This experience was absolutely hands down one of the most touching ones yet. After a bit of a trek, we arrived in Bolgatanga. The village was very nice and some lovely children and women enthusiastically greeted us. We made our way to what I imagine was the center meeting place for the women. It was explained to us that these women all live together with their children because their parents did not have a son to carry on the family name. Because the parents were unable to conceive a male the fathers name is at risk. In order to continue the family name, the father sets aside one daughter to produce a son to continue the family name; this daughter is then visited by men in hopes of getting pregnant with a male child.
All the women in this village although very individual, have similar experiences and hardships, and therefore are able to all help one another and support each other; they are like one big family. Upon arrival we met with the head Mother who introduced the community and then we began learning how to weave baskets. I got up, began walking around to the women trying to show my interest in learning but they seemed hesitant. Finally I came upon Theresa; Theresa was standing with part of a basket in one hand, a cloth in the other, and simply observing the group. As a result of the language barrier it was a bit of a challenge to communicate, but I smiled and pointed to the basket and she set off teaching me. She actually spoke English well, although she said she was no good. She continued to encourage me as I went along with the basket, asking if I was tired and wanted her to take over. I learned that she has 2 children, Francesca who is 6 months old, and an older daughter who is about 5. We talked about our different interests, families, and lives. It was so inspiring to hear Theresa speak with such confidence and excitement about each topic we discussed. Regardless of all she has been through she refuses to let it get her down and that is truly inspiring.
As I continued to work on the basket, Theresa heard Francesca cry and quickly ran to her aid. So I sat alone and continued my basket with this incredible peace in my heart. As I sat there I heard the director of my program say we were going to give the supplies we brought to the community. I decided to listen as I continue working on the basket. All the sudden I heard a rumble of noise, excitement, yelling, chanting, and clapping. I looked up to see the most incredible site: the children of the community were all gathered around chanting “football, football, football,” referring to what Americans call soccer, and the women were dancing holding the footballs above their heads. Everyone in the community was gathered around, cheering, smiling, shouting, and dancing. It was extremely emotional for me to see these women who have been through so much never give up and get so excited over things that are so simply. I was moved to tears and just did not know what to do. I sat there with the half completed basket on my lap overwhelmed by emotions. Theresa, noticing my pause in work and tears on my cheek, comes over, grabs my hand, and escorts me to the circle to dance with her. It was honestly such a touching moment for me.
To be able to help these women who I am unable to even communicated with in words was amazing. I quickly learned that speaking is not the only way of communication. Our many gestures, smiles, and gifts meant a lot more to them than any words could have ever meant. I am truly grateful that I was able to meet each and every woman and child in this village and spend my afternoon with them. As much as they think we helped them, they helped me significantly more.