Angry and Queer

[niggazinmoscow]

[healthforpositivebodies]

Please do not talk about a child’s weight in front of them, or tell them they need to go on a diet. 

Talking about weight in front of children is associated with mental and physical health risks, and both the American Academy of Pediatrics and the Canadian Pediatric Society recommend against all weight talk around children.

[theybby-deactivated20231001]

Me: “hey man what you did was sorta racist, and hurt me, here’s a full explanation why and here’s some resources to improve your knowledge “

A white: “I don’t agree.”

[daisto-deactivated20181027]

Because all of that is subjective. If your offense is subjective it doesn’t need special treatment. Plus what the person did was most likely not even a bit racist but you’re just an overly sensitive person who thinks everything is racist.

[theybby-deactivated20231001]

I’m an anthropologist specializing in orientalist racism

[toshio-the-starman]

Also, stepping in here, the moment someone says you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t. 

Maybe you didn’t mean to, so apologize and move on. But if it was your intention, then you’re just an asshole.

[neurodivergent-crow]

Don’t apologize and move on. Apologize and educate yourself and do BETTER.

But Yes:

“someone says you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t”

[antisolanum]

Can you even imagine if you just straight up stabbed someone in the arm and they were like “whoa hey you stabbed me what the fuck” and you were like “hey, sorry if you got offended, but you chose to get offended by that so… :/”

[stebens]

If you’re autistic and/or have ADHD like me, I recommend switching to ‘Simple English’ when reading lengthy and complex Wikipedia articles because it makes it so much easier to take in, comprehend, and understand

[stebens]

how to do:

On the sidebar on the left, there’s a list of languages listed in alphabetical order, so you have to scroll down a bit to find ‘Simple English’. But even if you can’t, you can just edit the URL from en.wikipedia.org to simple.wikipedia.org

Here’s an example of the difference between English wiki and Simple English wiki:

English:

Simple English:

[autisticawesomeness-archive-blog]

[Image 1: A lengthy article about Japan in difficult words, with long paragraphs and no pictures.

Image 2: The article about Japan, only now the text has been compressed into a mere two paragraphs and there are pictures visible on the right (the Japanese flag), as well as a table of contents.]

[ace-feminist]

Holy crap this is actually a life saver

[mikkeneko]

This is important and wonderful. Knowledge should be available to everyone. Not just people with the right brainware or educational background.

[millennial-review-deactivated20]

[profeminist]

Believe it, and use your privilege to DEAL WITH IT.

[furiousgoldfish]

Even if they say “they didn’t mean it”, they’re still responsible for what they did.

Even if they say “they don’t remember it”, they’re still responsible for what they did.

Even if they say “you’re delusional, I would never do that, you made it up”, they’re still responsible for what they did, and for trying to gaslight and invalidate your memories.

Even if they say “I didn’t do it, and even if I did, I would be right to do it”, they’re still guilty for what they did.

Even if they have excuses, they’re still responsible for what they did.

Even if they act like it would have been crazy to expect from them to act any different way, they’re still responsible for what they did to you.

Even if they come at you with an entire agenda of how you should perceive what they did so it actually “benefits you”, even if they insist they did it for your own good, they’re still responsible for what they did to you, and for lying about it.

Even if they cry about how much it pains them to be accused of hurting you, they’re still responsible for what they did to you.

Even if they cry about how much they love you and how they did it all out of love and never meant to hurt you, it’s still their responsibility for what they did to you.

Even if they act like what they did shouldn’t have hurt you and you’re the one responsible for taking damage, for being sensitive to being abused, it’s still their responsibility for what they did to you.

Even if they blame you for what they did to you, they’re still responsible for what they did.

Even if they insist someone else did it to them too, even if they insist they had it worse than you, even if they say it’s a cultural thing, they’re still responsible for what they did to you.

Even if it was long ago, and they act like you’re wrong for remembering such old wrong doing, it’s still something they did, and they’re still responsible for doing it.

They can lie and deny and accuse and blame and invalidate and gaslight. It doesn’t absolve them of responsibility for what they did. It doesn’t absolve them from guilt.

Nothing can absolve abusers from responsibility for their own actions. Nothing.

[noturgrrrl]

[noturgrrrl]

[miskeeena]

Praying that all queer Muslims have a safe, supportive space to pray and have iftar this Ramadan.

[sumikatt]

if you do not actively desire sex but still have sex that may be self-harm. i’ve done this. it sucks and in the long run will fuck you up when or if you actually desire sex.

[sumikatt]

having sex for the sole purpose of “pleasing a partner” is sex that may traumatize you. sex should be enjoyable and it shouldn’t place any burdens on you and if you don’t want sex then don’t force yourself to have sex

[yekkes]

The thing that I hate about atheism as a movement is that it doesn’t just want to critique the hegemony of Western Christianity, it wants to kill spirituality. There is no joy, there is nothing about it that isn’t founded in a pessimism that sees itself as so self-important that it cannot exist outside of destruction. The face of atheism is a white male disgruntled ex-Christian who decided that if he can’t find joy in religion, then nobody else can. There’s a leftover missionary sensibility to “enlighten” people to atheism that exposes itself as racist, antisemitic, and islamophobic, that’s ultimately not unlike the dominance exerted through colonial Christianity

[iladylittlefinger]

STOP ROMANTICIZING JEALOUSY

I was scrolling through my Instagram and i found one of those posts about love and relationships, saying what a true boyfriend must do. At first they were cute things like calling you just because they want to hear your voice, but then it said that a real boyfriend should get angry if his girlfriend talks to other guys. 

Like, if i had a boyfriend i wouldn´t be allowed to talk to my male friends and i would be supposed to think that is romantic and cute? Because it´s not. That´s bullshit. No one, male or female should be in a relationship like that. It´s toxic, and it´s really, really wrong.

I feel like this should be obvious, but a lot of people, and also young people still think jealousy it´s cute, and that if someone is jealous of you it´s because he/she loves you and cares about you. That´s one of the many things we still have to change about society.

[ithelpstodream]

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[actjustly-deactivated20181001]

Ramadan for non-Muslims: An etiquette guide

During Ramadan, when your Muslim friends are fasting, is there anything you should be doing? You can follow these tips

Read this & be mindful of those partaking in Ramadan. 

[somaperies]

I would rather everyone read and shared this instead of “remember to tag your food/nsfw/etc!” post that’s going around every year. (None of these things actually break your fast and if you’re fasting and worried about seeing them, you shouldn’t be on tumblr).

Being considerate and kind goes a long way, so I’d appreciate if this post went around instead.

[sangatsunolion-deactivated20171]

non muslims take note

[themaiajae]

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