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at its core, the sex industry is not women selling their bodies to men, it is men selling women (and childrenâs) bodies to other men
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Disappointment
Disappointment is all about expectations. Itâs the feeling that you get when your present doesnât match with the future you imagined in the past. If you are disappointed with a movie, you were led to believe the movie would be better than it was, no big deal. Movies disappoint us all the time. Â If you are disappointed in a relationship, you were imagining the other person to be something they are not. Thatâs harder to get your head around. If you are disappointed in yourself, you likely made a mistake.
If you make a mistake that hurts somebody, say sorry and make amends. If you make a mistake that hurts yourself, say sorry and make amends. When you experience disappointment, donât blame yourself, blame your expectations.
To reset your expectations, accept your life as it is now. Expect exactly what you have. Â Expect of yourself exactly what you do. If you want change, expect change. When change happens differently from how you imagine it, expect disappointment. Disappointment is a good reality check. Reality is a good disappointment check.
âTo understand the limitations of things, desire them.â
â Lao Tzu
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ÙÙ Ű۶۱۩ ۧÙŰșÙۧۚ In the Presence of Absence
âYou read something which you thought only happened to you, and you discover that it happened 100 years ago to Dostoyevsky. This is a very great liberation for the suffering, struggling person, who always thinks that he is alone. This is why art is important. Art would not be important if life were not important, and life is important.â
â James Baldwin, Conversations with James Baldwin (via 5139321966)
âThe heaviest burden: âWhat, if some day or night, a demon were to steal after you into your loneliest loneliness and say to you: âThis life, as you now live it and have lived it, you will have to live once more and innumerable times more; and there will be nothing new in it, but every pain and every joy and every thought and sigh⊠must return to youâall in the same succession and sequenceâeven this spider and this moonlight between the trees and even this moment and I myself. The eternal hourglass of existence is turned over again and againâand you with it, speck of dust!â Would you not throw yourself down and gnash your teeth and curse the demon who spoke thus? Or have you once experienced a tremendous moment when you would have answered him: âYou are a god, and never have I heard anything more divine!â If this thought were to gain possession of you, it would change you as you are, or perhaps crush you. The question in each and every thing, âdo you want this once more and innumerable times more?â would lie upon your actions as the greatest weight. Or how well disposed would you have to become to yourself and to life to crave nothing more fervently than this ultimate eternal confirmation and seal?â
â Friedrich Nietzsche, âThe Gay Scienceâ
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Zen Dating
The Zen approach to dating is to cut through all the games, to be your authentic self and to be present and compassionate toward whoever is with you.
The biggest game in dating is wanting something from another person and pretending we donât. We want all kinds of things from other people when we date them. We want love, acceptance, appreciation, understanding, confirmation, sex, commitment, money, security, healing, and on and on. We bring every want and need in our lives into our relationships. In a dating situation it is a brand new relationship and so we play the game of pretending that we are complete, have lots to offer and need nothing. Playing that game is already taking something from the other person as we rely on them to support the fantasies we project about ourselves.
To approach a date from a zen perspective you go into your date as an enlightened person. You canât just put your enlightenment on for a date like a sweater or scarf. That would be playing a game. You have to use that as your approach to life. You must approach life as a process of personal growth, learning to be who you are, where you are in all circumstances. Going out on a date, is a special opportunity to catch yourself at your normal habits, pretending to be things, and wanting things from other people.
Dating is a time of heightened judging and self-consciousness. When you find yourself being present and connecting with another person you judge positively, imagining a long life of happiness together, or getting what you want from them. When you are not connecting, you imagine you are wasting your time, that the person will not give you anything that you need or want. You sense that they may want something from you that you canât give.
Whether you are connecting or not connecting changes moment to moment and instead of connecting, you wonder if you are connecting or not. If you think the other person is great, you may start to worry that you are not enough. If you find them annoying, youâre not too worried about how good you are, and you may even find yourself being mean. As you wander away from the present moment, indulge your judgments, and forget your compassion you lose your enlightenment. You find yourself involved in a transaction rather than an interpersonal connection. You are swallowed up by your own game. Zen is remembering to come back to the present and be who you are where you are.
When a date is over, you continue working on yourself, your presence, your compassion and your enlightenment. When you notice yourself playing a game, recognize the game and respond compassionately. When you are deciding what to do, ask yourself, am I playing a game or am I engaged in real life? Ask yourself if you are being authentic or manipulative. If you are bashing yourself, be compassionate with yourself. If you are acting toward another person be compassionate with them.
As dating progresses and you become more intimate, more authentic, with another person, walls crumble, or stand firm. Illusions pop. Pretenses are exposed. You grow and change. You may get married, you may go separate ways. You continue to work on being present, compassionate and enlightened. That is a zen approach to dating.
âYou are too unique to be comparableâand how valid can anyoneâs judgement of you be if you are beyond compare?â
â Quiet Lotus
Learning To Love Again
The way to get over a broken heart is to find somebody new to love. The problem with finding somebody new to love when your heart is broken, is that you donât feel like loving when you are suffering.  You are still occupied with loving the person who broke your heart. When you experience such intense pain, the last thing you want to do is fall in love again. When your heart aches, itâs hard to imagine loving in a way that wonât lead right back to that pain. Even if you were to meet your soul mate while you are nursing a broken heart, you wouldnât recognize them because when you are feeling that bad, you donât know your own soul.
To find somebody new to love, you have to look into your own soul. You have to see who and what you are. You have to look with the eyes of pain, and see what hurts and why. There is no better time to look into your soul than when it is torn wide open. When it seems you have lost everything that you thought you had, everything that you thought you were, you can get a clear view of what you are. What you are is hurting. You are also compassionate. The compassionate side of you looks into the hurting side of you and wants to make it feel better. When you recognize your compassionate side, recognizing your hurting side, you begin to get to know your soul again. If you get a good glimpse of your soul, you will have found somebody new to love. Itâs not some random stranger sweeping you off your feet. It is your new self.
When the new person that you find to love is the new you, you donât have to worry about future heartbreaks. You wonât have to protect your heart from future love. If your soul mate walks into your life you will recognize them, because you have recognized your soul.
When you recognize your compassionate soul, you may recognize many soul mates. Whenever you see another person suffering, your compassionate soul will be able to see into that suffering and recognize a kindred spirit. All that compassion will mend your broken heart. When you practice loving yourself and others who are suffering, you learn to love again. When suddenly you find yourself in love again, with someone new, you know you are over your broken heart.
When you go through this process with awareness, your heart doesnât harden to become unbreakable in case it falls, it softens, so it can bounce. It lightens, so it can float.
Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves ⊠. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will gradually without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.
Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet