Tobuscus Rant:
I know that in light of everything being said about Tobuscus, no one really needs my thoughts on it but I have them and I felt like giving them to y'all anyway so ÂŻ\_(ă)_/ÂŻ buckle up friends Iâm about to rant about whatever the hell is happening on YouTube right now.
If you donât know whatâs going on in the world of the Internet this month, well-known and well beloved YouTuber Toby Turner, AKA, Tobuscus, has been accused of sexual assault and abuse by his ex-girlfriend and fellow YouTuber AprilEfff. Letâs dive into this situation with first, my thoughts on rape.
Itâs disgusting. In my opinion, rapists are the most vile of the criminal offenders and rape is absolutely, 100% evil. As a victim of sexual assault, I know how hard it is to come forward and say the truth and a lot of factors play into this. Fear of being judged, fear of not being believed, embarrassment, shame⊠The list goes on. If you are a victim of sexual assault, please, PLEASE tell someone. Report it as soon as possible! It isnât something that should go unpunished.
Now Iâm gonna jump onto the true topic here: Did Tobuscus sexually assault AprilEfff? My answer is as it is for pretty much everyone involved: I donât know. And this isnât because I donât believe April. I do. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt that she is honestly reporting abuse. In the same regard, I want to give Tobuscus the benefit of the doubt as well, just because thatâs the kind of person that I am. Innocent until proven guilty in both cases here. No one should be afraid of not being believed. Thatâs the heartbreaking part.
The other heartbreaking part however is that at the same time The Internet has this mob mentality that immediately when somebody is accused of something terrible, they are automatically guilty. We pitchfork mob and riot and rant about how terrible these people are and itâs none of our business. Thatâs the other unfortunate thing about the situation is that of course since it is a rape accusation people should be aware of it but to post it for the whole world to see rather than taking it to the law is only going to damage both parties publicly. She pretty much threw herself into the fire here which sucks because no matter what happens, there are always going to be people against her.
All of the ex-girlfriendâs stories add up. Toby Turner was a terrible boyfriend. He was addicted to drugs. He was addicted to sex and he was a serial cheater and he couldnât stay committed in any of his monogamous relationship because of his insecurities and because of his drug problem. Theyâve all said that they felt pressured into doing drugs and pressured into sexual situations but none of them have accused him of rape because all of them said no and he backed off immediately according to them.
This isnât to say that maybe this situation was different and maybe he was angry and maybe he did drug and rape her but the fact of the matter is, no one can know for sure besides him and her. Do the signs point to him being a terrible boyfriend? Absolutely. Does it point to him being a bad person? Most likely heâs not a good person to be in a relationship with, platonically or romantically. Do I think he raped AprilEfff?
I think they did drugs together. I think they had sex and I think itâs very probable and likely that she was pressured into it. I donât think that a person can consent to sex when they are on mind altering drugs. Sex has to be consensual. Nonconsensual sex is rape. Do I think it was malicious? No I donât think so. But that doesnât excuse the fact that she was uncomfortable and he probably took advantage of the fact that they were doing drugs together and that she wanted to please him because she was a huge fan of his rather than friend that he started dating.
The whole situation is so complicated so complex that there is no way for anybody to know for certain what happened. All I know is that if somebody comes forward with an accusation of rape they shouldnât be disregarded. That only furthers the victim blaming societal hole we as a people have fallen into.
I know that my thoughts probably donât mean a lot because Iâm not close to the situation in any regards but I have been thinking about it all day, itâs been bothering me all day and itâs probably gonna bother me for a very long time. I just felt like I needed to get all of my brain nuggets down somewhere.
Toby Turner is an extremely damaged human being. I feel sorry for him and I feel sorrier for the people that are in his life that he is affecting negatively because of his addictions. AprilEfff, I admire you for coming forward and standing up and saying your part of the story. I admire your bravery and your courage in a situation that is scary and potentially threatening to your career and to your personal life. I do hope that Toby finds the help that he needs for his addictions and his problems. I hope that April find justice for whatever wrongs were done to her.
The complexity is too much for me and for anyone yet to make a verdict and say Toby Turner is guilty or AprilEfff is lying. We as a group of people on the Internet should not be creating a mob scene for or against any of these people because we are blind to the situation as a whole. Justice will prevail for those who deserve it. I just hope that it does soon.
I think this is probably the best sum-up of these events Iâve read. Iâve largely been avoiding the story because I didnât want to get pulled into the mob mentality either way as I firmly believe it isnât the job of the internet to act as Judge, Jury and Executioner, but I had to reblog this because it probably summed up the most intelligent and balanced opinion on the matter that Iâve read.














