Far too many people expect transmascs to just fall in line with the idea that transition erases the impact of their past experiences. That man who grew up the eldest daughter expected to raise his siblings while his brothers got to play doesn’t have his life rewritten once he starts testosterone. That enby who got catcalled in the street at age 15 for wearing a low cut dress doesn’t have that fear erased by using they/he pronouns. The boys who grew up being told by their classmates, their families, society itself that they were never going to achieve as much as their male peers don’t have that message unwritten in their hearts as soon as they come out. And to say that their masculinity inherently makes them complicit in the same pain inflicted upon them their whole lives not only is cruel but also absolves the behavior of cis men as an aspect of their condition, rather than a learned bigotry that’s much easier to perpetuate when you’ve never been the target of it yourself.
