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when you go from a bad situation into a better one you may collapse exhausted and unsure what to do and full of grief, you may need time to regain the ability to do things as yourself or motivated by anything other than terror, you may need time to process or mourn or fall apart in ways you could not before,

and people may use this as proof that the old situation was better for you, proof that you need to go back, and it is not proof that it was better for you or proof that you need to go back

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It’s so incredibly common to “fall apart” when you’re finally safe. You no longer need to stay so tightly coiled in on yourself, you can finally leave survival mode and process your trauma. You’re not holding yourself up by sheer terror anymore and suddenly the damage that terror has done to you becomes immediate and obvious.

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This is so important. Don’t go back. Things are already getting better, even if it doesn’t feel that way.

Memory is flawed.

As I was scrolling through pictures taken on my phone, I only see my bright smiles even through times that were so tough I had cried every night and had insomnia and was just so depressed I couldn’t do anything at all. Yet, these pictures showed no hint of immense anguish. Was my memory false where I couldn’t recall being so happy as depicted in my photos, or were the images merely snapshots of better times and never an accurate picture (pun intended) of the course of my emotional life?

The most eerie thing is... we see so many pictures of others through social media, with their bright smiles and thus assume they are leading wonderful lives, never knowing whatever troubles and pain they might be going through when the camera is not there to capture a shot. And then we compare ourselves, knowing our misery and feeling alone in our pain while others appear to have fun and what not.

This is an illusion that needs to be shattered.

Everyone has their ups and downs. No one could stay up forever. And no one would remain down forever.

So the next time you feel down and tears roll down uncontrollably... remember the truth. Don’t give in to the lies your brain might tell you, where you are unworthy of the happiness you see in the photos of others. Don’t believe that voice that claims you are the only one suffering. Don’t trust the notion that you will never be happy again.

It is easy to find happiness again. Take a silent stroll through the park. Have a good and filling meal. Have a chat with your friends. Play your favorite games. Take a shower. Recall the things you are grateful for.

When you feel down again, remember. You’ve can do it, you’ve got this!

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Scientists

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I didn’t know cheetahs meow I’ve always thought they roar my whole life has been a lie

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A hero in more ways than one

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I NEVER KNEW THAT

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Always always reblogging this if I see it on my dashboard

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by See Bang Now

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“I succeeded as a cartoonist with negligible art talent, some basic writing skills, an ordinary sense of humor and a bit of experience in the business world. The “Dilbert” comic is a combination of all four skills. The world has plenty of better artists, smarter writers, funnier humorists and more experienced business people. The rare part is that each of those modest skills is collected in one person. That’s how value is created.”

- Scott Adams, “How to Get a Real Education at College,” The Wall Street Journal, April 9, 2011

Maybe I was trying too hard. Now that my body has given me such strong signals, it’s time to shift my focus back to health and take good care of myself.

At the end of the day, it was still fear ruling my thought processes. Once I’ve made this observation, it is a matter of rationally questioning my internal compass where is it that I would like to end up at the end of the year, two years from now, or five years later.

Fear will never disappear, but you can learn to calm it and take back control.

I feel I have moved one step forward again.

What others say and perceive is their reality, and there is truth in it. However, there is no reason why you should inhibit the possibilities you have because of the judgement of others.

Look into your heart and soul. And you will be able to find the answers you seek.

It's been a long day of hard work, and I've managed to get loads of things done. Thanks so much for your help :)

We tend to take people close to you for granted. Even within the same household, we don't talk as much as we do now that we're living apart. I'm really grateful for your help, and I'm glad to see him growing up strong. His chuckles... every single thing he does... I feel proud of him even though he isn't my child. Ahh the odd ramblings of a proud aunt ^^

Facing a myriad of emotions.

Happiness... when you finally hold the physical form of something you worked hard on in your hands. Pride... for something you've worked on for the first time to turn out so nicely.

Yet... also sadness and self-reproach, for discovering the blatant flaw. To be fair, many people have seen it before and this error escaped the eyes of most. Nevertheless, I should have been more alert. Indeed, the role of QA is so so important.

Like you said, I enjoy the task of creation. Perhaps I had not been able to fulfil this need and calling for the longest time, my soul was dying and withering. This little exercise gave me the spark and vigor to go on. And I hope things will continue to go up from here.