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transgender aroace butch (approximate) + plural
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She tries to hit on you by saying how much younger you must be based on when you were in high school but she fucks up the math really bad. Sips her whiskey on the rocks real smooth like but gags a little bc she really only drinks PBRs.
I don't know why this idea has such a grip on me. I could be on either end of this. Like hey babygirl wanna see my strap game, it's clumsy and frantic like I can't get it in you fast enough but my spatial reasoning kinda sucks so it takes me 3 tries to get harnessed up. And the response of, fucking yes for the love god I'm soaking through my panties please fucking hurry. Hold on it's inside out. No put your leg through this way
i didn't like the idea of free use for a long time, but i think it's because i was imagining it from a bottom's perspective. recently, i've been thinking a lot about what it would be like to be a free use top...
having my strap on all the time under my clothes for my partner to grind against whenever they want. pushing my hips down so i can't chase theirs, can't set the pace, just letting them use me like a toy, because i am one. forcibly being cockwarmed and threatened not to move while they use a vibrator to help themselves get off, only letting me feel their wetness soak my boxers. waking up to them soaking my thigh, nails biting into my arms as i whimper for more. having my face shoved between their legs whenever they want, because i'm lucky to even get a taste. bending themselves over the counter and telling me i'd better hit hard if i want to earn the privilege of fucking them. their breathy moans in my ear and hands slipping under my shirt whenever, and wherever, they want me.
Hello.... I have only ever had one partner w a vagina and we were pretty much only using toys. I have recently met someone who very much wants to be with me and has a vagina and I am concerned because my own clit is too painful to touch, so I'm not sure how to like. Bone. Or eat them out. Or do anything at all. If you have any advice please hel pme
hi anon!! you should read "girl sex 101" by alison moon, it's a fun read and has a lot of really specific advice on how to perform many kinds of sex acts on vulvas (AND penises, it's one of the most trans-inclusive sapphic sex resources out there). there's a whole chapter on oral!
i cant find my stupid copy at the moment so these are just some random thoughts i have. Disclaimer Everyone Is Different And Wants Different Things, These Won't Work For Everyone. these are just the things i think about when i go down on someone based on my experience & my past partners' preferences! you will do the best if you are attentive & responsive to your partner
in general, it can be helpful to think about what different body parts are good at doing and therefore what the most special pleasurable things about oral might be! strap is good for deep and/or thick penetration, fingers can move quickly with a lot of dexterity, but the primary features of mouth/tongue are (1) Wet (2) Soft (3) Fluid Movement. so lean into those! don't try to do the same things you do w your fingers or your dick. think Wet Soft Fluid Movement throughout
personally, i find oral to actually have less of a learning curve than using my fingers! it's hard to use your tongue so hard/fast that you hurt someone and it's easier to take it slower in general, which means more time to check in/read reactions/respond
don't be afraid to take your time getting there! it can be overwhelming to be In Front Of A Vulva suddenly so i like to take some time to explore. inner thighs are very fun to kiss and bite, and the labia minora are very fun to run the tip of your tongue up and down... i usually like to take a moment before i start really going at it to look up at the other person and ground myself (and maybe coax them into giving me some head scratches. Sue Me)
in porn you will see a lot of men tickling women's clits really fast with the tip of their tongue and no other part of their face is touching her. do not do this. it is meant to maximize visibility of the vulva for camera purposes. GET YOUR FACE IN THERE. stick your nose in the bush, anchor your bottom lip around the top of the vagina, and go to town
anecdotally people talk a lot about sucking on the clit but i think that's kind of the wrong way to go about it. you don't want to be pulling with a lot of force like when you're giving someone a hickey. my go-to baseline technique is: wide-ish mouth (stick 2 stacked fingers between your teeth, about that big) over the clit area, gentle suction, slow & firm strokes with the front part of the flat of your tongue
from there you can adjust so much! speed, pressure, suction, pointiness of tongue, position of your mouth. some people like tongue further down, around or inside their vagina. some people like a lot of paintbrushy languid lick-the-alphabet-on-their-clit technique and some people like a more consistent, firm pressure. some people just wanna grab your hair and grind on your mouth and don't want you to do anything! (that's always fun.)
some people like fingers/penetration involved, some don't. ask directly or (if it's someone you trust who would be ok w you doing this) put your fingertip up against their hole and make a little questioning noise and make eye contact with them. if they do want penetration, start w/ just one finger and go gentler than you usually would. focus on rubbing/pushing on their front wall (what some people call the g-spot but what i prefer to think of as the clitourethrovaginal complex - link goes to a sci-hub pdf of a fascinating article)
SPEAKING OF WHICH. eye contact and noises. extremely important. idk if i'm amazing at actually giving head but i know for a Fact i look amazing staring up from between someone's legs. make your best possessive caretaker dom eyes and/or desperate-to-please sub eyes, moan into their cunt, and see how long they can keep looking at you
people worry about not being able to breathe but i've never really had a problem with it, even if they're clenching super hard w their thighs (which is the dream). take a half-second break to move your lips enough to inhale and then exhale through your nose. the biggest problem i have is my tongue getting tired, in which case i usually switch to more of a making-out kind of movement that's more lip-heavy. this is also very fun
you sound like you're generally good at sex so you'll be fine! many transferrable skills. going slow, communicating, asking whether they'd like faster/slower or harder/softer or a different placement, etc will go a long way.
Can somebody force me into being a puppy? I’m too shy to ask for it, but I need someone to push me to my knees, pat my head and call me a good puppy. Put their hand on my head and encourage me to nuzzle their thigh, then slowly drag me closer to their dick when I’m all brainless and pliant. Soft whimpers coming from my mouth while I slowly start licking them over their pants without even realizing I’m doing it
i wanna be cuddled and babied and made to feel safe and small. i want check-ins and being asked, “how’s my little girl?” i want rules and to have to ask permission, and i want repercussions when i don’t do as i’m told. i want to be reminded that i’m not in charge.
making a sub top whine and beg for the opportunity to fuck you and cooing in his ear about what a good boy he's being and edging him while listening to the sounds of his desperate whimpers and moans mmmmph