shay.

I'm nobody. Who are you?

[catanacomics]

Our honest excuse. #catanacomics

[shaybenderdean]

Truth.

[catanacomics]

Hope you don’t mind my butt cause iiii hate clothes 🍑 #catanacomics

[shaybenderdean]

😂

[academicfeminist]

Things I never knew about depression until I finally had a doctor explain the disease to me

Depression can manifest as irrational anger.

My complete and total inability to keep anything clean or tidy for any amount of time is a symptom of my depression. I may never be able to do this. It’s important that I remember that and forgive myself when I clean something out (like my car) and it ends up trashed within a week.

Depression IS A DISABILITY. Requiring accommodations is okay.

Medications don’t make you better, they don’t cure your depression. They serve as an aid. Their purpose is to help you get to everyone else’s minimal level of functioning.

Depression can cycle through periods of inactivity. This doesn’t mean it’s gone away.

The reason I don’t feel like other people understand me is because … well … other people DON’T understand me. They can’t. They don’t have my disability.

Paranoia is par for the course.

Depression can and will interfere with your physical mobility. Forgive yourself when you can’t physically do something.

It’s entirely possible that I may never be able to live by myself. I can’t take care of myself. I need help to do it. And that’s okay.

[xianimoon]

As someone who suffers from depression and who experiences all these things as well I think this is important and needs to be reblogged. Depression is a very difficult thing, not only for people who suffer from it, but for everyone who knows a depressed person. My family doesn’t know how to deal with it, my friends try their very best to support me and I have tried to pretend I was fine until I was in ninth grade.

[avalugg]

Everything makes so much more sense

[helly-watermelonsmellinfellon]

Depression is a disease of the brain. The brain is an organ. When organs are not functioning properly, you are advised to see a doctor and get help. So why is it so hard to understand that the brain can suffer as well, and that we need help for it?

The brain controls the body. A sick brain means a sick body.

[thedevils-playmate]

…. Shit.

[yemme]

Don’t disregard it as just sadness.  Depression is life threatening.

[shaybenderdean]

Step daughter makes me cry every year. 💜

[shaybenderdean]

Graduation day. 💜 better late than never.

[onlytwitterpics]

[shaybenderdean]

No. Getting out of bed just made me feel like being back in bed.

[shaybenderdean]

Today, my cute gramma passed away. I've never had anyone close to me go, and today I learned that the sadness that hits and the heartbreak and shock... Makes me throw up. I've never felt so much sadness at once. It comes and goes in waves. It doesn't seem real. I just want to pick up the phone and hear her voice one more time. It's been about 7-8 years since this photo and it was the last time I got to see her in person. And that kills me. I've been planning for Arizona to be our next vacation/trip, but buying a house and wedding planning has taken over our budget. I wish it would have been a higher priority. I wish I would have called her more often. I wish we would have taken the detour through Arizona to see her before. But you know what? She is the most badass lady. She donated her body to science. So we won't get her back for about a month, but isn't that the coolest thing in the world? ...I still wish I could see her one more time. 💜

[shaybenderdean]

Date Someone Who Treats You Like Shit

You should date someone who treats you like complete shit. I’m serious. All of those articles and essays you’ve read about “the love you deserve” and finding someone who loves you at your worst?Forget them. Let go of the dreams of finding someone who loves surprising you with your favorite things and feels lucky to just sit next to you at brunch. Yup. Still serious. You should date someone who treats you terribly. Who treats you in a way that makes all of your friends wonder what the hell you’re thinking. Someone who treats you like shit. Find someone who never texts you back and always lets you initiate plans and never makes an effort. Find someone who belittles you and makes you question their feelings because they can never be bothered to take two seconds to tell you. Find someone who uses you and who makes you feel disposable and who can never seem to be there when you actually need them. Be with someone who doesn’t care about your needs, your wants, your ambitions, your thoughts. Find someone who never asks about your family and disappoints you repeatedly and never says they’re sorry. Find someone who doesn’t care about you. Find someone who treats you like shit. And then date them. Fall for them. Go blind to their behavior. Make excuses for them and justify why you’re the only one who gets them, who knows who they really are. Pretend like everything is fine and convince yourself it is. Convince yourself that you can change them, that you are the only person who understands them and why they are the way they are. Believe that if you stick around, they will change and they will love you even more for always being there when they weren’t the person you needed them to be. Love them in spite of everything, even when you know you probably shouldn’t. And then get your heartbroken. Be devastated by it, by them. Sit there, holding yourself together and wonder what you did wrong. Question everything. Wonder if you had just been something else, something more, if it would have been enough for them to change and love you back. Blame yourself for their issues, for their shortcomings. Blame yourself for why they treated you like shit. But then… You’ll pick yourself up. You’ll move on. You’ll wake up one morning and even though the memories of them and how they treated you will still be there, it won’t hurt anymore. You should date someone who treats you like shit. Because when you date someone who treats you like shit, you’ll realize how you ACTUALLY want to be treated. You’ll go from being the person who shrugs off bad behavior, who excuses things, who puts pressure on themselves to behave a certain way while letting others do whatever, and you’ll turn into someone stronger. You’ll be better, stronger, more self-aware. You’ll turn into someone who knows what they want, and more importantly, what they deserve. You should date someone who treats you like shit. Because once you do, you’ll never let someone ever treat you like anything less than amazing, ever again. by Kendra Syrdal

[100wordsneversaid]

[shaybenderdean]

New life and love

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[thegirlwhocrieswolf]

Love & Misadventure now available via Amazon or The Book Depositoryfor FREE worldwide shipping and major bookstores including Barnes & Noble, Kinokuniya, Fully Booked, National Book Store, Books Actually, MPH, Periplus, Waterstones, Borders, Indigo/Chapters + more.

[kushandwizdom]

[cosmicwizdom]

More?

[heijian]

[shaybenderdean]

Swayze.

[taehyunglesbian]

GERMAN SHEPHERDS ARE SUCH SCARY DOGS WOW

[letmestayawhile]

omfg crying

[kissthelipsbetweenmyhips-deacti]

OH MY GOD

[shaybenderdean]

Dancing dog!

[lora-mathis]

The rape joke is that you were eight. The rape joke is that at the time, you didn’t know people had sex to express love. The rape joke is that the only other person who’d seen you naked was your mom. The rape joke is that he called you ‘beautiful’ first. The rape joke is that he held your hands together and told you to ‘try harder’ when you struggled. The rape joke is that you believed him when he told you were overreacting. The rape joke is that your grandma called him a nice boy and asked him to stay for dinner. The rape joke is that he winked at you when you apologized to your parents for not coming downstairs the first time you were called. The rape joke is that his friends high-fived him for “getting some.” The rape joke is that you still don’t feel like you’ve regrown the pieces he stole. The rape joke is that he was conceived when his dad slapped himself into his snoring mother. The rape joke is that her friends told her she was lucky someone wanted her. The rape joke is that each year in the United States, 32,000 other women’s bellies ripen with life against their will. The rape joke is that he never learned to touch without scarring. The rape joke is that your classmate thinks ‘have you seen what asses look like in yoga pants?’ is an argument. The rape joke is your new boyfriend kissing you and telling you he ‘raped’ his math test. The rape joke is that ‘Why are girls so scared of rape? Y’all should feel pride that a guy risked his life in jail just to fuck you’ is a popular Tweet right now. The rape joke is that you wake up to the memory of him laughing, “now that wasn’t so bad, was it?” The rape joke is that it’s been twelve years and you still quiver when someone touches you. The rape joke is that he hasn’t stopped laughing. The rape joke is that you forgot how to.

The Rape Joke | Lora Mathis Inspired by this. (via soggypoetry)

oh my god

(via callingoutbigotry)

I can’t even begin to handle this. It’s too perfect.

(via thedollydamnllama)

Huge trigger warning.

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[shaybenderdean]

You dirty whore, you better eat that meat soaked in Daiquiri.

[emilyvstheworld-blog]

i really really like this

[shaybenderdean]

Love.