side blog

a place for us to put reminders to look back on

[snd-remember-positivity]

A side blog run by a system of alters.

We use this space to save reminders and generally "positive" things we have found helpful.

We're not great at consistently tagging here, unfortunately, so a blanket warning for mentions of triggering topics. In general, however, nothing overly explicit is posted.

This blog doesn't run on queue.

You can find us on our main blogs

@safety-net-did & @ghostgetsablog

The two blogs generally house different subsets of alters, and thus have different opinions.

Be kind, or get blocked.

[unwelcome-ozian]

[constellatedlove]

you aren’t the person you used to be. you’re always learning and growing from the mistakes you’ve made in the past, and regretting them is a sign that you’ve changed. having made mistakes doesn’t make you inherently bad or unloveable, what matters is being able to acknowledge when you stumble and then trying to grow from it.

[akindplace]

Dreamy_moons on Instagram

[none-gender-left-man]

Reminder

For people with OCD, Cluster B disorders and other ND conditions that cause intense guilt:

You are human. Hurting others is an inevitable part of the human condition. It's how you react to the harm you've done that defines you. You can grow, you're worth loving, you're worth knowing, you're worth supporting. Please don't condemn yourself for being imperfect in an age that demands perfection.

You are not a monster.

[sunsetsandhope]

Due to personal reasons I will be loving myself with my whole heart

[sunsetsandhope]

so glad so many people decided that they should love themselves as well, yes, you go best friends, you are stunning, gorgeous, amazing, cool and deserve to look in the mirror at yourself with love, not hate. Don't waste your precious time hating person you are, it's not worth it, you have so many better things to do

[inkskinned]

you deserve a more tender tomorrow.

[inkskinned]

yes, even you. reading this, agreeing without applying, hands in front of your eyes. i’ll pass this on, you think, but it doesn’t apply to me.

i know because i have spent the last 2 weeks trying to say out loud: “i deserve good things.” i only get to “i deserve g-” and then i break out into a cold sweat. who am i to deserve anything? there are people out there suffering. there are people out there who need good things to happen. i don’t deserve anything. i am just a person. a filament. if a good thing was supposed to happen to me, i hope it passes over and happens to someone more - deserving.

but just because you can endure the present does not mean it should be something so painful.

you deserve a tender tomorrow for the same reason you deserve water, food, or air. you deserve it for the effort of survival. you are surviving, aren’t you? doesn’t it take a toll from you, staying here?

goodness and kindness and tenderness should not be a commodity; to be doled out in quantities. you should not feel that life exists as supply-and-demand - your happiness does not come at the cost of someone else. it does not take from some gallon of global happiness. it does not promise that a stranger will have an equally-tragic reaction to tip the scales back into balance.

there is just you, deserving. you didn’t have to earn it. there is no calculation of time-enjoyed versus time-spent-suffering.

trust me. you (yes, even you) deserve peace.

[thotsfortherapy]

it's not "am I good enough to do it?", it's "do I like it enough to be bad at it?"

[spnfanficpond]

Because what you do at first will always be crap. But crap makes good compost.

[goldcoasthoney]

I’m no longer delaying happiness. My imperfect life is filled with moments that deserve my full attention, my complete dedication and my utmost gratitude.

[recoversuggestions]

you can have a fresh start anytime. you can start again every day. every hour if you need! you’re allowed to put the past behind you. 

[spooniestrong]

Remember: being in pain uses energy. There’s nothing wrong with taking a long nap or sleeping in late after being in pain all day. If you need to rest, do it; don't let anyone try to convince you otherwise.

Listen to your body and its needs.

[unspokensuggestion]

you’re allowed to take up space. you’re allowed to have fun. you’re allowed to live freely and deliciously. you’re allowed to live now.

[ladybugpdf-deactivated20250512]

sometimes i wish i could grab my childhood self and shake them by the shoulders and say YOU'RE GOOD. YOU'RE WORTH LOVING. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHOSE LIVES ARE MADE BETTER BECAUSE OF YOU. YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN. YOU ARE NOT DAMNED. SOMEDAY YOU WILL CRY OVER SUNSETS AND POETRY MORE THAN YOUR OWN PAIN. I NEED YOU TO REMEMBER THAT YOU'RE GOOD. YOU'RE WORTH LOVING. but i can't go back in time, so i say it to myself now. because i believe there's a future version of me looking back on this moment feeling the exact same way.

[wuntrum]

pioneering something called "gritted teeth optimism" where everything is gonna turn out okay even if i have to bite and claw and gnash my way through it

[ask-alan-one]

Whatever you're working on right now -- writing, code, art, whatever: don't try to make it perfect, or even good, on the first pass. Just make it exist first.

[aprilthebookqueen]

It’s okay to make things easier for yourself! Use the accommodations, eat easy food when your spoons are low, clean in unconventional ways! Take shortcuts when you need to. You don’t need to constantly push yourself to your limits. It is okay to make things easier on yourself. In fact, please make things easier for you when you can. You deserve that.

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]