LYM @skinds55 - Tumblr Blog

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Not Fooled

I adore Tumblr. It’s a way to connect effortlessly with people who share a part of my life so few know about. I’ve been able to learn and explore things that would otherwise have been difficult to come across. But Tumblr has done it’s fair share of harm too. It’s easy to get lost in the glamorous images and sexy stories posted, and before long the grass looks a whole lot greener on the neighbor’s side of the fence.

It’s a constant effort to remind myself that these are snapshots of people’s lives, not complete images. And they’re photo-shopped, carefully chosen, edited ones at that. I have to be vigilant to be sure I’m not fooled into believing everything I see. I need to constantly remind myself that what I see isn’t necessarily a reflection of what exists.

Not every woman practicing BDSM is a size 0.

D/s couples disagree. Sometimes they fight.

The people in those pictures suffer from depression, PTSD, and anxiety.

Not every sub is female, and not every Dom is male.

Sometimes shit happens. (Quite literally, if you enjoy anal play.) Sometimes a position hurts, heads bang together, legs give out, or you end up roaring with laughter and not release.

Bondage doesn’t just happen. There’s preparation, and safety precautions, and chaffing. Those don’t show in pictures.

Not every sub can deepthroat a 9 inch cock.

For that matter not every man has a 9 inch cock. (Shocking, I know.)

People have bad days. Doms cry. Subs forget and act out.

Whether or not you enjoy anal, or humiliation, or bruising isn’t what defines you…on either side of the slash.

There’s nothing wrong with being a Top, or a bottom, and not wanting that dynamic to leave the bedroom.

And, on that note, Dominance and submission are not about kinky sex. You can fuck in the dark in the missionary position, or not at all for that matter, and still be in a power exchange relationship.

So I try to step back. I look at the photo of the woman, with the perfect hair and flat stomach, kneeling before a man with a pristine suit and a three thousand dollar watch on his wrist, and try to remind myself that the reality is better. The messy tearful days, the laughter over a queef at the wrong moment, the note left behind on a busy morning, and the run in a stocking on a soft chubby thigh… those things are perfect too.

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Applause!!

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Perfect…

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Thank you

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Absolutely perfect!!!!

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Prefect!!!!

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💜This!!

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My Vision Of Our Tumblr Replacement

I started on Tumblr soon after it was created with a vanilla blog. Since then, hardly a day has gone by that Tumblr wasn’t a part of my life. I have made excellent friends on Tumblr over the years. In fact, MOST of my friends came from relationships I made via Tumblr. The precious, bubbly cupcake that is in my bed? Tumblr. So you can imagine how painful Tumblr’s announcement has been for me.

I love seeing the marginalized communities that are shunned elsewhere on Planet Earth have a safe place to exist and be themselves. It always made me smile when I see a Tumblr blogger ease out of their shells, steadfastly into the world.

Well, that shit is no more.

As some of you may have noticed I started a community effort to rescue these communities. I want everyone involved because it will be our garden, our club, our safe space to be ourselves.

And the new site (name to be withheld until we have something to show) is not just for kinksters, I want vanillas too; artists, witches, horror writers, brewmeisters, budtenders, book sluts, fandoms of all types, beat poets, wilderness photographers, Burners, vampire hunters, Dungeons and Dragons players, and rocket scientists. Hell, I want people who just want to blog about cats and cabins in the woods.

What we won’t tolerate are bullies, minors, Nazis (and their fucked up allies), abusers or trolls. They can fuck right off to a cesspool of their choice.

I am putting up the cash to get this started PLUS I am making this a community effort, that is why I am being so transparent about the process with our Discord planning group. Yes, it is chaos. We have taken on an INSANE project to get done in less than 2 weeks. Well, 9 days now.

This isn’t my first rodeo. I am actively trying to keep my anonymity as long as I can, but I know it will soon be spugged out in due order soon. You will then see what I have done in the past and learn about a very vanilla project that has been near and dear to my heart. You have probably heard of it and maybe even participated!

The beta site will not be perfect. It will be good but not perfect. Hell, we have been suffering with “far from perfect” with Tumblr now for years. It is my hope that our community can put up with our rough edges for a little while.

Where we are tonight is pretty good. We have selected a host, got our software loaded, installed the Linux packages required and are now getting those packages to play nice with one another. We had it working for a bit until a small issue with the registration page required some elbow work.

I am working on the branding and marketing with a bunch of really smart pervs in our Discord group. I am really proud of all of our volunteers and want to thank them all.

If you want to volunteer or simply eat popcorn and watch the porn riots, please use this invite link: https://discord.gg/jVempgb

Remember, Discord is just the site we are using for planning, not the actual site we are moving to.

Many of you have asked about the Library For Kinksters, it will be archived and placed on the now site.

We plan to allow you to import your Tumblr blog over to our new site but Tumblr may have other ideas. Other services have been using Tumblr’s API for exporting and now Tumblr now seems to be shutting down that API functionality.

That is all for now. Keep your heads held high and remember you are ALL FUCKING AMAZING PEOPLE!

- Dominant Life

P.S. Please reblog the shit out of this. Santa may drop a slutty elf off at your house for Christmas!

P.P.S. Oh and pirates. I really want pirates on the site too!

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Check his blog for the latest!!! -Salty

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This sounds exciting! @youcancallmesir @strippedbareandkneeling @sirvadermaul @2quickstang @silkensawakening

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Dear Tumblr: Not Like This

#open supports and celebrates everyone’s right to explore and express themselves in their own way. We always appreciated the unique role tumblr played in providing a safe and open space for self-discovery and self-expression. Whether known to management or not, tumblr was home to countless communities of people finding a way to share themselves—their passions, their fantasies, their dreams, and their identities—forming a more robust and supportive community for everyone.

That community ends on December 17th.

By altering their Terms of Service to deem “adult” content no longer welcome, the most devoted and passionate spaces of tumblr will be gutted. All “adult” blogs, from erotic literary outlets to queer identity outlets and everything in between, will be forced to censor themselves or leave. While tumblr won’t delete your adult blog – allegedly – they will push it back into the closet, making it accessible only to you. No sharing allowed. No community. No social in this social media.

tumblr can change their business model if they want, and by changing their Terms of Service they believe that is all they’re doing. But their methods are egregious, abrupt, and devastating to a significant portion of the content creators and passionate members of this vibrant and diverse community.

tumblr isn’t giving people the necessary time to come up with plan B. Where are we going to go? How are we going to get years worth of archives there? To make matters worse, tumblr’s engine for exporting blogs seems to be choking on the volume of material people are trying to pack up.

One cheer for tumblr for providing a tool to let people gather their archives and export them. But only one.

Here’s what we think tumblr should do right now:

First

Extend the date for shutting down public access to “adult” content out until at least January 1st. Take a deep breath, guys. It’s okay. “Female presenting nipples” haven’t caused any major issues in the world for the last decade or so, and they aren’t going to cause any problems by the end of the month.

Second

They should publicly report, on a daily basis, how many blogs have already been exported, but even more important, how many have requested export but are in the queue for processing. Let the community know how the exodus is going.

Third

They should leave our blogs up and public until our exodus is complete. Shutting us down even as we’re trying to use their clunky export engine is needlessly disrespectful, dismissive, and insulting. It’s the latest form of shaming, brought to you by the fact that, as Larry Lessig says, code is law. It’s power doing what power does when it gets into a panic. tumblr, of all places, should be better than that.

Reblog if you’d like tumblr to take our advice.