A Place For Demiromantics

A place to share my thoughts and opinions about demiromantic and demisexual related things. If anybody ever has a question about any of these things, just drop me a message. My ask box is always open for everybody!

[sawed-on-shotgun]

Im glad they made up romance for stories and music but can you imagine how scary it would be to deal with all that for real

[aro-culture-is]

Demiaro culture is developing feelings but only for someone you've known for a decade and they don't reciprocate and it suuuuucks

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[the-biornicles]

fun fact "a-spec people can still feel love even if it's different from what amatonormative society considers love" and "some people don't experience love at all and that's fine and doesn't make them any less human or worthy of respect" are two statements that can and do coexist

[mossy-aro]

it’s actually so baffling me to me that when loveless aros express not wanting their identities to be defined by love ppl will literally whip out the most specific n strange tangents on ‘love’ that you’ve ever heard under like EVERY one of these posts. theres always at least one person going ‘ok but have u ever seen a bee pollinate a flower. have u ever smiled at an old lady on the street. do u not relish the smell of fresh horse shit in the countryside’ like. sorry but appreciating the general world around me isn’t what i’d personally call love and frankly i don’t think it’s what most alloros would either!!! it’s interesting how y’all are suddenly so insistent on expanding the definition of love when and ONLY aros question and/or reject it 🤨

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is being a person who always thought that romance in media was exaggerated until you saw people around you talking about romance and then you realize they weren’t exaggerating and you just churn a bit in your mouth because its so cheesy

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[aromantic-journal]

If you act like romance- and sex-favorable or partnering aro/ace people are less aro/ace I am coming at you with a comically large mallet! Approaching relationships and intimacy and sexuality from an aspec perspective requires a lot of introspection and knowing what you really want!! Nobody is "more aromantic" or "more asexual" for being completely repulsed and nonpartnering!!!

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is seeing people crash out about their crushes and being kinda glad you don’t have to deal with that

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[collegiatearoace]

The most frustrating thing about being aroace right now to me is that I don’t get touched.

People touch their romantic and sexual partners a lot. Family members can have more physical contact without it being weird. But western society expects friends to touch during greetings and goodbyes and thats all thats guaranteed. In straight women circles they engage in more platonic touching (as ive observed)

But i need something here. Its more pronounced because I have moved away from my friends and family.

I truly feel like my soul is going to depart from my body sometimes (or maybe thats just me posting this too late at night) but what I wouldnt give to put my head on someones shoulder, to brush someones hair or they brush mine, to cuddle on a couch watching a movie

I dont know how to ask for that and i know no one within 6 hours of me I would be comfortable asking that from. I feel so awkward in my body. Theres a boundary of touch here that i dont have the words to cross with someone. How does one solicit a cuddle when theyve not cuddled before?

[gwnonthewire]

I am fucking begging for more repulsed aro/ace/aroace rep. No maybes, no gray areas, no queerplatonic, just disgust. Would rather jump off a cliff than have sex EVER. Rage-vomits when confessed to. Im tired

[b-e-b-b-l-e]

I hate you soulmates. I hate you love at first sight. I hate you true love's kiss. I hate you "loving makes you human". I hate you "love is the point". I hate you "finding your other half". I hate you relationship hierarchy. I hate you marriage as the highest form of love. I hate you platonic love as a substitute for romantic love. I hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you I hate

[deep-dark-sushi-filled-void]

@aromanticofficial

[aromanticofficial]

official aromantic post

[pigswithwings]

crushes dont exist they made those up for hanahaki disease

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is feeling absolute dread the closer we get to valentine's day

we're on the other side of it!

[ID: gif from Atlantis, "Alright, who's not dead? Sound off."]

[morally-earl-gray]

mfs be like "are you single or taken" and like technically im single but that implies that im availible, which i most definitely am not so yes im taken. im taken by me. you cant have me.

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is when olivia rodrigo said “i’m on the outside of the greatest indie joke” (in her song ballad of a homeschooled girl)

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[just-aro]

shipping as an aro sometimes feels like creative building with toys as a kid. like, it's not "the manual says these two pieces fit together like this". it's a lot more of, "i wonder if i put these pieces like this, and then do this, what will happen?"

[just-aro]

you know the metaphor/post/comic that used to go around aspec circles about attraction being like looking for... was it frogs? ducks? something at a pond? and the whole point was about how everyone kept insisting you'd find one and all?

i feel like growing up aro involved a decent amount of being told, "oh, no, you're having romantic attraction!" while experiencing literally any emotion under the sun, and thinking like, "i'm pretty sure this leaf isn't a frog..." types of thoughts. and also a good amount of, "and... you... want the frog? the frog is... somehow a major life goal? okay, um. what if i don't want a frog?" and getting long spiels about how great frogs are. like, great for you, but if you can't identify a frog and think they're extremely important, I am... so concerned about your frog situation.

[saveyourhelplessspite]

its like [puts down mug] its like aromanticism is the lens for everything else i experience, theres no sexual attraction without the presence of my aromanticism, even if the absence of romance shifts that to the left just a little bit, it warps and bends the way i interact with concepts of aestheticism and platoncism too, shifts the way i walk through this world, the greens and golds and blues and browns are a part of me as much as my very bones are, ya know, its an absence that wreaks havoc upon every other aspect of myself in the best, and sometimes worst, ways possible— but hey just call me aro, we dont gotta worry about all the intricacies of the way that the weight of it all is heavier some days more than others