Help with being a character

Help with feelings you might see referred to as: Kin dysphoria Image dysphoria Identity dysphoria Fictive dysphoria Character dysphoria Transcharacter Dissocharacter Some of these terms, blogs I may reblog from, and tags I may use are associated with a side in discourse here or can be considered questionable to some. When I write posts here myself, I try to use the most inoffensive language I can. However, because resources for this experience are quite limited, I don't filter posts on any such basis. I also don't expect to be able to always keep up with the churn of Tumblr drama, positions, signaling, etc. I'd like to just focus on making support for these feelings available. This is a neutral help/resource blog, maybe occasionally about my fictionfolk experience, nothing that's very spicy or part of an argument. That said, I feel a kinship (no pun intended) to everyone in the atypical dysphoria community and I think all kinds deserve love and aid in at least some form. I sometimes describe my experience as "wishing to be a character." I'm sorry if that's uncomfortable to relate to for kins, IRLs, DAs, etc. for whom it's important to see themselves as currently being a character, but it doesn't work for me to write around it 100% of the time. It's how I identify and I haven't seen much in terms I really relate to. Please feel free to fill in "wanting to be a character *again/physically/in this life/whatever"* or "the writer of this blog wants to be a character, but I just am one"! It's my blog centered around my experience, but the doors are open to anyone for any reason. No DNI.

[soyouwanttobeacharacter-help]

Link to my long guide to being a character for people who like words

All asks are welcome, just in the longer term I may not be super active here. Don't assume I'm familiar with currently popular characters -- but perhaps you as a character would like to tell me a bit about your exploits and show me what you're about! Feel free to say hi and express yourself, or get something off your chest. Or ask me for

A normal-looking outfit that represents a character. This option is meant to come off as not being weird, but I do lean a bit "overdressed" using a lot of accessories for overdesigned characters. Specify masc/fem/not super feminine but can leave the man box/androgynous/etc. or otherwise I'll default to the character's gender. Also say if everything needs to be plus size, or XS.

A not-so-normal outfit you can buy, like fantasy clothes, cyberpunk/"techwear," steampunk, vampire, etc. Not an accurate-ish replica like a commercial costume, but more durable and not as extremely costumey. You could think of this as a different outfit the character might have in their source. Specify same as above.

Cosplay crafting help/strategy type of questions. Unlike a cosplay blog, you can let me know if you don't want links to tutorials with other cosplayers or something, or if you want an extreme level of realism or something that's more about the first-person experience, like the weight of a weapon.

I looove finding kin home decorating stuff that's practical, but it does tend to be more reliant on knowing the media/harder to research for! If you give some context/specifics/pictures I'll do my best!

General dysphoria relief tips, or if you can give some specifics it helps a lot! Like about what bothers you or what the character's life is like!

Suggest an Activity for a character - like a hobby or going out somewhere

Disclaimer 1: Some blogs I may reblog from, tags I may share my posts with, and terms that may come up in that process are associated with a side in discourse here or can be considered questionable to some. When I write original posts here, I try to use the most inoffensive language I can that still gets the point across. However, because resources for this experience are quite limited, I don't filter posts on any such basis. I also don't expect to be able to always keep up with the churn of Tumblr drama, positions, signaling, etc. I'd like to just focus on making support available for longings to be a character. This is a discourse-neutral help/resource blog, maybe occasionally about my fictionfolk experience, nothing that's very spicy or part of an argument. That said, I feel a kinship (no pun intended) to everyone in the atypical dysphoria community and I think all kinds deserve love and aid in at least some form.

Disclaimer 2: I sometimes describe my experience as "wishing to be a character." I'm sorry if that's uncomfortable to relate to for kins, IRLs, DAs, etc. for whom it's important to see themselves as currently being a character, but it doesn't work for me to write around it 100% of the time. It's how I identify and I haven't seen much in terms I really relate to. Please feel free to fill in "wanting to be a character *again/physically/in this life/whatever"* or "the writer of this blog wants to be a character, but I just am one"! It's my blog centered around my experience, but the doors are open to anyone for any reason. No DNI.

[sunshinesupport]

actually I’d like kin tips for a Balrog (Lord of the Rings) if possible as well please

-wear black and red

-brighter lights (?)

-cooking where you can feel heat when youre cooking

-working out

-candles

-stuff that looks like iron

-horns

-chains ig

-vampire teeth (like they are like foe ones)

-collecting rocks

-training ig

okay hope that helps

[sunshinesupport]

Any fashion tips for a Vox (from Hazbin Hotel) fictionkin like me?

blue and red

suit/collar

stripes

stripes

more red and blue

sorry if thats too girly

also add in some black ig

[kinsignment-shop]

yayy, new kinhelp blog, im so excited :D would you mind doing Ideas for incorporating my type into my daily life, hobbies/activities, and general tips and advice please? I'd love to read what you've got to say! sorry if that's too much!

Jill Valentine (Resident Evil)

I'm not familiar with resident evil, but I did my best! I hope I did you justice.

If you can, go to a shooting range and practice your marksmanship

Work out regularly

Take up lockpicking

Wear lots of blue and gray, and don't buy new clothes once they start to wear. Let them see a little life! Maybe take up mending as well.

Brush up on survival skills

Learn self-defense

Never stand for injustice

I hope you enjoy, and please come again!

[a0mu]

Slugcat food for hungry critters

Or, things that make me feel better when I'm species dysphoric, and may also help you. Sorted alphabetically and by diet, with prioritisation for more 'niche' concepts you may not have considered (e.g a carnivorous slugcat eating meat is.. obvious, y'know?).

I designed this to be as close as or reminiscent to wild meals as possible, you could say.

Carnivorous

Beef shredded - This is not what batflies would taste like. This is what my heart insists batflies would taste like.

Bugs - If you can afford them, crickets and mealworms are common options. Worms are also eaten in many cultures! Crunchy and meaty.

Jellyfish - Do your part for the ecosystem; these fellers are actually turning into a huge problem. Watery, bland, but as you'd expect salty. Commonly eaten with soy sauce, in soup or just as dried strips.

Sardines - cheap, incredibly filling, has that nice crunch from the edible bones. I eat these straight from the tin when there's nothing else to scratch that aquatic scug food instinct. Tuna is also great. Cod is a low mercury option.

Herbivorous

Blueberries - I buy these when they're reduced price and then cache them in my current shelter via fridge freezing. Unpredictable taste and texture is either a boon or a repellent depending on your preferences.

Blue cheese - just kind of fulfils the urge to eat mold, both slime mold and gooieducks. Commonly sharp and tangy, but many types. Experiment!

Basil and Chia seeds - Actually my mate's idea! When you hydrate them, they get a squishy outer membrane like bubblefruit has. I like to drink basil seed drinks, of which there are both dairy and fruit varieties. :)

Corn on the cob - Add whatever you think would make it delicious. I like soy sauce and garlic on mine.

Pomegranates - ..Like a pomegranate. Sweet and tart.

Seaweed - Salty, crunchy when dried and again very variable. I'm planning to harvest spiral wrack off the beach soon, a common species here which reminds me of glow weed and I'm told has an olive-like taste.

Feel free to reblog with additions, I am planning to make this an entire 'series' of resources and would appreciate more ideas to add to the posts; I'm aware the carnivorous section in particular is lacking, I am not a carnivorous slug outside my fish consumption so I don't have any experience to pull from.

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[soyouwanttobeacharacter-help]

Where in the world is ... the 'Cave of Melody'?

A mysterious cave with acoustics so legendary they inspired Mendelssohn. Can you guess where it is?

Real-life RPG locations

[soyouwanttobeacharacter-help]

(a bit nervous asking this on my normie blog but fuck it we ball)

Umm okay so I'm a transcharacter/IRL/fictive of the Snatcher from a hat in time and uh. I guess some general tips for like. presenting myself would be helpful

I dress very alt already and in all blacks/purples, I'm actively dying chunks of my hair purple on occasion, but I don't really have a way to buy things on my own so it has to be um. not suspicious? I guess?

(Also if you have any tips for how to get the confidence to act like source that would be great.... it's nerve-wracking!!!!)

(sorry this is so long oh my god my tumblr lags so bad when I type I hate my life)

Well, the glowing eyes are totally a thing, but I don't know how non-suspicious that would be, unless it's Halloween. Have a look at "cosplay eyes."

Tops and bottoms of the same color, a close fit, and cuts where, for example, pants end lower help create a longer silhouette. (Some people find this effect a bit of a confidence boost too.) I feel like the fashion style "ouji lolita" would be a good fit, if you don't already know it and it isn't too suspicious.

Maybe sleek hair + very fluffy scarf, even though it seems like the shape comes from his hair when he was a human? Going hard on the scarf being fluffy and everything else being streamlined would also give it an exaggerated look that could be a bit cartoony or larger-than-life.

I'm reading that he wears a mailman hat at some point, but I don't know if that's the aesthetic you're going for.

I'm not surprised this character takes a lot of confidence. There's the confidence to act different, the confidence to be over-the-top and charismatic, and the confidence to be, well, not very nice. I'm not saying you necessarily should do the last one, but maybe you can find a situation where someone deserves it or thinks it's fun to be messed with somewhat.

Either way, it's about getting to a place where the arbiter of approval/disapproval/good/bad isn't from the social world outside yourself. Like seeing how arbitrary or full of it a lot of judgments people make are and how that's something they will need to move away from in their own "character development." It can be specific individuals, and it can also be like a "social ghost." For example, there are lots of people on the internet making judgments by saying "tl;dr," but it's not a worry that could have come from anything about my blog.

I'm not condoning religious people being jerks either, but it can be a good example of how moving the "social ghost" internally and separating it from what people outside yourself think lets you say ruder things. It could just as well be a philosophy or a fictional character instead of Jesus, as long as you can truly believe in its rightness enough.

The longer life goes on, the more examples we see of how silly or misguided people's judgments can be. When you run your life on your own, that also gives you a deep confidence, but I know that may not be easy or soon. My teenage years felt long enough before even getting to the 21st-century person-with-issues extended adolescence.

I'd like to be a charismatic character myself, but I am autistic and often seem weird. It works better if you're willing to lean into the "comically abrasive" range and learn from "class clown" types who are comfortable with negative attention. After all, The Snatcher probably does get negative attention. It is hard for a lot of people, including me. If you can hang around with someone who gets even more not-totally-positive attention than you would, you'll have more space to experiment.

[soyouwanttobeacharacter-help]

Hihi! Do you have any anti-dysphoria tips for someone who is transcharacter Cross!Sans? Just general things is fine because I know what I'm really dysphoric about isn't exactly solvable, but I really wish I was animated in my creator's art style...

I would really like to, so I'm trying to research Cross!Sans, but I'm having trouble following what I'm reading. This seems to be a fan spinoff with several timelines and Undertale is already exactly the kind of thing I was concerned I would be too old to know. Don't ask me where my head is today LOL... uh... he's Cross!Sans because he's X!Sans because they're up to timeline X? This is gonna sound silly, but honestly, I've found just having more Roman numerals in my life lifts my mood, like from a clock. Like when 10:00 rolls around, it's Cross!Sans time, baby. And X!everybody, I guess.

(Hope referring to you in the third person by the pronouns I'm seeing on these wikis isn't too bad. I would use second person if it didn't make these sentences confusing.)

It looks to me like his hands would be a good fit for making gloves that look drawn because the details are drawn on, similar to ball-jointed doll tights. I would look for as matte a stretch fabric as you can.

Have you already thought about Photoshop-type filters that make an image look like a drawing? Or would that not be enough? They were definitely around pre-AI, if that's an issue.

Art style dysphoria and what helps with it is something I'd like to learn more about. I always wanted to be a character "come to life" myself, like the idea that if you traveled to their world it would look "live action"/like the one we're living in, so it's hard to learn about it from my own experience, but it seems like a rough experience that could really use some relief. There is home decor and accessories and stuff out there I would describe as "cartoony" or "stylized," but maybe not as actually looking hand-drawn, if that's what you mean.

[godtier-harlequin]

omg omg please do make a transcharacter tip thingy for john egbert

transcharacter tips for John Egbert

glasses! even if you dont need them, you can get blue light glasses on amazon for $12-$15. imo, the rectangle glasses shape fits john the best, but choose whatever shape you feel fits you the most. be aware that even regularly wearing blue light glasses can be damaging to your vision. you can always pop the lenses out if you dont want that to happen, but if you do want to eventually need a prescription, those can push you in the right direction.

short, black hair! the exact hairstyle depends on your hair type/what you're most comfortable with, but anything thats generally short w/ bangs works well. if you need some inspiration, browse the #john egbert tag and look at the more realistic fanart there. if your hair is already black, then great, you dont have to dye it. if it isnt, you can get black hair dye for about $20 at... really any store that sells hair supplies. tbh i'd reccomend going to a professional hair stylist to get it died, but ik that a lot of people dont have that kind of money/support.

dress like a "nerd"! wear graphic tees almost constantly, stock up on cargo shorts, etc. i'd also recommend wearing crew-length socks, as i feel like it adds to the look. also, here's a link to a place where you can buy johns shirt. i will say that ive had this shirt before and the fabric isnt the best quality, but its a relatively cheap solution if you cant make a slimer shirt yourself.

avoid peanuts! john has a peanut allergy, so it'd be best for you to avoid them as much as you can. most products include if they have any allergens near the list of ingredients, so you should get into the habit of checking that before you buy/eat anything.

watch old movies! and get really into them. most more popular old movies still have official merch being sold of them, target tends to have graphic tees in the adult mens section. posters can be more tricky, but you can print your own using blockposters.com. here are some movies i'd recommend you watch: - con air (1997) - FACE/OFF (1997) - starwars movies in the prequel and original trilogies - spaceballs (1987) (starwars parody movie) - ghostbusters (1984) - pixels (2016) (newer, but its absolutely a movie that john would watch. trust me) - little monsters (1989) - any other cheesy older movies! heres a list of every movie poster in johns room, to give you more ideas

get into magic! there are a bunch of " magician kits " you can buy, but if you cant afford any of those, theres a ton of free tutorials online on how to do basic magic tricks with things around your house. cards also tend to be pretty cheap and, again, theres a ton of tutorials online on how to do basic tricks with them.

learn how to play the piano! actual pianos can be very expensive, but pawn shops/thrift stores sometimes sell piano-keyboards that you can practice on. if you cant afford/dont have the support to get piano lessons, there's always lessons online.

good luck, john!

[theoptia]

Fernando Pessoa, from The Book of Disquiet

[my-dailydreams]

[fictkin-dot-com]

hello! May I get some kin tips for a Gregory fictionkin (fnaf), if so thank you!!

GREGORY (FNAF) KIN TIPS

Climb things if possible! Sit on furniture wrong! Like sitting on tables, climbing trees, sitting on the backs of couches.

Do pranks on people! Harmless pranks, of course, but mess with people!

Ragebait people.. Don't go TOO far, but again, mess with people!

Connect with other kins, specifically Glamrock Freddy and/or Cassie kins!

Hide places! Hide and seek!

Arcade games, especially classic ones.

Playing all types of 80s-90s based games!!

Hope this is what you meant! If not, send in another request, I will happily fulfill it!! (I have no knowledge of FNAF so I hope this is ok!)

[loumicrobes]

Probably the only one concerned by this but in case i'm not... (ALBW) Yuga fictionkin euphoria/self-care tips !

✦ Obviously cosplay/gears. Full cosplay as fuck but if you can afford it... Otherwise you might just get a nice, cheap pair of plastic elf ears. I have a few, including one I added chains and earrings to.

✦ ART. Not just painting but any kind of art, drawing, knitting, sculpting, music, DIY... and not only making it but also watching other people make art, talk about art, look at paintings and drawings and listen to the music you like.

✦ Nice old books with that nice old paper smell. If you like it.

✦ Makeup and jewelry. The louder the better.

✦ In a similar vein, press-on nails. Got some very long, sparkly, absolutely not practical ones recently and it made me very euphoric.

✦ Care for others. Kids especially. That might be a more specific me thing as I see Yuga as Hilda's caregiver but it's not canon.

✦ Tea. My favorite is Earl Grey but probably any tea would work. I think butterfly pea tea would be especially great but I can't find it where I live.

I think that's all ? If someone has other ideas *please* tell me !!!

[soyouwanttobeacharacter-help]

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[kabaks]

sometimes i think about gay people who lived centuries ago who thought they were all alone who imagined a world where they could live openly as themselves who met in secret spoke in code defied everything and everyone just to exist and i’m like..i gotta sit down. whew i gotta sit down

[l2g-deactivated20240513]

this is why this sappho fragment hits me so hard

[doomedvoyages]

[phantom-tail]

If this little book should see the light after its 100 years of entombment, I would like its readers to know that the author was a lover of her own sex and devoted the best years of her life in striving for the political equality and social and moral elevation of women.

“The Great Geysers of California” by Laura De Force Gordon, 1879, unearthed from a 100-year-old time capsule in San Francisco, 1979.

[levourdalak]

“Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all our letters could be published in the future in a more enlightened time. Then all the world could see how in love we are.”

Gordon Bowsher to Gilbert Bradley, 1940s

[coyotecrash]

@cafeyote

^ this document (not written by me) shows a tail attachment using medical tape/bandaids. I haven't tried it personally but it looks pretty solid :] might try it out soon.

[hollowsvoid]

Ways to express your nonhumanity

Please suggest anything if you want to add anything! I've tried to include a ton of different creatures and things, and I want to add as many as I can to this list!

Table of contents (in order): birds, mammals, herps, aquatic, insect/arachnid, divine, without solid form, plants, objects

First of all, let's get the well-known stuff out of the way:

Vocals

Quads

Masks, tails, wings, ears, paw gloves, collars, whatever other common gear items

Artistic expression (makeup, drawing, etc)

And now, for the more unique ideas (many ideas are repeated for different creatures):

Birds

Sing. join a singing group or take lessons

Wear long jackets that flow in a breeze

Find high places to sit

Build nests

Feather boas as decoration and part of outfits

Wear colorful clothes if applicable to species

Birds of prey

Apple bobbing (simulating hunting fish)

Flamingo

Practice standing on one foot

Drink lots of water (filter feeding)

Mammals

Sharpen long nails

Avoid shaving

Grow a mustache as whiskers (if possible)

Wear furry jackets, leg and arm warmers, furry anything. The world is your oyster.

Domestic

Eat "kibble" (cereal, snacks, chocolate chips, nuts, anything small)

Drink from a bowl

Attach yourself to your favorite human

Make or buy a big pet bed (make out of blankets and pillows or buy a big dog bed. Some of those are huge.)

Feline

Clean yourself with your toung in the shower (after washing the typical way. Don't want diseases)

Claim territory by rubbing your cheek on things/people you like

Sit on things like counters and tables

Sneak up on your friends like the predator you are

Practice being quiet with your movement

Take naps often

Sunbathe

Canine

Play fetch with yourself, another dog, or a human

Find your pack

Be loud, speak your mind

Know where your territory is, and know it well

Run around your territory often

Go to the dog park

Dig in the ground (perhaps take up gardening?)

Mountain dwellers

Take up rock climbing

Rodent

Burrow (use blankets)

Climb trees

Snack on nuts and berries

Marsupial

Overalls

Anything with big or many pockets

Hooved

High heels

Platform shoes

Steel toed boots

Bat

Wear capes or long coats

Hang upside down from your bed, trees, or anything you can safely do so

Elephant

Drink from straws (I suggest buying a metal straw if you do this frequently)

Herps

Eat insects or things that may remind of insects (like ants on a log, rasins, maybe coco puffs, and chocolate chips)

Reptiles

Sun bathe

Frogs, toads

Sit like a frog

Play leap frog

Jump often

Stick your tongue out often

Grab things like popcorn and other snacks with your tongue

Come out after or during rain and play in puddles

Axolotl

Wear pink

Fluff your hair if it's short enough to emulate your gills

Aquatic

Swim (duh)

Take baths if possible

Practice holding your breath

Drink lotsssss of water

Snorkel? For long times under water?

Go fishing

Go canoeing

Jelly fish

Big skirts

If glow in the dark, keep a lantern/flashlight with you

Deep sea

Weighted blankets

With a blowhole

Drink water and spit some into a sink

Same thing, but outside, you can spit it up into the air

Fill a straw with water and blow it out

Insect, arachnid

Second/third set of arms. cosplayers have a few tutorials on YouTube to make them

"Infest" places (works if you have a roommate, live w/ family, or if you hang out with friends often) and eat straight from the fridge

Cocoon yourself with blankets

Burrow into piles of blankets and pillows

Spider

Build a web from yarn, string, or perhaps stronger material if you want to actually use it

Take up weaving, knitting, and/or sewing

Take up rock climbing

Colony/hive insects (ants, bees, etc)

See: mammals, canine

Find your colony/hive

Define your territory (can be a single home or an entire neighborhood. Or larger! wherever you want it to be.)

Do service work for your colony/hive

Live with roommates

Firefly

Keep a lamp or a flash light with you wherever you go

Wear black with a pop of bright color

Worm (grouping them here even though they're neither arachnids nor insects)

See: aquatic

Come out after/during rain fall

Divine

See: birds

Star gaze

Take up singing

Devote yourself to a religion or start your own (never call it a cult, never join a cult.)

What is safe worship? by cherubicsleep (link)

Meditate often

Be kindly towards the humans and creatures around you

Wear light colors

Wear flowy clothing (dresses, loose-fitting jackets, large sleeves, bell bottoms, etc)

Unholy

-- please do these things without harming yourself or others

Speak your mind

Be brutally honest

Take up boxing

Take self-defence classes

Allow yourself to over-indulge (not too much to take a toll on your health, of course)

Put yourself first when it comes to health

Without solid form

Meditate frequently

Take a bath and sink into the water

Plants

Decorate your room or home with plants and fake vines

Take up gardening

Wear green

Sunbathe

Drink water often

Meditate (feel your roots in the ground and simply exist)

Trees and flowers

Wear hats and/or gloves (like your leaves or petals)

Wear brown or green pants and whatever color your petals or leaves are as a shirt

Hair dye

Objects

Meditation to emphasize your inanimate self. To simply exist.

Food

Allow or encourage a friend or partner to bite you (non-harmfully. Unless you're into that)

Light

Carry a flash light with you wherever you go

Wear bright colors

Dark

Wear dark clothes

Turn off the lights whenever you can

Furniture

Weighted blanket for feeling of having stuff on you

Hold lots of stuff in your pockets (cargo pants are great)

Machine

>Typing quirk similar to [codes]_

Cybergoth/cyberpunk clothing

Steampunk clothing

Carry spare parts and batteries with you everywhere! (Helpful bits and bobs like a pen, first aid, and snacks)

Think of your period as oil leaks (if applicable)

Think of sleeping and eating as recharging

Vehicle

Go on long car rides often

Go places with friends often

Travel via car