okay here is my update friends
going forward, i will be implementing new rules for my blog. this must be done for the sake of my mental health. if you feel these boundaries are unreasonable or that you can't respect them, please unfollow/block me.
when i remade my blog last year, i was intentionally very slow about following others back for the sake of curating my dash into a safe space (for me, as a trans guy). over time, my boundaries became lax and my dash snowballed into something actively harmful to my mental health. please know that this is nobody's fault but my own for betraying my boundaries. it is on me to manage my online experience.
surprise to none but yfs has worse gender dysphoria than initially believed. being in a very girl-centric space when i'm struggling feels unbearable at times. there are people that feel comfortable enough in their gender identity to engage with fem reader stuff and that is not yfs. i do not feel connected to womanhood or femininity in the slightest and when that's my entire dash, it does begin to feel isolating.
bad mental state + feeling isolated from the dash = bad feels for yfs
on top of this, it's not a new revelation that the dash (and fandom space as a whole) has been increasingly more hostile to trans people. even people who mean well accidentally perpetuate harmful behavior. this is tumblr and a lot of people on here want attention and to use this space for escapism and that's okay, but it can bring a sense of over-familiarity that crosses boundaries, or speaking over others on sensitive subjects.
n the meantime (and unrelated to the previous paragraph!), i unfollowed a few blogs at the beginning of my hiatus. my plan was to unfollow most blogs until my dash was very quiet, and slowly add people back to identify what kinds of posts hit a nerve. i promise i do not have bad blood with anyone. i do not have beef with anyone, and nobody was unfollowed for malicious reasons. tumblr unfortunately doesn't have a mute option, and some blogs don't use consistent tags so the only option is the extreme one.
again, i do not have bad blood with anyone. i do not have beef with anyone, and nobody was unfollowed for malicious reasons. if you notice the mutual was broken, please know as long as you are still okay with it, you can still consider us friends. this is not a personal judgment. some specific post tags will also be muted.
(** if you do not have a consistent tagging system for posts i will likely opt for unfollowing temporarily as i cannot filter things out individually)
it will still be a bit before i am back to engaging in a fandom space. i miss playing toys but in order to enact some of these new rules, changes have to be made and i have not had the schedule to focus on this yet.
thank you for being a friend. your understanding and sensitivity is appreciated. please know yfs is still yfs.
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