so this got brought to me this morning and i wanted to address a few things. long long long post (tw suicide, rape, some traumatic shit, peeps)
first of all - we know shit like the below isn't okay right? like it's not okay to tell people to kill themselves, it's not okay to say you're gonna kill whole groups of people. we know that? even if it's hyperbole?
yeah? okay cool - good. thanks guys and girls, inbetweeno's and neither-ino's. i appreciate you.
lets address another part of why i do what i do. look at their reblogs. look at their likes. and - on both of these - replies are completely disabled beyond - what i assume are mutual followers.
these posts are going nowhere fast. these posts, while shitty for saying people should be killed/ killing themselves - are absolutely not picking up any traction any time soon.
another thing i want to point out - since the replier that got me talking about this wants to talk about how trans women are vilified on this site
it's not all trans women. it's not even close to all. i'm not being vilified by anyone but the people who constantly want to post hate and get called out on it. my transfem followers (likely) aren't (love you all babes) - and do you know why that is? we don't say shit like we're going to rape and kill someone and their families. even hyperbolic, you have got to know that shit is fucked up.
i've talked about this before - but there's a few key reasons why this shit doesn't fly for me
approximately 81% of transgender adults experience thoughts of suicide in their lifetime and approximately 42% have attempted. i have personally experienced thoughts of suicide, and have attempted several times (im good now - so there's no need to worry about me doing something, nor should anyone thing that these dung flies could drive me to anything - just stating facts). every single trans person i've ever met in real life has thought of, or attempted suicide.
trans people experience a lot of reasons for suicidal ideation - with the number one reason tending to be external minority stress. on the topic of being bullied for their gender identity, 78% of transgender students reported suicide attempts as a consequence.
this includes violence, forms of discrimination and harassment, and rejections based on gender - which golly gee fucking wowie - it's almost like i've been talking about how the transfemmes i talk about reject their trans brothers, they talk down to the nonbinary folks and discount their gender journey, and they talk shit about any trans woman who stands against their ideology.
continuing this - lets talk about drug and alcohol use. this is some shit that gets people flat out killed from their own usage of it, or something that inherently ruins lives. i personally struggled with alcoholism for a long fucking time (i'm like 4 years sober now) , and that shit fucked my life up. fucked my brain up.
according to the american addiction center (sorry for my non-americans, however- i wouldn't doubt that the statistics aren't far off on your part of the world either) - we drink more, we do more drugs - and not just weed, hard drugs, and we smoke more - with about 30,000 lgbtq+ folks dying yearly from it.
a major contributing factor to why i as a trans woman do not subscribe to "transfem first" type ideologies and thinking -
transgender nonbinary people are far more likely to engage in excessive drinking (compared to trans women), and just as likely to engage in dangerous drug usage, both of which is even more than transgender men
and finally - i'm not young. i'm not ancient, but i'm not young. and i had a kid young. my kid is almost exactly half my age right now. i love my kid. my kid is a nonbinary trans person and i think about them every time i read the kind of hate that gets spewed here. i think about how i'd feel if you talked to my kid like this.
quick reminder - lot of these people you see on here? their parents couldn't give less than half a shit about them. lot of these peoples parents don't know they're trans, nonbinary, queer, gay, lesbian - whatever - and if they did - they either wouldn't be accepted, or they'd be downright disowned. my own mom can't accept me for who i am, and i haven't spoken to her beyond telling her not to talk to me in about a decade. i can't imagine treating my kid that way, and i can't sit here and let other peoples kids - old or young, be threatened with death, sexual and physical violence, or be pushed into suicidal ideation from bullying.
if you want to tell me i'm wrong or bullying people for calling people out for saying shit like "kill all tme's/tma's" "the bomb that kills ________" or "kys (in all of it's horrific forms)", for saying that they're going to kill or harm another person in another way - i'm gonna tell you to fuck yourself.
