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lifting and k-pop

[maijinki]

You did good Jonghyun Kim. You worked hard.

[cafeidols]

‘Kim Jonghyun, a star that shined brightly on stage for 10 years, now a star of the skies.’

우리 모두는 벌써 당신을 그리워 하고 있어요…

[nomoregrey]

if it feels like nothing helps

I am so so grateful to the kind and thoughtful people who have put together and circulated lists of resources and suggestions to help people work through their grief in the past day and a bit.  I can only hope that you or someone else extended the same degree of care and concern to yourself as you did to others.

However, many of us have found, or may find, ourselves temporarily in a place where these things don’t help.  If you’re too overwhelmed, if you’re too fixated on it, if you feel like you’re paralysed and can’t do anything to help yourself, please consider this. 

🌹 it’s okay.

🌹 you’re okay.

🌹 you won’t feel this way forever.  hang in there, let it run its course.

🌹 feeling this way is normal.  you’re not alone, even if it feels like everyone else you know is in a different place with their grieving.

🌹 understand what you’re feeling.  name it if you can.  tell yourself ‘i’m feeling ___ because ___.’  it may feel strange or unnatural to state it so simply, but it really can help.  (this is especially helpful if your thoughts turn panicky, dark, or incoherent.  it can help ground your thoughts.) 

🌹 if you can, tell someone else how you feel.  contact a friend, shawol, or member of another community you belong to.  you can explain as much or as little as you like.  you don’t have to carry a conversation afterwards if you’re not up to it.  the point of this is just so you can feel a little less isolated in your pain.  (btw, anyone can feel free to message me for this at any time.  it doesn’t matter if we’ve never talked / interacted before.) 

🌹 you’re not a burden for reaching out to others or venting.

🌹 try to be as compassionate and understanding with yourself as you would be with anyone else.

Things will feel better and be easier soon, I promise 💕

[bleshilegend]

please pray for his mother and sister none of our sadness and pain compares to a mother’s

[ksoosluv-deactivated20180223]

I’m seeing some worrying tags so I thought I’d leave y’all with this.

It’s okay to smile even if you’re mourning.

You’re not a bad person because you saw a video of Jonghyun being silly and you laughed. You’re not a bad person if a meme rolled through on your dash and you cracked a smirk. You’re not a bad person if you start jamming out to your favorite Shinee song.

You’re celebrating his memory in the loveliest way. We loved him. He made us laugh and smile. He wanted us to find happiness.

It is perfectly okay to smile.

[seoulliftingmate]

I don’t...know how to process this? It’s so painful and just so unreal. 

[pearl-aquas]

Death TW

There are pictures circulating on twitter of Key mourning. Do not seek these out. I encourage you get off twitter if you feel like that would be too much for you to even POSSIBLY see. If you do see anything report it and block the person(s) who have posted this. I shouldn’t have seen that. I don’t want anyone else to see it either.

[heartsnmagic]

[fyjjong]

(death tw) it has been confirmed that jonghyun’s funeral procession will begin on december 21st at 9am kst. onew, key, minho and taemin are listed as the chief mourners for the funeral hall service (along with his close relatives). they will be taking the traditional place of the biological / step-brother or father normally reserved for this position. please remember that shinee are also his brothers though so this is suiting, albeit tradition. (source)

[lovelysuggestions]

the stars would be so proud to know their atoms created someone like you.

[mystericmoon]

also if the members decide to disband and to stop performing as shinee let’s respect their decision no matter what, please.

[waitupgirlholdon]

Please remember to take care of yourself in the wake of Jonghyun’s passing.

Eat something, if only a bite, for Jonghyun. Drink something, if only a sip, for Jonghyun. Remember to take your medications and give yourself time to greive.

For Jonghyun.

He’d want you to take care of yourself.

[parkjizzmin]

i think the most important thing from jonghyun’s death is to not let all the positive progression he strived for be undermined. he started so many conversations about mental health awareness and gave a voice to those who didn’t have one. jonghyun was rooting for everyone, he wanted everyone to know it is possible to make it through and be strong. just because he lost the fight, it does not mean what he said wasnt true. don’t let everything he fought so hard for be for nothing

[mchashimi]

Now cracks a noble heart. Good night, sweet prince. And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest. 

[kobutoririsu]

😢😢😢😢

Apparently it was suicide. Oh baby, no. 😢😢😢

[peachyblackpink]

Nobody knows what these idols are going through in their lives.

We only see what they put out to the public, many idols could be suffering in silence, shouldn’t this be a lesson?

We don’t know hardly anything about these idols underneath the surface. Your words hurt them too.

As someone who is struggling with depressions, let me tell you something, you can’t tell the voices in your head go away, you can’t just ‘get over it’. Every day is a daily battle to stay alive, the tiniest thing can trigger the voices in your head telling you that you should kill yourself.

Jonghyun was so talented, an amazing performer, a great role model to many, he helped so many people without even releasing it. He supported the LGBTQ community, he fought for what he believed in.

At 9am this morning I was crying happy tears over a couple getting married and now since 12pm I have been crying over a death of a guy who helped me in my darkest of times.

For those saying “SM haven’t confirmed”. They are probably grieving too, they have lost a member of their family. His sister has confirmed it along with the police, that is all the confirmation you need. Let everybody grieve, respect their privacy.

Don’t expect Shinee to be doing variety’s or being active in the public at this time, they have lost their brother

Please, don’t struggle in silence, talk to someone, whether it be online or a friend or family member.

For anyone feeling suicidal or is extremely distressed by this situation my ask box and messages are open, I will reblog helplines for you all to contact if you need them.

Please, be kind, everyone you come across has a story and you may never what they have or are going through. It shouldn’t take a death to unite us, we should already me united as fandoms in giving our idols a place they can feel safe and loved.

Respect everyone grieving right now.

Rest In Peace Jonghyun, we will never forget you.

[timetohajima-deactivated2020072]

Don’t start your posts with “Oh I’m not a fan but-”

Doesn’t matter if you knew of him or not. Don’t make this about you. This is about a talented guy, a sweet and strong one that openly supported minorities, spoke up on behalf of people that have mental disorders, advocated for the LGBT community… All that while living in a society that keeps on ignoring said issues, treating them like they don’t exist. This is about a brave man that defended people that suffered from mental illnesses with his all, and as we can tell today it’s also because of how he knew what they were going through. Respect him, think about his good actions and how he did make a difference while he could. How he touched many lives. Understand that the routine idols are forced to endure have consequences. Stop ignoring that the industry is hurting these people, pay attention to what they’re really saying. Pay attention to how the companies are treating their artists. And please remind yourself that it honestly doesn’t matter if they’re constantly smiling - you don’t know how they’re truly feeling. Please, please take mental health seriously and take the time to be kind to others.