Signs of a fantastic submissive/slave
They want to openly discuss things with you - They want to talk about things in and out of the BDSM lifestyle, they want to discuss limits, they want to discuss safety problems
They do their best to do what you ask of them - Life happens, but they still do their best to meet their Dom’s needs and wants as well as agreed upon “chores” that has been outlined before the relationship started
They actually help take care of you - A submissive/slave knows sometimes they need to “step up” and take on a more paternal/maternal type role with their Dom, in particular on days when their Dom isn’t feeling well (acute or chronic illness).
They aren’t afraid to use their safety system - They aren’t afraid to use safewords or use the traffic light system when in the middle of a scene, this is of vital importance to keep everyone safe
They are still self-sustaining in the “real world” - As much as some couples want to use a 24/7 TPE, the reality is, life happens. In incidents when this happens (work, family problems, medical issues, etc.), the subs/slaves are still able to function on their own without needing to “hold onto” their Dom for every action they do
They aren’t afraid to tell you “this is a bad idea” - error is human, everyone is bound to mess up on something (whether you’re a Dom, sub/slave, or switch). Subs/slaves aren’t afraid to say “Hey, stop this” or “Maybe we should learn more about this first” because they see some red flags in the situation that’s about to happen
They don’t resort to blackmail or threaten when upset - reasonable communication is absolutely vital for any type of relationship (vanilla or otherwise) to be successful and work. If “too far” things are said, apologies are given.
They know they still deserve basic human rights, regardless of their BDSM title - A sub/slave still has enough “common sense” to be aware that BDSM is just fantasy and because of that, still deserve to be treated with decency and respect
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