āDo you want a little girl or a woman? Which one is sick?ā
So, par for the course, my rules have garnered the attention of folks who have made it their personal crusade to bash D/s and DD/lg. This is just fantastic, and I welcome them to come chat with me with my own mind and heart open, hoping theyāll do the same.
The title of this note is a comment that was placed on my rules that fascinated me. Iād like to take a little time to look at it, answer it, and expand upon the ideas that made somebody type it out.
First things first. I am both of the things in that question.
Why would it be sick for him to want the woman and little girl to whom he is committed for the rest of his life?
Ohā¦. oh waitā¦ okayā¦. next thing then, right? Perhaps you didnāt realize that somebody can be both at once? Thatās totally understandable, and a common misunderstanding. Let me explain how it works for you.
See, Iāve always been exactly who I am today. Iāve been a strong, competent, intelligent woman when it comes to academia or my career. I make hard decisions. I organize until Iām surrounded by sticky notes and task lists.
And in the middle of all of this, I pop out of my office to be a spunky little ball of immaturity and energy.
Amidst my exams and volunteering opportunities, I crawled into bed with some stuffed animals.
No matter how stressed out I became, I could stop and gasp delightedly at beautiful flowers.
This was all before I knew about any kind of Caregiver/Little community. (Though I can and will easily admit to having been involved in BD/sM through all of my adult life).
@1-sadistic-lover came into my life as a masochists dream of a booty call. A man who rejected the ideas presented by āDaddy Domsā, at whom he scoffed. He was a proper, serious, sadistic Dominant. Not some fluffy man engaged in something so close to the epidemic of fetishizing underage girls that runs rampant in our society.
SOMEhowā¦. intelligent woman and cold, calculating sadist, came to the realization that, even though Iām an incredibly driven, responsible, independent human beingā¦. I also happen to be a Little.
These things are not mutually exclusive.
These titles are used by legal adults to acknowledge and identify parts of themselves.
If you come across these dynamics and it is somehow displeasing to you, take your time to unfollow, block or through some other avenue remove the offensive material from your presence.
But donāt presume to know what it means, who those people are, or that something is inherently wrong with them living their lives in the way that brings them joy.
