Forms of bigotry and microaggressions including homophobia, compulsory sexuality, puritanism, rape culture and ableism that is normalised towards and indirectly towards (non straight) alloaces in the aspec community that no one wants to address for some reason:
"You're not gay/lesbian/bi/pan you're actually a homoromantic/biromantic/panromantic asexual"
"Sex is real because it's an action/it's biological but romance isn't"/"Romance is just friendship because there's no sex"
Saying alloaces are just celibate, repressed or low libido allosexuals and not asexual because "pure" aces have no romantic attraction and are exclusively aroace or non-SAM ace.
Saying gay/pan/bi/lesbian alloaces specifically can't exist because you have to have sex with the same gender to really be those identities, but accept people can be straight without having sex + actually saying you can't be gay/bi/pan/lesbian and asexual because "homosexual/bisexual/pansexual has the word 'sex' in it"
"Bisexual/pansexual is like the opposite of asexual"/Equating bisexuality and pansexuality with promiscuity and erasing bi and pan asexuals
Saying romantic attraction and/or crushes are a form of mental illness and describing it as a delusion, hallucination, psychosis anxiety and/or attention seeking behaviour
Saying romantic attraction is a form of physical illness and comparing it to heart attacks, nausea or any physical disease.
Putting anti romance and romance negativity posts in the alloace tag
Tagging alloace posts as aroace or aromantic when OP isn't an oriented aroace/Assuming alloaces are oriented aroaces or just aroace
Telling alloaces that our posts about how we navigate romance are actually aromantic
"Alloaces are less oppressed/more privileged than aroallos because they have romantic attraction and/or are asexual"
"Alloaces are less oppressed/more oppressed than aroaces because they have romantic attraction"
Saying alloaces don't experience amatonormativity or benefit from amatonormativity despite the term being used for asexuals and aromantics as well as alloromantics who are polyamourous
Saying sex favourable and sex indifferent aces have to have sex with romantic partners just because we're not actively repulsed
Saying sex repulsed alloaces shouldn't take part in romance because relationships are inherently sexual
Victim blaming alloace rape/SA victims and survivors by saying they should have "compromised" "just date another asexual" or "that's just how allosexuals are"
Assuming alloaces who have no sexual attraction are demisexual or greysexual for having romantic attraction and dating people
Assuming alloaces are sex favourable for taking part in romance and claiming romance is inherently sexual
Assuming alloaces are not asexual because we have romantic attraction and saying romantic and sexual attraction are the same
Assuming alloaces are not asexual if we express aesthetic and sensual attraction and classing those as sexual attraction
Telling monogamous alloaces that they need to open their relationship if they don't want to have sex when they are not non monogamous
Telling non monogamous and polyamourous alloaces their relationships are just friendships because they dont have sex
Supporting and understanding aplatonic aroallos who may prioritise sexual relationships over friendship but calling aplatonic alloaces greedy and selfish for wanting to prioritise romantic partners over friendship
Saying aplatonic is a type of aromantic identity, subset of aromantic identity or has more to do with aromanticism than asexuality when it was coined by an alloace
Saying friendships and QPRs are inherently better or purer than romance because there's no physical activity and downplaying friendship and queerplatonic abuse
Saying romance and romantic attraction isn't real and is fake but expecting alloaces to still tag our romance posts whilst claiming our desires aren't real anyway
Assuming all alloaces are straight or attracted to the opposite gender
Assuming all alloaces are romance favourable, actively looking for romance all the time or are "romance obsessed" for simply being alloromantic
Assuming all alloaces benefit from sexual purity and erasing alloaces of colour especially Black people, lesbian, gay, bi, pan and trans alloaces who are sexualised/"alloaces don't get sexualised or seen as predatory like aroallos"
The list really shouldn't be this long.