sabra girl, homeward must start

Rosy, the lines that you wrote with your hand

Reading between them, to misunderstand

I made the mistake you said not to make

Yes reading your letters, conviction did grow

I thought it a chance, I knew I must go

It's hard to believe I could be so naive

Sabra girl, flattered but deceived

Now you just told me that friendship is all

I'm forced to repair the breach in my wall

Illusions and dreams, as usual, it seems

Sabra girl, they've been my downfall

Lonely the life and dismal the view

Closed is the road that leads to you

Since better can't be, as friends we'll agree

Sabra girl, time will cure me

[being-demisexual]

the new ace meme is just rebloggging random things and adding “is this what sexual attraction is?” since none of us dumbos know the difference between wanting to be hold hands with someone and wanting to get freaky

[being-demisexual]

is this what sexual attraction is?

[fuckyeahasexual]

Would pay for Cas art of the butterfly meme

[asexualcas]

@fuckyeahasexual HOLD TIGHT I GOT YOU FRIEND

[asexualcas]

@fuckyeahasexual one cas art of the butterfly meme, free of charge 

[being-demisexual]

I’m dying at this because I’m imagining some Olde Timey ace girl just casually flicking her fan open when she’s getting hit on by potential suitors

[freezepride]