TOUGH LOVE. SCOLDING RATHER.
How can you ask me "How to stop identifying with something?"
You STOP?
If you're driving to New York and realize halfway that you were supposed to go to New Jersey what do you do? You stop. Change destination. Why would you still go to New York if it's not what you want?
Again, why would you add Vanessa to the "I AM" if you want to be Lara?
You ask how to stop being Vanessa - the reason you can't stop is because it's ALL YOU THINK YOU ARE.
First stop thinking you're Vanessa.
You're driving a car. "I AM" is the car. You know how to drive it because you're already driving it by being Vanessa.
Vanessa is something you add to the "I AM" and not you.
To be "I AM" you have to refuse past and future because those are of the character, Vanessa is the one with a memory/personality/habits and not you.
You are, free of any label or concept (ie. space/time) you may choose to be conscious of.
You can't stop being Vanessa while being Vanessa? It's like you're asking me "well how do you stop being Ada", I was never Ada. I choose to express myself as Ada when I want but I AM NOT Ada. You are Vanessa and that's why you can't stop being her. All your "I AM" knows is Vanessa. Undo that. You're either your Self or your ego, you can't be your infinite being while desperately hanging onto Vanessa.
HOW TO STOPPP (the fact that the answer was already up but my asks are the same... are you sure you even want it?)
Disbelieve you were ever her. See what happens.
The body and the mind are only symptoms of ignorance, of misapprehension. Behave as if you were pure awareness, bodiless and mindless, spaceless and timeless, beyond 'where' and 'when' and 'how'. Dwell on it, think of it, learn to accept its reality. Don't oppose it and deny it all the time. Keep an open mind at least. Make your mind and body express the real which is ALL and beyond all. By doing you succeed. -Nisargadatta
But you don't want to stop, you want to "get things" in the world. You struggle to get and achieve things while projecting a world full of desires. You refuse to let Vanessa go, if you did you'd have your full realization right now. Keep being Vanessa until you get sick enough. I can't sell you your Self. All you're doing is for your Self. Vanessa hurts your real being with all its limitations. She is unnecessary. You don't need her. She needs you. You don't have to do anything to her. Just see that you are NOT her. DISREGARD. SEE YOUR SELF.
What are you without all the labels?
HOW TO STOPPP

















