This one time I painted a living room with a girl.
This was a handful of years back. It was about eight months before the huge, flame-out of a breakup. That day, though? That day we painted the living room? It was pretty uneventful. We painted my parents living room for $50 between us and a pizza. That was it. I think we watched Anchorman or something after that.
But it still holds as on of the most indelible memories I have. Donât get me wrong, Iâm not still in love, it happened, it was good, it ended, and weâve both moved on. But Iâll never forget that day. Because itâs never, in the long run, about the grand gestures. You can fly across the world and show up on her doorstep with a rose in your teeth and a ring in a little velvet box but I can guarantee you that - more often than not - sheâs going to remember the time you built the birdhouse in the back yard, or what have you, a whole lot more.
Life wasnât meant to be taken in large movements. The next day will inevitably arrive, youâll sleep, and the moment will have passed. But when you have a hundred thousand small moments, you can step back and appreciate the picture a lot more than metaphorically blowing your load on some grand moment that, in all honesty, look, youâre not Bruce Fucking Springsteen, youâre not going to be able to blow everyoneâs mind every single night. Youâre not Romeo and/or Juliet. Thereâs no reason to drink the poison together in some flame-out gesture. So that leaves us with the small stuff. Itâs all about the detail.
Thatâs what love is. Attention to detail.
And the moment will end. And then things will get boring. And it might get a little quiet. And it might all end horribly. And you might hate eachother at the end. And you might walk away from eachother one day and never speak again. But thatâs just how it goes.
But sheâll remember the time you held the door open for her on your first date.
Sheâll remember the time you laughed at her impression of the landlady.
Sheâll remember the time you stayed up all night that first time.
Sheâll remember the small things a lot longer than the big ones.
But everything ends. And Iâll tell you why you have to make the small things, the small moments count so much more:
One day, probably a while longer from now, when old age takes ahold of someone, she might just only remember your smile. Everything you ever did together, every second, every moment, every beat, every morning spent in bed, every evening spent together on the sofa, all of that - gone. Everything you ever did will be reduced to the head of a pin. She wonât remember your name. Sheâll just remember your smile, and sheâll smile. She wonât know why. Itâs a base, gut reaction. But sheâll smile, uncontrollably, and it will come from somewhere so deep as to know that you touched her on a primal, honest, and true level that no scientist, scholar, or savant could ever begin to explain. There is no more. There is nothing else. There is just this: Sheâll remember your smile, and sheâll smile.
And you know what? Thatâs all that really matters in the end.
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