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hey fellers (gender neutral), what are other ways to promote a GFM to help someone? Naturally, I am doing stuff on my side like reaching out to billing/finaid opportunities for my friend, but more is needed.

i dont do social media anymore lol... are there any other forums or places i can post? like a reddit or sth? y'all are smorter than me here so i am requesting some beautiful brains' recommendations

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hi everyone, i'm setting up this fund for my husband. it feels a bit silly, and even a lit… Denise Leal needs your support for Give Back Fre

Hey gang, one of my dearest friends has set up a gofundme for her husband's medical expenses. I care for them both so much, and it pains me to know yet another of my loved ones is dealing with the hardships of the US medical system. Please considering sharing it around, and donating if you can - we would all be deeply grateful!

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Please help out my friends, if you can. I love them dearly and want to see their request for help met with as much support and kindness as these two amazing human beings certainly deserve.

shnirp

reposting for visibility! a donation or a reblog are both valuable help

I’m tryna figure what it is gay and straight people DO exclusively like in one gender that they CANT like in another… like… what is it? It can’t be masculine or feminine because this is exist and also not gender entirely. What else is the difference to people?

nothing dog, this shit is simply a social construct (aka shit we as a people made up). these things only exist to create delineation, whether good or bad, amongst perceived groups. otherwise, its just all part of the spectrum of human experience and not specific to any group or identity. identity in itself is made up to suit our society, not the other way around

this probably old af and you're getting my ancient ass replying to this millennia later. bitte sehr! LOL

me back and unhinged as ever

ehlbee

hi everyone, i'm setting up this fund for my husband. it feels a bit silly, and even a lit… Denise Leal needs your support for Give Back Fre

Hey gang, one of my dearest friends has set up a gofundme for her husband's medical expenses. I care for them both so much, and it pains me to know yet another of my loved ones is dealing with the hardships of the US medical system. Please considering sharing it around, and donating if you can - we would all be deeply grateful!

shnirp

Please help out my friends, if you can. I love them dearly and want to see their request for help met with as much support and kindness as these two amazing human beings certainly deserve.

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War of the Foxes, Richard Siken

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“Moscou la Bleue” (c. 1920′s), by Leonid Brailowsky (1867-1937)

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“Being what you are looks like this: You enter every room as a calm, neutral observer. You are average. You don’t have an agenda. Your only job is to listen and observe and offer your support. Your only job is to watch and learn and allow room for yourself, even when you don’t say a word, even when you don’t look that good, even when you seem useless. There you are, giving yourself the right to be without running or hiding or dancing. That is grace. It matters.

Being still and silent and broken is its own kind of religion.

Doing this — existing around other people without proving yourself — works well because it feels good. It feels good when you’re not trying hard to win people over. It feels good to stand without adornment and know that you are enough. But it also works because good people respond to it. Trustworthy people will accept and embrace your listening and support and your silence. Untrustworthy people will think you’re a fucking weirdo, or believe that you’re not worthy enough because you’re not dancing or running or staying half-hidden and building suspense.

In contrast, it is exceptionally difficult to feel connected or close to other people when you’re sure that your value is conditional. You can spend decades in this state, and the more energy you put into keeping other people happy, the more convinced you become that no one is dependable and no one loves you for you. That doesn’t mean that you haven’t withstood abuse or tolerated selfish friends. But refusing to give yourself the right to simply exist is a way of preventing other people from simply existing. Everything is bartered or traded. No relationship is what it is: lopsided and weird and flawed and sweet. Every effort must be reciprocated with equal and opposite force (even if your emotional accounting is never shared with anyone) or you’re being ripped off or taken for granted. No one is allowed to be broken. You have to be better than you really are, and so does everyone else.

Once you develop an independent faith in your own value (this takes constant, repeated reminders to be compassionate and patient with yourself for the first time ever), then you can start to treat other people as valuable even when their value isn’t immediately apparent. You can enter the room as a broken person, sit with your brokenness without hiding it, and let it exist out in the open. You don’t have to share your own secrets straight out of the gate. You can ask people about the things that broke them, because you understand that being broken is interesting and includes a good story, or maybe 100 good stories. You listen to their stories not because you expect that then they’ll listen to yours, but because you’re making it your goal to take in reality, to connect, to get closer to the real world and the real people who live in it.”

Ask Polly: How Do I Start Over Now That I Know How Damaged I Am?

#i really try to be like this #i realized how important this was two years ago

its dat time for a new self portrait

#sketchbook #sketches #:) i shaved my head and i like it even if i loo k like a bean

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“Sometimes I see the real God, in a wide-hemmed butcher’s apron, wiping his hands and trembling. It’s your cut, he says. Fry it, eat it raw. I don’t care. My line is too long for these kinds of games. Look behind you. All of those people know what they want.”

— Mike Young, “None Of It Grace”