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wanna hang out [remembers it's rude to put expectations on people] it's cool if not [remembers people like to know they're wanted] but I'd really like it if you did [remembers selfishness is bad] we can do whatever you want though [remembers that handing someone a blank canvas isn't as effective as providing a suggestion to bounce ideas off of] like sucking each others fingers for example
It turns out that actually standing by "men and women are not inherently very different" is a reliable way to bother absolutely everyone. Left or right, cis or trans, feminist or misogynist, all cling to the binary for dear life.
From the replies on this post:
I hate matty Healy on principle but “I’m sorry if you’re living and you’re seventeen” is such a stupid lyric that I love deeply
Being seventeen sucks ass and I am sorry if you’re living and you’re seventeen (or any teen for that matter tbh)
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progesterone tracker is here.
oestrogen tracker is here.
testosterone tracker is here.
if you experience any disability or neurodivergency please fill out this form. it is equally important to me to have data that says progesterone doesn't affect autism or testosterone doesn't make you hard of hearing or whatever, as it is to document changes. so if you have any health condition. please fill it out. even if it to say "no change". i am begging you all.
and if you can't. please. please do reblog. i need this to be as big as humanly possible. it is the best way forwards to inform decisions.
[Image description: Text on a light purple background that reads "Are you disabled? Mad? Do you wish you knew how HRT would affect you? Me fucking too!!! This is why I have created the Trans and Disabled database! Based of self-reporting across the world. If you want to self-report or access the database, email me an [email protected]. For reports I need your HRT + condition + changes if any". /End ID]
Estrogen is linked to autoimmune issues (why they primarily affect cis women in the research) so I'm curious to see if that's reflected in this research
Credit to courtneyahndesign
So I don’t play the sims super often so I didn’t know that evil sims can do an “evil workout” which seems to just be a normal workout except sometimes they pause to laugh maniacally.
It’s a cartoonish absurdist parody of an American suburb that you can play god in
Autocannibalism has to be one of the most dramatic sounding symptoms I have like it’s sounds so scary but really it’s just “my ocd makes me eat my skin and nails and stuff” like it’s still gross but I’m not like hacking my own limbs off lolol
if you're really chill about a lot of stuff, you will eventually become The Person Who Can Be Told Things and unlock a secret extra layer of knowledge about your friends
Here’s the thing. Refusing to accept a compliment can be mildly insulting to the person you’re refusing the compliment from.
It’s like you don’t believe them or don’t respect their opinion basically.
I know, I also have self esteem so low that accepting a compliment feels physically painful but basically calling the person who’s complimenting you a liar doesn’t help anybody including yourself.
i don't like to yuck people's yum but i have to say that my least favorite thing to come from the current state of Artists on the Internet is the idea of a sketchbook as something nice and pretty and shareable. like i love me a notebook full of gorgeous art don't get me wrong but that is NOT what a sketchbook is. a sketchbook is my friend who i carry around everywhere like a purse chihuahua. it is the physical manifestation of my notes app. it is the container into which i wring my brain out. it is my therapist. and most of all it is filled with absolutely terrible sketches that should never see the light of day.
this post is making the rounds again and the amount of people saying that the pretty sketchbooks phenomenon ruined sketchbooks for them is HEARTBREAKING and i stand by my opinion that sketchbooks should be like a jar you put your OCs in. and then you shake them around in there. that's what they're for
Being prime minister of the uk has a higher regret rate than being trans
So the solution is to ban prime ministers
getting domestically abused by a homeless woman is actually low key hilarious
I miss when ads were a single click and then they’re gone. Now every ad has a minimum of three phases where you watch a video, exit the still frame of fake gameplay, and then exit the app download. That doesn’t even touch on the ones that forcibly take you to another app after opening a tab in safari without you ever touching the screen.
I hate advertising. I hate that you can’t do anything without companies jumping down your throat with mostly bullshit ads. I hate that billboards exist. I hate that every company unanimously decided to make their ads longer and longer. I hate that ad blockers try to charge you money and there are in app purchases to remove ads. I hate that my attention has become commodified. I hate that there’s nothing I can do about it.
I hope that, if you are a kinky leftist, you recognize that politics cannot be removed from kink. Recognize how (trans)misogyny, ableism, racism, anti-blackness, and the like intersect with kink. Recognize how your kink isn't isolated from your own implicit biases. Recognize how the lack of sex positivity in our society relates to how the system disenfranchises whole communities. Only in doing this, will kink become – and remain – a safe place for minorities.
( from @bubblegumgothglados )
Sure. This post was about a few different things, not one issue in particular, but they're all relative. (Also, this isn't an exhaustive post! There's many issues I wasn't able to, or I'm not equipped to, touch on.)
I included citations that I would recommend reading; I did my best to find ones that didn't require institutional log-ins. I can't promise I'll be the best at explaining - this is mostly just me dumping a bunch of info on you rather than an essay - but I hope this helps? :)
How do (trans)misogyny, racism, ableism, etc., intersect with kink?
Maybe bad phrasing on my part. What I meant here is: how do these beliefs, upheld by white supremacy for centuries, inform how you interact with your kink? We are all raised in a white supremacist society due to how pervasive it is; it shaped the world we were born into, and continues shaping it as we live.
From the simple: how do you define "woman"? Do you view penetration as the only form of sex? On your own blog, are the only bodies being celebrated in kink, white and abled?
To how you interact with your kink, being conscious of this is important. I'll use mine as an example: breeding + pregnancy. For ages, society deemed the purpose of women to get pregnant, give birth, rinse and repeat – it was inevitable. It is still considered inevitable and this ideal is attempted to be upheld by legislation meant to bar access to reproductive healthcare and gender-affirming care, and by the criminalization of abortions. It is how politics enact gendered violence. Any deviation from this (i.e, the existence of WOC, intersex, gay, and trans women, and the reclamation of our bodily autonomy) threatens this white supremacist standard.
Think of surrogacy, which is complicated by the exploitation of impoverished women, who are often women of color (1, 2). Think of the enslaved Black women, forced to suffer immense sexual violence, their reproductive health commodified by the slave-owners that sought to use their bodies to garner wealth; all the while, these same women were forced to care for the slave-owner's own white children (3, 4). Even the forceful sterilization of women of color and disabled women is a part of this; their reproductive autonomy is taken away to uphold white supremacy, one way or another. (Citation 3 is a link to an introduction to an issue; I would recommend reading the articles mentioned in this introduction for more in-depth information.)
Can you interact with breeding or pregnancy fetish content without being aware of how breeding and pregnancy (and even lactation, as in the case of wet nurses) have been used to abuse power? Of enacting control unto the powerless?
It's exactly what @spiderbitesandvampirevenom pointed out:
No, you can't. Not ethically. If you don't recognize how systems of power weaponized sexuality, then you're at risk of perpetuating these very same systems of power in kink circles. And if you're not conscious of this, you're at risk of inviting people who hold the belief that these systems of power are good and necessary, into the community. Thus, making them unsafe for the marginalized.
How does the lack of sex positivity and neutrality correlate with disenfranchisement of communities?
There's a few things here. In the US (+ the global west in general), sexuality is something that's confined to a small box. Even mainstream sexuality (think Playboy) is geared towards the cishet white man's standard.
That's basic knowledge, right? But it also relates to how our society navigates talks of reproductive rights and autonomy, of access to gender-affirming care and prophylactics, of sex education for adolescents and adults alike.
And it especially can be related to capitalism - which is an entire social order, and labeling it as "just" economics would be grossly incorrect.
A bourgeois white family will have no trouble getting birth control, or an abortion, for their own, while funding political groups and voting for legislation to criminalize reproductive healthcare... to criminalize institutions such as Planned Parenthood, which I'll use as an example, here.
PP, which makes birth control, prophylactics, abortions, and gender-affirming care affordable for the general public. What happens to the marginalized who can't fall back on wealth, when they're in need of an abortion, or HRT, or birth control, and the US still has privatized insurance and healthcare? All of these are life-saving care, but they divert from the traditional social order.
I've mentioned how sexuality has been weaponized by white supremacist institutions in my last point, but I want to bring that back around because of how pervasive and relevant it is. Bourgeois white sexuality is celebrated. It is dubbed as the norm. We are expected to uphold the norm. People of color are exploited by these systems of power, which includes using their sexuality as a means of persecuting them, anywhere from what I previously mentioned, to what @spiderbitesandvampirevenom mentioned.
How does kink, sex positivity, and sex neutrality intersect with this?
They allow us to discuss "taboo" topics. It opens the doors for us to educate ourselves AND others on sexuality. Sexuality is inherently neutral, as are genitals. Neither are perverse, or inherently evil, or inherently capable of enacting violence or exerting control.
Instead, the systems of power pathologize sexuality as something violent and dangerous, all the while ignoring how it has weaponized sexuality and reproductive autonomy to exert control over disenfranchised communities for centuries.
Being able to platform sex neutrality? To talk about our kinks and be protected for it by race, gender, and/or sexuality? It's a privilege we need to be conscious of. One we need to make the conscious effort to fight against.
(Even down to being on Tumblr, where trans fems and Black people are nuked just for criticizing the site, making vanilla horny posts, and being politically active. It's everywhere.)
I was once in a 3000 years long situationship
Reblog to save a duck
Quack quack
It’s getting to be that time of year where more people are going outside to parks and stuff so i thought it would a good idea to reblog this again
Once I was feeding some ducks from a bag of birdseed I brought with me, and this woman next to me looked so confused and asked what I was feeding them
When I said it was birdseed she just went “oh- can they actually eat that? Is that safe?”
I didnt know how to respond like, at all, so I just pointed at the duck and said “bird”
She then had a look on her face like a new groove was just forcibly carved in her brain and said softly “oh my fucking god”
