hey tumblr! i’m slatebearer, mun name birdie, and i’m here to announce that i’m mcfuckin quitting! i apologize to any mobile users for the length of this post.
i’ve been a member of the tumblr rp community for, oh, about a decade now, and i gotta say i think i’ve been doing a pretty good job of staying in my lane. like most people who like to keep their sanity, i do not make passive aggressive posts or reblog drama, because i don’t want to see it, and my followers probably don’t either. in the past, i did keep track of who did what, for my own safety, which i’m sure is something you can all relate to.
however, a few years ago, i had a falling out with a friend that i’d known for a few years. since then, we’ve avoided each other and kept to ourselves. it came to my attention recently that this user has put my name on a block/dni list for... being abused and manipulated! y’know, victim blaming! facts were not checked. no one asked to see what the deal was there. i was simply stuck on a list with a number of other users. which breaks the tos. and also canadian law, as it so happens!
i’ve seen my fair share of hardship and abuse thanks to the people on this website. in fact, two out of three of my sexual abusers were muns here. understandably, when one disappeared and reappeared with diff name/same art style, i was shook when i figured out who it was. but i kept on trucking, because i genuinely enjoy interacting with mutuals and non-mutuals alike, and i enjoy developing my muses alongside yours.
regardless, i know that there are some people here who will take my being on that list as law, and make it their business to ensure that i am isolated from any and all social circles because i dared be under someone else’s thumb, interacting with them so that they wouldn’t guilt me. and if i change my name, or start anew, it’ll just repeat.
so, instead of attempting to fuel this user’s fire or provide ammunition for a callout post because i’m anti-callout culture (it is toxic and dragging people through the mud for crimes past when they’re attempting to repent or change as a person prevents growth but hey that’s anti-sjw), i’m simply... leaving.
passive aggressive posting and anons can’t touch me where i’m going. that’s probably the most relieving thing about this, too! i don’t have to stress about whether or not someone i used to hold very dear to my heart is finally going to get around to writing that callout post to have me run off-site, like so many others.
as much as tumblr has seen me grow as a person, it has also hurt me. it will continue to hurt me to see so dear a friend so bent on these things as long as i’m here. i’m keeping this blog and a single side blog intact, as i will need to pull ic information from them in the future, but consider this account dead.
this isn’t a callout post. no names were dropped, no “proof” provided. i am simply providing a very, very condensed rundown of a very small handful of events. i’m trying to be honest while withholding identity because i do not seek for others to come under fire or come to harm. i simply seek to lay out my account of events, and, perhaps, provide a warning to parties who are reading this at this time. tread carefully and lightly, viewer. tumblr has become an unwelcoming place.
additionally, to those who stood fast by my side, believed in me, and never hand waved my beliefs or experiences; - thank you. you’re the kind of person i wish to speak to for years to come, the kind of person i’d like to share many more experiences with.
to those who would damn me, demonize me for my decisions, spread rumors about myself and others, and seek to do them harm; - turn your outlook inward. you should consider doing some work on yourself. not everything has to be a fight, or a dirt flinging competition to see who comes out more injured. if you continue on this path, be aware that karma’s strides are longer than yours.
