posts for my future wife

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

don’t check up on them!! don’t keep tabs on them!! don’t look at their social media!! let them go like they let you go.

[sweatermuppet]

a very funny part of being in a polyam relationship is being able to show your partner(s) the insane messages you get on grindr

[oldwinesoul]

// Vladimir Nabokov Letter to his wife Véra 16th April 1939

[oldwinesoul]

[kosmogrl]

I never got over anything. I miss everyone and everything. nostalgia and grief kill me every day. oh and I also love going on walks.

[effemimaniac]

platonically shooting my friendshot hoping I don't get acquaintance-zoned

[dorkhellbside]

*kisses you directly on the lips* That doesn’t mean anything. *tries to walk away but my ankle rolls and i break it so now you have to put me down for ethical reasons*

[parasitoidism]

Pussy is out it’s old news. So is cock. We need to come up with something new

[sitting-on-me-bum]

Primrose moth.

(Photo: Ducks Unlimited Canada)

[bestiolin]

[limitedfucks]

we could be two gargoyles sitting on a roof together. do u ever think about that

[demonprincex]

Pussy got me remembering the accident

pussy got me not remembering my name my identity and the number 5

[lovertm]

pins by Abprallen

[ontologicalevil]

The trick is to be more curious than you're scared.

[charidot]

quick study of this 1988 doc martens ad

[noonwalkdiary]

the public library is for lovers

[thoradvice]

tips to get your life back on track after a breakdown™

sleep. your body needs to rest. the average panic attack takes as much energy as running a half-marathon. let yourself rest. take a 20 minute nap. any longer and you’ll hit your REM cycle, and you’ll wake up worse off. after, you’ll feel so much better.

clean something. literally anything. a plate, a drawer, the whole mf bathroom. it doesn’t matter how much or how little. it’ll make you feel more in control, and it’ll make your surroundings more appropriate for recovery.

get some fresh air. even just opening your window for a few hours will help. if you feel up to it, take a walk. take your dog. pick some flowers. cloudgaze. even just sit in your garden for a bit. your body will thrive off of non-stale air. 

eat and drink. I know for some people, myself included, this is Hard. it’s alright if all you can manage is a granola bar, or some cereal. anything is progress and will fuel your body. drink water if you can, but anything apart from alcohol will hydrate you.

take a shower. I have clinical depression. have done since I was 12. I know how hard it is to take a shower. but it fucking helps. if you don’t do anything else off this list, do this. it’ll help more than you know.

talk to someone. I can’t stress this enough. humans are social creatures! we crave interaction. even the most introverted introvert needs to talk to someone. call your mom. text a buddy. skype your brother. chat to your local cashier. anything !! you’ll feel less alone, and hopefully get some good serotontitty flowing.

do something fun! same as above, it’ll make u feel so much bette, and provide a distraction. some good options are writing, drawing, watching a movie, dancing - anything you enjoy!

be kind to yourself. it’s okay if you relapsed, or if you had a bad day, or anything else. treat yourself gently. you wouldn’t so harsh to a friend in your situation. it’s gonna be okay.

if you can’t do all of these, it’s okay. there are better days ahead. this, too, will pass.